To give the newly weds exactly what their invite requests?

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I've been invited to a wedding (family). They've requested people don't give cash or gifts, but put in a scratch card.

AIBU to just put a £5 scratch card in?

I'm really not sure. They've asked for it, after all. I usually give wedding couples £50 or £100 to close friends and family.

I'm not sure I'm comfortable putting £50 worth of scratch cards in... Says she who religiously plays the lottery twice a week

People saying donate to charity in their name instead are so wrong, the gift they asked for is a scratch card, odd? Yes, but they didn't ask for anything pricy, out of reach, and neither did they ask anyone to donate to charity either, it would be selfish to tell them you donated to charity instead, basically telling them they were not getting a gift. Imagine buying them a card, and it won say £1000, that's the chance they are willing to take.

Maybe you could make a scratch card bouquet like the sweet bouquets you can get! At least it will look more gifty!

But what if they win big

Then most normal people would be delighted for them, what a wonderful start to married life. You were never going to buy that card for yourself, so you would never have won it anyway. I really don't see the problem.

OP why are you thinking of weird winnless poundland cards? What a strange thing to suggest. If you really don't want to buy them a scratchcard like they have asked, then don't, but don't be mean about it You may aswell flipping scratch it first to confirm it isn't a winner before giving it to them......

Can you play the lottery with their birthday/house/meaningful numbers for the day of their wedding? might make it more personal :)

Maybe a scratch card plus a premium bond ? Still a gamble

You can't buy premium bonds for other people except children.

Oh I love Prosecco's idea!

It makes a lot of sense, and won’t go to waste. i’ve just dumped a ton of chocolates etc we got for christmas in the bin, a scratchcard is a great isea!

They obvs dont need things and dont want you to spend too much. You can get charity scratchcards I think.? Otherwise lottery gives to great causes so all good.
When I was having a bad time a while ago a friend sent me a lotto ticket.. didn't win but I loved her thinking that it could have :)

Snorkmaiden81

Why the derogatory post?
Their day, their choice.
How lovely to remove the stress of gifting from your wedding guests.
Even better to find a winner.

I love this idea - I'd have a great time going through them all (though knowing me luck I'd win £10 total!)

Go for it. It's what they asked for.

Strikes me the question really is, do you want to give them something that makes you feel good about giving it, or do you want to give them something that they want?

I’d get them £20 worth of normal scratch cards

Oh I think that is really sad. I wouldn’t spend much and then give them a charity gift card like Wateraid or Cafod. Cafod sends a gift card so it lets them know. Or pay for a Guide Dog for a year and they will receive Pup Dates. Or a voucher for a meal.

Why though? They asked for a specific gift. Seems like a good plan to me to stop lots of stress for people.

It's a nice idea

I would be hugely uncomfortable doing this. Someone bought me a scratch card for my 18th and I won £50 on it, and they literally made me buy them a drink, seeing as they'd made me money ..

So it depends how the givers feel about it, and how they would feel if it was a big winning card.

I buy the occasional scratch card, and I just know that I would be incredibly bitter if I scratched mine and it won nothing, yet I gave one winning 100k as a present.

It might feel like a cheap present, but you have to think about what might potentially happen if they win big, too. Things can get very complicated very quickly (unless of course you're 100% sure you wouldn't expect them to give you anything if they won thousands and thousands).

i’ve just dumped a ton of chocolates etc we got for christmas in the bin
Ok, off topic sorry but whhhhyyyy would you do that?! Fair enough you aren't going to eat them but what a waste - at least give them to a food bank or something for people who would love them instead of binning them!

Is it just me or are the reading comprehension levels on here reaching new lows?

LOL

Scratch cards - lol that’s awesome. Sounds like a wedding done right! Quite environmentally friendly as well - and at least they’ll use them! Get them some booze too as a bonus.

I gave a lottery ticket with cash as a gift at the last wedding I went too. B&G thought it was fun but win nothing! I really wouldn’t have been bothered if they’d won big, it was a gift.

I like the scratch card idea and would far prefer that to photo frames.

If that's what they asked for get them one each and have done with it! Do they have a gambling addiction 🤣

I wouldn’t just put a £5 one in. I would probs out x2 £10

Great and original idea

Saves the gift giving which is so totally unnecessary these days when everyone has so much already

I often give these in birthday cards and they always go down well

....it might me the most generous present you've ever given anyone!