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AIBU to want the larger room as a dressing room

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starrain · 05/01/2020 22:24

So we have just bought a new build house. It has 4 bedrooms, too are large doubles. And 2 are smaller bedrooms, mainly for single beds with wardrobes.

Me and DJ will share the master bedroom. And I wanted to put my 5 year old boy and 3 year old girl in their own small rooms.

Now the second double room was meant to be a guest room....in 7 years of living at my current house we have never had anyone sleepover, only kids but they would share beds.

So I want that room to have full length 4 double wardrobes and a corner for my dressing area. WITH the possibility of adding a bed in if ever needed. I am willing to share my wardrobes with hubby...eventhough we can get 2 doubles in the master anyway.

A lot of ppl have said to me to give the second double to 5 year old, but I just think it's too big a room for him and eventually he can have the room as a bed will fit even with the wardrobes fitted in. AIBU Should I just give him the room. My hubby actually said no and that I should have it as dressing if I like.

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stillhangingon · 05/01/2020 22:31

Would it not make more sense to use one of the smaller rooms as a dressing room? Surely a large double is a bit much for just a dressing room for you and possibly your husband? Especially since you can already fit two double wardrobes in your own bedroom. That way you wouldn't have to move the rooms around as children get older and in a way I think would save space?

Upso · 05/01/2020 22:33

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DeathStare · 05/01/2020 22:34

I think giving the second best room to your clothes rather than your children will speak volumes to them in years to come, whether you intend it to or not.

Of course an actual living person should have the better bedroom than the clothes.

Thehop · 05/01/2020 22:36

What? You’d rather have 2 big bedrooms than your children have the space??? Clothes and your make up are more important?

stillhangingon · 05/01/2020 22:37

You also said you had two large double rooms and two smaller singles, then said that two doubles would fit in the master anyway. So do you have the master bedroom and also want to use the other large double to store clothes? I'd definitely let your son have the larger room regardless of how young he is.

queenie6687 · 05/01/2020 22:37

Who on earth gives a large double room to their clothes over their kids etc

PersonaNonGarter · 05/01/2020 22:37

Your DC are still really small. This will change.

Take a smaller room as a dressing room.

Nacreous · 05/01/2020 22:37

If you need 4 double wardrobes for your clothes and another 2 for your husband's, I think I would be having a good think about whether I genuinely wore it all and cutting back. I can imagine it would be lovely to have a smaller room as a dressing room though.

NoSquirrels · 05/01/2020 22:38

I’d put the double bed in at the same time as the ‘dressing room’ wardrobes. It’s always useful to have a spare bed, and that way it doesn’t seem like you adults are taking all the big rooms.

I’d probably keep the DC in the smaller rooms because they’re relatively close in age and so whoever gets the small room would feel the inequality at some point!

Everytimeiseeher · 05/01/2020 22:38

You’ve bought a family home to stick you’re child in a smaller room when there’s a perfectly good size room for one of your dc? Why not compromise and have it playroom/dressing room that way they’ll have more space in their rooms with less toys as they’ll be in the play room? If you get good storage for the toys it’ll be v tidy in all the rooms.

Pipandmum · 05/01/2020 22:38

Have it as your room. My daughter swapped bedrooms with her brother as she prefers a small room where she feels cosy.
When your kids are older and if you are in the same house then you can revisit and see if your eldest needs more space.

NoSquirrels · 05/01/2020 22:40

Depends also on what downstairs play space you have - if no playroom or second reception then the DC will need more room upstairs.

BrokenWing · 05/01/2020 22:42

Give older ds the larger room, then dd the next largest, but put any large furniture or clothes storage from her room into the spare room to make her room seem bigger. Share the spare room with your clothes too.

Sydneyy · 05/01/2020 22:42

Absolutely not.

I would give your kids the two large rooms. Use one small room for you and your DH to sleep and the other for your clothes.

whistleinthewind · 05/01/2020 22:42

No the op is not shoving her kids in the small rooms for a big dressing room, she's questioning the best use of space. Does a 5 year old need a big double room? Under normal circumstances if this was going to be a spare bedroom most people would say no they don't.

Do your kids have space to play that's not their rooms? If not perhaps you need to consider the bigger space for that? I personally would take the smaller room for a dressing room as at some point you're going to have to move into one of them anyway and I'd rather not move and redo a room twice

DrKnickerbocker · 05/01/2020 22:43

You taking the second large bedroom as a 'dressing room' and leaving the kids in the small rooms is a selfish and short-sighted decision.

You have one large room already.
To take up another one with your clothes and makeup, a room which will be used for what? An hour a day?
Is ridiculous.

Take a small room for your 'dressing room' if you need one at all.

Frenchw1fe · 05/01/2020 22:44

Your 5 and 3 year old won't know or care yet so enjoy your large dressing room for a few years.just be ready to swap things round when they need / want more space.
For those pp's saying you should give your dc large rooms I was one of 6 and shared until I got married. I've never in my life had my own bedroom and I don't feel hard done by.

Witchofzog · 05/01/2020 22:44

A single room can easily make a good dressing room. Particularly if you and dh have the other double too. You are being really selfish

lborgia · 05/01/2020 22:44

Your eldest is 5. YANBU to make the most of your 4th room for the next 5-8 years....

Make sure you can both use it though, having a separate place to dress makes a huge difference to the other person's sleep!

Alsohuman · 05/01/2020 22:45

Wow.

Popc0rn · 05/01/2020 22:46

So you've got 6 double wardrobes worth of clothes?!

You need some Marie Kondo in your life! Grin

BillHadersNewWife · 05/01/2020 22:47

I think it's odd for you to take the largest as a dressing room. Your children will grow...they will need a larger room. I have to say that girls often have need of larger rooms than boys do in my experience.

But there would be nothing wrong with giving the larger to the boy...he can keep his bigger toys there and as he gets bigger (which happens very fast) he will need the space.

Do you have a lot of clothes or something? Why would you need a massive room for them?

Herpesfreesince03 · 05/01/2020 22:47

Are you for real? Talk about fucked up priorities

Butchyrestingface · 05/01/2020 22:47

YABU.

As for this bit

eventually he can have the room as a bed will fit even with the wardrobes fitted in.

Do you mean to continue to use that space for your stuff even after your son moves into the room?

Maybe 2020 should be the year you embrace the capsule wardrobe.

gamerchick · 05/01/2020 22:48

How much dressing up so you actually do where you need so many wardrobes? I can't wrap my head around putting kids in small rooms so you can have one to dress up in. Bigger rooms are invaluable to kids, they spend more time in them than we do as they grow. Have more crap that need to fit in.