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AIBU to want the larger room as a dressing room

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starrain · 05/01/2020 22:24

So we have just bought a new build house. It has 4 bedrooms, too are large doubles. And 2 are smaller bedrooms, mainly for single beds with wardrobes.

Me and DJ will share the master bedroom. And I wanted to put my 5 year old boy and 3 year old girl in their own small rooms.

Now the second double room was meant to be a guest room....in 7 years of living at my current house we have never had anyone sleepover, only kids but they would share beds.

So I want that room to have full length 4 double wardrobes and a corner for my dressing area. WITH the possibility of adding a bed in if ever needed. I am willing to share my wardrobes with hubby...eventhough we can get 2 doubles in the master anyway.

A lot of ppl have said to me to give the second double to 5 year old, but I just think it's too big a room for him and eventually he can have the room as a bed will fit even with the wardrobes fitted in. AIBU Should I just give him the room. My hubby actually said no and that I should have it as dressing if I like.

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Butchyrestingface · 05/01/2020 22:49

For those pp's saying you should give your dc large rooms I was one of 6 and shared until I got married. I've never in my life had my own bedroom and I don't feel hard done by.

Presumably that’s because your home didn’t have seven bedrooms, rather than because your mother felt her clothes were deserving of a better room than her kids?

MaderiaCycle · 05/01/2020 22:51

I’d do the wardrobes and get a decent quality sofa bed in case you ever get guests / it can be lounged in too.

NannyR · 05/01/2020 22:51

I'd have the two kids share the larger bedroom - siblings usually love sharing and they are close enough in age for it to work.
You could have a single as a dressing room and rethink the bedroom allocations in a couple of years when they need their own space.

HeresMe · 05/01/2020 22:52

Get dressed and keep your clothes in the main bedroom. People don't need a dressing room, it strikes as really weird.

BlueCornsihPixie · 05/01/2020 22:53

You need 4 double wardrobes for your clothes! Shock

I think YABU. No a 5 year old doesn't need a big room, but soon the 5 year old will be 7, then 10. You can't keep 4 double wardrobes in your DCs room, and suddenly you've got to fit your double rooms worth of stuff in a small room.

Just use the small room for your stuff. No adult needs 4 wrdrobess ffs!

TimeTravellersHat · 05/01/2020 22:57

I gave my son the master bedroom in my new build as it made sense with his extensive collection of books (Me and OH use a bookcase in the living room for ours), numerous toys, collectable figures and lego train set (not to mention various lego city structures).

OH and I have a slightly smaller double room but don’t regret our decision at all!

katewhinesalot · 05/01/2020 22:58

Unless you have a downstairs playroom I'd use the big room as a dressing room/play room with clothes and toy storage. They will have larger toys when young.When they are older you can decide which configuration works best.

Rinoachicken · 05/01/2020 22:59

I think you’ve got too many clothes!!

Use the other large room as a playroom - then all the toys go in there and the bedrooms and rest of the house stay tidy!

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BackforGood · 05/01/2020 23:02

siblings usually love sharing and they are close enough in age for it to work.

eh ?
Not my experience.

No, a 5 (or 3) yr old doesn't need a large double bedroom, but if you've got one, why would you not use it ? Confused

He's coming into the age when he will be likely to be able to play on his own or with a friend for some time - where having that space to set up a train track or home corner or lego emporium and not have to tidy it out of the way every time adults want to sit down or family want to eat a meal etc.

I can't believe you are seriously suggesting using it just for clothes - especially when you have plenty of room in your own bedroom.

OlaEliza · 05/01/2020 23:03

Clothes and your make up are more important?

It seems so, if she needs SIX double wardrobes. That's just stupid excessive tbh.

nespressowoo · 05/01/2020 23:04
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Mumelie · 05/01/2020 23:06

Why don't you store everyone's clothes on the second big bedroom so everyone gets more space in their own bedrooms? Makes putting it all away a lot easier too!

queenqueenqueen · 05/01/2020 23:07

Wow!! 😳

RUSU92 · 05/01/2020 23:07

You need to have a clear out!

However, its your house, do what you like with it. It might be easier for your DC to both have the same size room, rather than one of them have a big one, and one a small room.

Although personally I wouldn't use a separate dressing room, you're paying the mortgage, not your kids or friends, so do what you like with it.

I think I'd make it into a playroom/den for the kids or something, rather than a dressing room, but as they grow up, they will be more annoyed that one has a big room and the other a small room, rather than mum has a dressing room.

Cinammoncake · 05/01/2020 23:08

Maybe 2020 should be the year you embrace the capsule wardrobe

Grin
RUSU92 · 05/01/2020 23:08

Why don't you store everyone's clothes on the second big bedroom so everyone gets more space in their own bedrooms? Makes putting it all away a lot easier too! That's a good idea Mumelie

superfandango · 05/01/2020 23:09

It depends on the children really. Why does the oldest deserve a larger room just by virtue of being oldest? Based on my own two DC I’d say the younger one needed the larger room more because her toys are larger.

If we were to move into a 4 bed house with two single rooms and two double rooms I’d probably give the DC the two smaller rooms, to avoid arguments over who has the bigger room, unless there genuinely wasn’t space for favourite toys, and set the spare room up as a study with a decent sofa bed. Still available to be used but not solely for me and DH.

nonicknameseemsavailable · 05/01/2020 23:13

well to save arguments I would give the children the 2 smaller rooms (unless they were ridiculously small). The other room would then be set up like superfantango has said to have a decent sofa bed and storage space/study/playroom/books or whatever. I don't honestly think anyone needs a dressing room unless they have a crazy number of spare rooms, a very small bedroom with no space in it or far too many clothes.

HollowTalk · 05/01/2020 23:14

Use one small room for you and your DH to sleep and the other for your clothes.

Only on Mumsnet would someone suggest that two adults have a small room while a toddler has the double room.

lukewarmtea · 05/01/2020 23:14

Op you remind me of a woman I know so much that I've had to re read your thread 4 times incase it is her Confused she's just had her 5th child and after living in a 2 bedroom house for the last 8 years the council gave her and her dp a new 5 bedroom house. The kids are 8,7,5,2 and 2 months. Baring in mind she's got 5 bedrooms she's got the two eldest girls sharing, the two boys sharing, she's done a nursery for the baby and used the 2nd biggest bedroom for a dressing room, her dp has a wardroom in there en-suite bedroom Confused I still can't get over why she would do that. Sorry for going off track I just had to tell someone that because I'm like Shock

Op I think what you've done is fine, little kids don't need massive rooms they get overwhelmed if it's too big, better to be snug and cosy.

Dollywilde · 05/01/2020 23:15

We had this set up in my family home. My sister and I had the singles with parents taking a double and the second double being our playroom / spare room. It had a sofa in it and a TV (we weren’t allowed them in bedrooms) so was great for having friends over.

When I started my GCSEs I needed more space so I moved into the big room until I left home for uni four years later, at that point my little sister moved in there. She kept it until she moved out for uni as well.

Neither of us have moved home since. Little sister has nominally kept the double as ‘her room’ (when I visit my parents I sleep in the single room with a queen sized bed) since then but as I’m about to produce the first grandchild I’ve pointed out to my parents I (finally) need my room back Grin

Angie6868 · 05/01/2020 23:21

Went do you need a dressing room? Are you going on stage,?!

Ibizafun · 05/01/2020 23:24

‘‘People don't need a dressing room, it strikes as really weird.’’
^^
We converted an adjoining room to ours into a dressing room and it’s my favourite room in the house.. I don’t only get dressed in it, I do my stretches in it, hair, make up, and packing when we go away.

Having said that, if it meant my kids had to have a smaller room than no, it would most definitely not have occurred to me!Shock

MereDintofPandiculation · 05/01/2020 23:25

I never like the idea of one child having a much larger room than the other. So if your two singles are the same size I'd put the children in those.

If I'd only got two doubles, and I really wanted one child to have a double, then I'd feel I need to give the other child a double too.

It's only just occurred to me - I grew up in no 3 bedroom - no 2 was a guest room (though we hardly ever had guests, 1-2 times a year only), and it didn't worry me in the slightest, I hadn't even thought about it until reading this post. I loved my bedroom - it had my choice of bedclothes and curtains, a fitted unit across the window end so I could sit in the window reading, all my stuff where I wanted it. It's these things that make a room, not the size of it (which rather demolishes my argument about giving the children the same sized rooms...)

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