AIBU to want the larger room as a dressing room

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So we have just bought a new build house. It has 4 bedrooms, too are large doubles. And 2 are smaller bedrooms, mainly for single beds with wardrobes.

Me and DJ will share the master bedroom. And I wanted to put my 5 year old boy and 3 year old girl in their own small rooms.

Now the second double room was meant to be a guest room....in 7 years of living at my current house we have never had anyone sleepover, only kids but they would share beds.

So I want that room to have full length 4 double wardrobes and a corner for my dressing area. WITH the possibility of adding a bed in if ever needed. I am willing to share my wardrobes with hubby...eventhough we can get 2 doubles in the master anyway.

A lot of ppl have said to me to give the second double to 5 year old, but I just think it's too big a room for him and eventually he can have the room as a bed will fit even with the wardrobes fitted in. AIBU Should I just give him the room. My hubby actually said no and that I should have it as dressing if I like.

It's obviously upto you. Personally I think a dressing room (particularly a large one) is an incredible waste of a room.

Ha ha - poor DH doesn't get a say!

What does dj think of it?

How many clothes do you have? Do you really need a “dressing area?”
Going forward as a family you’d be better off having a smaller bedroom as your bedroom and then have the other smaller room as your “dressing room” that way you’ll still have a large bedroom and then your children can grow into their rooms which they’ll need for many years to come.

Can’t believe tomorrow morning I’ll have to get dressed in the corner of my bedroom, and then sit on my bed to do my hair and make up instead of in my dressing room and my bedroom inbuilt sitting area...

The youngest gets to look forward to the eldest eventually moving out to upgrade to the big room. It’s a non issue. They spend 15 years seeing their elder sibling in a huge room, then get to enjoy the large room for 3 years before they too are off to uni ... by which time the elder sibling has boomeranged back home, and parents are suggesting to them that they have their old room back "because they're here all the time and you're only here in the vacations".

To be fair, if the two small rooms are next to each other, I'd be considering an interconnecting door to have that as an extended master suite of bedroom and dressing room.

Our master bedroom isn't huge - same size as our guest room - and since we have no kids yet, we use the guest room storage for our clothes and dressing in the morning.

I did the same when I had a 2 bed to myself (oop north where it cost me a pittance) - I am perfectly happy with just a bed and a bookshelf in a bedroom as long as clothes mess can be kept elsewhere.

Going forward as a family you’d be better off having a smaller bedroom as your bedroom and then have the other smaller room as your “dressing room” that way you’ll still have a large bedroom and then your children can grow into their rooms which they’ll need for many years to come.

Maybe the single rooms can’t fit a double bed?

Sounds like a great us of space OP, I have no idea why so many posters are frothing.

Ive got my spare room as a walk-in wardrobe with a massive vanity table and hollywood light up mirror. I absolutely love it.

Do it!!

Bros before clothes

@Everytimeiseeher has good advise

In fact, what they suggested is what I personally would do OP

The best thing I ever did when I had young kids was to remove every scrap of clothing from their rooms and create a family dressing room. I put all our clothes in there and also had two tumble driers and an ironing board. Twice a week I would do the drying and ironing and it was the best system I've ever had by far. Every morning everybody got dressed in the dressing room and the kids never rifles through clothing and made a mess. If you can fit a Murphy bed against the wall then even better.... I say go for it. It will make your life much easier

@devoedtobitsandback

I agree - it sounds like a great use of space. I'd modify it slightly personally to each person choosing the clothes to dress in the next day in their own room, but otherwise I'd consider that ideal!

I'm a big fan of devoted spaces in design rather than multi-function rooms.

I don't think it's so bad because I can't help but think it's unfair that only one DC gets the large room.

I'd move the dc's clothes into the dressing room though so that they have more room in their own rooms.

What devoedtobitsandback did sounds ideal.

In a world where whole families live in one room and there are children living on the streets, I can hardly get worked up over this.
Each child will have their own room, they are both the same size. They also have a separate play room. These children are not deprived.

What size is a double wardrobe? I have a wardrobe with two doors. I’d call that a single wardrobe but when I was little I had one half the width so maybe mine is a double wardrobe? Although to me having twice the space I currently have feels like a lot!

MirandaWest I'd say two doors is double but most wardrobes, even small ones, often have double doors now.

Judging by the fact that all these wardrobes (4 for OP and 2 for DP if I remember) wont go in one room, in guessing they are quite large.

How big are the small bedrooms? It doesnt sound as if they are that small? But we might have different ideas of size, so I’d like to know square footage before I decide if YABU.

(DDS room is 6x 8.5, that is a small room and I would want her in a bigger one if possible. Ds room is about 8x 9, so more manageable as a single room and enough room for everything he needs to do.

I'm concerned that I've spent the last 30 odd years putting on clothes wrong if people need a separate room for it.

www.goodreads.com/book/show/30231806-goodbye-things

You need to think about minimalism if you need 2 double wardrobes per person AND a double room to do it all in.

Also don't assume the older one should have the other double (although of course one of your children should be prioritised over possessions). Think about their personalities and which would suit a bigger room.