AIBU to want the larger room as a dressing room

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So we have just bought a new build house. It has 4 bedrooms, too are large doubles. And 2 are smaller bedrooms, mainly for single beds with wardrobes.

Me and DJ will share the master bedroom. And I wanted to put my 5 year old boy and 3 year old girl in their own small rooms.

Now the second double room was meant to be a guest room....in 7 years of living at my current house we have never had anyone sleepover, only kids but they would share beds.

So I want that room to have full length 4 double wardrobes and a corner for my dressing area. WITH the possibility of adding a bed in if ever needed. I am willing to share my wardrobes with hubby...eventhough we can get 2 doubles in the master anyway.

A lot of ppl have said to me to give the second double to 5 year old, but I just think it's too big a room for him and eventually he can have the room as a bed will fit even with the wardrobes fitted in. AIBU Should I just give him the room. My hubby actually said no and that I should have it as dressing if I like.

OP may well have a toy room play room and a den downstairs with the kids only needing to sleep upstairs. Kids don’t always have to come first!!

And I don’t agree with the eldest getting first pick either.

He's coming into the age when he will be likely to be able to play on his own or with a friend for some time - where having that space to set up a train track or home corner or lego emporium and not have to tidy it out of the way every time adults want to sit down or family want to eat a meal etc. My room was 3m x 2.6 m, and I still set up my train track and left it out for a week or two (until I got bored with it) (It also kept the adults out because it took up all available floor space).

I think YABU and rather selfish.

You should have the smallest room as the dressing room; nobody needs that much space for clothes and your children will benefit from the larger rooms more.

I don't get why single rooms are even still a thing, especially in a new build where you could easily make the rooms bigger. they are useless except for small children.

But YABU, you dont need all that space for just your clothes when you already have a large bedroom with wardrobes for yourself anyway.

No one needs that many clothes. Just buy less/donate the excess and save the planet a bit while you're at it.

Why not have it as a playroom /guestroom. Then the children have a nice space to play together. I can't imagine being so narcissistic/materialistic I needed a whole double bedroom for my clothes.

Yeah you got too many clothes. I think kids in the smaller rooms, at least for now and keep the larger one as playroom/study/guest room is a good idea, but the amount of wardrobe space you're after is a bit mad and will limit how you can use the space. You need Marie Kondo!

Ok if I rename it as guest room then would that make it better? The kids rooms arent tiny box rooms. They have 2.5 fitted wardrobes in there, a single bed and also room for play/desk. We have a playroom downstairs.

I should have said, if we get the 4 doubles In the double room then we will not be getting wardrobes in our room...but have a built-in seating area. I dont have a lot of clothes/accessories I'm not materialistic.
My kids dont have thousands of toys either.

I like the idea of the kids having cosy rooms, less likely to make a mess too, theyr only small.
If I add a double bed to the room straight away then it's literally a guest room which when one of the kids then needs it it will become theirs. Hmm maybe iv answered my own question

Haha iv just re-read messages and im really not someone who hoards a lot of clothes. I think 2 doubles each between me and hubby is normal. Which also includes storage space/shelving within them and space for shoes and pullout drawers all fitted in etc

You think 2 double wardrobes each is normal? You have WAY too many clothes! You need Marie Kondo!

I am obsessed with my dressing room and couldn't be without it now. I would do it.

If you gave it to one of the DC then the other one would miss out on the bigger room.

Go for it, OP. It sounds great! (I love my dressing room ... )

I think that’s fair. That way both kids has similar sized rooms. As they’re close in age your little girl will become ver jealous when she realises she drew the short end of the straw!

Enjoy your dressing room- it’s YOUR HOUSE. Tell everyone to stuff off.

Not unreasonable. Totally fine!! I would do the same as you!

Especially the idea of using the larger room as your walk in wardrobe for the next 10 years until your dc are older. And then I think the best thing to do is ASK THEM which one would like the bigger room! I do not agree with giving the older one the larger room just because they are older! If anything, I would be more inclined to give the younger one the larger room, as they will (maybe) be living at home longer! But again, I would ask them in 10 years. Chances are, one (or even both) may not even want to swap rooms!

So yeah, use the larger room for yourself now! Your kids are way too young to need a larger room!

And if you do ever have guests over, well then you can get some sort of a bed for the guests. As you say, a bed will still fit in there with the wardrobes. So I see no issues with your current plan!

Go for it

Go for it and enjoy it!

I think it makes sense to have the larger room as a dressing room rather than one child getting a room so much bigger than the other.

What about making it into a playroom?

I would do it

Blimey - are you JLo?

And requiring DCs’ friends on a sleep over to share the same bed?

we will not be getting wardrobes in our room...but have a built-in seating area
What? Why do you need a built in starting area in your bedroom? How much time do you spend sitting in your room??
misses point of thread...
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What is more important to you, your clothes and a dressing room or your children? If you are determined to give them a small room each then make the 2nd bedroom into a play room for them, that's going to be far more useful than clothes space given that you have a very large bedroom anyway.

Personally I would prefer to turn one of the small bedrooms into a full walk in wardrobe.

I did what you are proposing to do ie use the second biggest bedroom as a guest bedroom/my wardrobe. The bed was never used and it wasn't a proper layout for my clothes.

I moved my eldest child into it and I took the smallest room for my clothes. I have clothes everywhere in it right now but I intend to turn it into a proper walk in wardrobe with hanging rails, shelves so I can have all my clothes, accessories, shoes and coats in one room. It will help me be more organised and I really like the idea of the room being mine and mine alone. Permanently.

I dont have a lot of clothes/accessories I'm not materialistic.

Yet you think that having two double wardrobes just for you is not excessive? If that's not materialistic then god only knows what is.

Give your older child the bigger room, and your younger child could choose between the other two. IMHO.

Yanbu

And I don’t understand why the yabu vote has won!!

Very unfair to give a master bedroom to one of your children while the other has a single room.

Yes put your clothes in the spare master room and also get a spare bed for guests. Turn it into the guest/spare room.

Why don’t people stay?

Very unfair to give a master bedroom to one of your children while the other has a single room.

They can both have a single room and then share a playroom.