Cards against humanity - angry friend

[CareBear50]

Last night we had a bit of a get together with v close friends and family. There were about 5 or 6 of us. I had been given Cards Against Humanity for Christmas and decided to play a game of it.

I explained the premise of the game to everyone and explained how it worked. I said some might find it offensive (and gave some harsh examples) but just wanted to make sure everyone was ok about it before we played as I knew some people might not like it. I explained if they were uncomfortable it was perfectly fine to say no. No one objected.

Everyone played the game.

Anyway - I called in to my friends house earlier to say hi and he had a go at me four times, complaining that the game was not ok. On four separate occasions I told him that I had given him the opportunity to opt out, along with everyone else, and if he didn't want to play that was fine. In the end I told him you have no right to complain after the fact, if you say nothing when we were playing it or before we started, as I am not a mind-reader and in such a small group you could easily have aired your concerns.

This person is normally quite vocal and no shrinking violet.

Was I being unreasonable?

Never played it as it's sick, very sick I know the jist of it, but after just looking at some of those examples I'd honestly walk out if someone suggested playing it...ITS VILE and I don't have a Jimmy Carr sick sense of humour....but also your friend should have objected at the time but I agree with him.

Oh and the people saying "oh I take the Madeline card out" or "I take the children getting cancer" ones out you do know you are still filling the pockets of the sick Fucks that came up with this shit right?

Why do people not take responsibility for their own actions and decisions anymore? Why does everything always have to be someone else’s fault these days?

^^this and I'd add sensitive as well.

My DD and teenage DGSs love this game.
I have played it once with them and that was enough.
I prefer Trivial Pursuits

He could easily have opted out. I’ve played it before and people are opting out. He’s being really stupid

I’ve always thought of myself as pretty hard to offend but we played this at Christmas and i struggled with it. How they could get away with having a ‘Madeleine McCann’ card I really can’t comprehend. I wouldn’t play it again.

Lola - Me too. I can't imagine finding anything funny about Madeleine McCann or necrophilia or the other topics listed. What possesses people to create a game about these things ?

My humour doesn't gel with this game either, but he was given the option, and all he needed to say was "That game really wasn't for me, I'm not playing again" and that's an end to it not to harangue you about your morals and be superior

I was willing to go YABU as I don't like the fame but YANBU in the context, he needs to grow up and if he doesn't like something say so there and then.

Game not fame

Until I read the OP I had not even heard of Cards against Humanity game. I googled it.

Why would any sane and decent person want to play this so called game? Shameful and disgusting. I know the question here is not whether the game is acceptable or not but anyone buying it or offering to "play it" with intelligent friends needs to give their head a damn good shake.

It is offensive in the extreme.

God, there are some wet lettuces out there.

God, there are some wet lettuces out there.

Nowadays there are fields of wet lettuces as far as the eyes can see.

I’m one of the first to jump on offensive comments online, but a card game that is played in the privacy of a person’s own home? Nah! Fill yer boots.

StillCoughing, different people have different tastes, sense of humour etc. And some people have suffered trauma etc which can impact what they find funny, acceptable.

the meaning of the game is to be offensive.

Surely the point of the game is to work out what answer will be 'picked' by the person asking the question.

I haven't googled it, but have played CAH a good few times. I find it interesting exactly because different people will find different things funny and / or offensive. When picking you answer, you have to gauge what the person asking the question will pick. It helps to share or at least understand their sense of humour.

Yes because laughing about cancer and missing children is fine...as long as you are in your own home it doesn't make you a bit erm fucked up?

Oh and the people saying "oh I take the Madeline card out" or "I take the children getting cancer" ones out you do know you are still filling the pockets of the sick Fucks that came up with this shit right?

Nobody has to like the game, and if you find it offensive that's absolutely fine, but the CAH guys are bloody stellar at giving back to the community.

Some examples (of many) at this link: hellogiggles.com/news/cards-against-humanity-philanthropy/

1. In 2016, they bought out their Chinese factory for a week, to give its workers a week paid vacation.

“Our printer in China has grown with us from a small business to a huge operation, and it’s important to us to go above and beyond our obligation to the workers who make our game,” the company announced at the time. “While our factory provides excellent wages and working conditions, Chinese working conditions are generally more strict. This year, we used the money from one day of our holiday promotion to give our workers something very uncommon in China: a paid vacation.”

1. At their headquarters in Chicago, they give discounted co-working rates to local artists who need somewhere to work.

1. In 2012, most of the proceeds from their holiday sale ($70k) were donated to the Wikimedia Foundation.

1. In 2013, their holiday expansion pack earnings were spent to fund almost 300 public school programs in high-poverty areas.

1. In 2014, they sent a quarter of a million dollars to the Sunlight Foundation, an organization that allows the public to see which organizations fund elected officials.

1. Every year they dole out a full-tuition scholarship to a woman in a STEM field.

1. This summer, they released a special edition Cards Against Humanity For Her in support of Emily’s List, a foundation that works to elect pro-choice female Democrats to office.

1. Last summer, they released a Hillary Clinton and a Donald Trump expansion pack. The proceeds from the sales of both packs all went to Clinton’s campaign.

Christ, you should have heard some of the jokes when I worked for the emergency services! Makes Cards Against Humanity look like UNO.

Like I said upthread, Lola - they weren't kidding when they named the game. I guess you either get it or you don't - but playing it is not "laughing at cancer or missing children". My own mother has just recovered from cancer, for the second time, and plays it with us.

it doesn't make you a bit erm fucked up?

What's wrong with being a bit(or a lot) fucked up?

So if you knew some people had suffered some of the more traumatic examples on the cards and were still struggling mentally/physically from these events, would you play this game with them. If not, does that not mean you are laughing/making fun of such events.

I think you clearly went out of your way to ensure everyone was happy to play the game. If he had a problem he should have said at the time. Your mate is completely out of order having a go at you and owes you an apology.

So if you knew some people had suffered some of the more traumatic examples on the cards and were still struggling mentally/physically from these events, would you play this game with them. If not, does that not mean you are laughing/making fun of such events.

They have a choice. They’re not forced to play it and I dare say the game is explained to them before they start. It’s not as if someone is pinning them down screaming abuse into their faces. I don’t play it myself, but I’m not going to dictate what others do.

“ Christ, you should have heard some of the jokes when I worked for the emergency services! ”

That’s more gallows humour though....CAH is not really that.

“ How they could get away with having a ‘Madeleine McCann’ card I really can’t comprehend.”

Lawyers haven’t got to know about it yet?

Care Bear, listen up.
He is not your friend. Friends do not do what he did.