to think you shouldn't do this if you're in a relationship?

[JPG2017]

If a man has a partner, should he be texting another woman everyday?

The messages involve talking about life, beliefs, passions etc., and they are LONG. About 25 paragraphs sent over a few days. The woman replies the same.

A lot of him saying "I'll have to explain this to you in person" and "you're the only person I know who would ask such an intelligent question" / "you're the only person I know who's this interesting to speak to".

Thoughts?

She can have any man she wants, yet she’s ended up taking back that gaslighting twatbadger?

Yeah, ok.

Good for you, OP. You dodged a bullet there. You’re free!

OP I know it hurts now but it's for the best. He wasn't that into you and treated you with disrespect. You deserve so much more and he was a gaslighting shit boyfriend. Better to be on your own for a short while than with a deadbeat boyfriend.

He's not interested in you. He's using you as a means to get her back. That is all

Ooh just read your updates. Well I know it hurts but you ignored writing that was on the wall. Learn your lesson hard. Dating is tough. You need to protect yourself better. Men in touch with exes unless they have children with them are a no go. I don't care what free thinking, easy going advice anyone gives you, it never ends well

@JPG2017 I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you have dodged a bullet here.

Thank God you had the balls to challenge him on the messages or goodness knows what else he would have got up to behind your back.

This man is not honest or sincere, and you deserve much better.

You should feel proud of yourself. Honestly.

I really doubt he'll regret leaving me for her. his ex is actually an amazing person - she's much more attractive than me (objectively I mean), she's got an impressive career, clever (obviously much more than me).

I also don't really blame her. Apparently she became aware of me only after I read those messages (who knows if she actually does), so not like she was doing it to be a dick.

Anyway. Hes sent me a long rambling message over social media, saying that sorry I was involved in it all, he didn't mean for this to happen... he said that they didn't have sex before we split up (wasn't aware when we had split up, apart from last night?) but he had let her sleep in his bed and cuddled her (gross). But yes, long and short of it is that he loves her, he wants her back (not sure if they are back together yet) and i deserve better.

I am glad for you that he definitively ended it and was honest finally. Some people would string along both as long as possible. It really doesn’t matter what happens with them, he’s not right for you.

Attraction isn’t all about who is more attractive, intelligent, better dressed, employed whatever. Please don’t compare yourself to her or anyone else. That just causes us to be vain(when we find ourselves better in some way) and pain (when we feel we are lacking). Not good for you.

I really doubt he'll regret leaving me for her.

Don't care about what he feels or thinks

Simply understand that you are so much better off without him

Concentrate on you now