AIBU to want the larger room as a dressing room

[starrain]

So we have just bought a new build house. It has 4 bedrooms, too are large doubles. And 2 are smaller bedrooms, mainly for single beds with wardrobes.

Me and DJ will share the master bedroom. And I wanted to put my 5 year old boy and 3 year old girl in their own small rooms.

Now the second double room was meant to be a guest room....in 7 years of living at my current house we have never had anyone sleepover, only kids but they would share beds.

So I want that room to have full length 4 double wardrobes and a corner for my dressing area. WITH the possibility of adding a bed in if ever needed. I am willing to share my wardrobes with hubby...eventhough we can get 2 doubles in the master anyway.

A lot of ppl have said to me to give the second double to 5 year old, but I just think it's too big a room for him and eventually he can have the room as a bed will fit even with the wardrobes fitted in. AIBU Should I just give him the room. My hubby actually said no and that I should have it as dressing if I like.

Maybe the 2nd bigger room could double as a study and/or guest room too. I personally think it would be better for the children to have a smaller room each to avoid jealousy and bad feeling when they're older when one has a big room and the other has a small one.

Re: the wardrobe space in the kids rooms, keeping ALL the clothes in the guest room is a good idea. As is getting a bed like this which has a wardrobe, a shelf and a desk with drawers all neatly in the footprint of a single bed. For the older child, obviously, before the frothers have a go at the unsuitability of a high sleeper for a toddler...

Incredibly selfish op, How much time would be spent in the wardrobe room? And if you don’t have that many clothes you don’t even need a giant room for the space either!

I sounds a good plan, your DC would have equal sized rooms so no arguing over who gets the big room.

We've rejigged our house. Bedroom 4 was an extension, but pretty much a large shell of a room which with a lot of work has now become a master bedroom and en-suite. Our previous master bedroom is now a spare room. It only really had the storage for DH's clothes, so mine were previously piled into bedroom 3, just about a bedroom rather than a box room. The DCs had shared bedroom 2 which was just about a double. DS2 keeps that, and DS1 has moved into bedroom 3, with a mid-rise sleeper to give some floor space.

Putting DS1 in the spare room would have left no space for guests (and it would actually be good to rediscover a social life as many of our friends have babysitting issues too). It would also have been unfair and a PITA that he gained a (manky, past its best) en-suite, and long term we can knock that through to improve the main bathroom to everyone's benefit. He's thrilled with his cosy room where he can snuggle away which should get him well into his teenage years.

As long as children have enough space and storage for their things (our toys are in a playroom), they don't require huge bedrooms, and I'd rather children had as fair as possible use of space as the other.

You pay the mortgage @starrain so do what you want. No need to come on the internet for validation.

Maybe your partner would like that room as a 'man cave' or would that be deemed as selfish by you, only thinking of himself.............

It's obviously upto you. Personally I think a dressing room (particularly a large one) is an incredible waste of a room.

That said, I'm a bloke and I'd be wondering whether it would be big enough for a pool table, dart board, home bar and a couple of arcade machines (maybe with a small bed in the corner for guests!)

I have the smallest bedroom as my study/dressing room. DD has the largest room because the shape of the middle-sized room best accommodates our bed. She has had a double bed with bed guards since she grew out of her cot, left over from when it was a spare room. We do have guests, depending on who and length/time of stay they either get an air mattress in my study, or we or DD give up our bed for them. Lots of people have told me it's ridiculous that DD has the biggest room, and a double bed, but it works for us, and you should do what works for you.

Who are all these people that think it’s so terrible that children have different sized rooms? I’ve lived all over the uk and the standard set up for the majority of families I personally know is a 3 bedroom house, 2 double rooms and 1 box, and on average 2 children. The oldest child gets the large room and the youngest the box room. It’s like, the law. The youngest gets to look forward to the eldest eventually moving out to upgrade to the big room. It’s a non issue.

Keeping both your children in box rooms so that on top of your ridiculous 4 double wardrobes in your own bedroom you can have another massive room for your is clothes is unbelievably selfish. And I can’t believe you’d put your currently non existent guests above your children too. You already have enough room for a family of 4’s clothes in your one bedroom already. Why turn your other big room into one for guests which you say you dont get instead of letting at least one of your children benefit from it

Maybe your partner would like that room as a 'man cave' or would that be deemed as selfish by you, only thinking of himself.............

Mine has 2 big sheds. by big i mean they fit a boat, caravan, tractor
the other is the tool, fishing shed.
I have 1 room, akin to the OP dressing room idea but for a merchandise collection

Who to say OP DH dont have a shed or 2
who said he isnt jumping at the idea cos the clothes will be out of their bedroom
Who said he dont want a dressing room too

like the idea of the kids having cosy rooms, less likely to make a mess too, theyr only small.

Had to laugh at this! Just you wait!! It doesn't take a child long to find out how to turn a bedroom into a shit pit!

Everyone has a "dressing room", it's just most others call it their bedroom.

Id give a larger room to each kid and use the 2 smaller ones as bedroom and dressing room.

less likely to make a mess too - not in my experience. Not enough space and storage means messier rooms.

If this was me, the children would have the bigger rooms, one of the smaller ones would have our bed (and possibly not a lot else depending on space) and the other small one would be wardrobe/storage/study. But neither dh nor I have that many clothes.

Am making a mental note to post 'master bedroom' on the next 'what words do you hate?' thread. Dreadful estate agent-speak that speaks to the snob in us.

Brilliant idea, OP, go for it. Children have their own rooms, which is great, and nope, they don't need huge bedrooms. You're NOT AT ALL unreasonable to prioritise yourself in this situation, considering that the children have their rooms and a downstairs playroom. No, they do not need to completely take over the house. NO, it will not scar them for life just because their mother wanted her own space in her home. DO IT! You'll love it.

I don’t see the problem.

With such a small age difference I think it’s unfair to give the eldest a much bigger room. They’ll have it for 13+ years while the other child will only get it for 2 if they’re lucky. Better to keep it equal with two smaller rooms.

It is my dream to have a walk in wardrobe but I would never make the kids have the smaller rooms so I could do it in one of the larger rooms

Id give a larger room to each kid and use the 2 smaller ones as bedroom and dressing room.

Oh wallywobbles, you are my kind of person. Exactly my idea.

The smaller the space, the more mess. And frankly give your dc the chance to enjoy themselves. Strict order is not everything.

It depends how many toys your children have, and how tolerant you are of them keeping them all over the place if there isn’t space in their bedroom...

Having been through that stage I think I’d put both children in bunks in a small room and make one double a playroom. I’d make the other small bedroom a dressing room. ...how can you need 6 wardrobes?! I thought I had a lot of clothes

You want to do it, your husband is happy for you to do, then you should do it.

You can always change the set up if and when needed.

Can't believe people are giving you biscuits! Ignore.

Crikey. Are you Elton John?

I'm with the OP. We are moving into a 4 bed, kids going in the singles and I am setting up the second double as a second room. For me. I shared all my life as a child. Pretty sure they will cope in a single!

To me it makes more sense for the DC to have the smaller rooms as it avoids arguments about who has the bigger room.

Keep the other big room as a den/spare room/study area with a comfy sofa bed and a desk, plus another wardrobe if needed. Then you've got somewhere quiet to read, study, craft, for children to practice musical instruments etc in future. If the DC have a playroom they don't need huge bedrooms.