£100 for xmas dinner

[disneydatknee]

We went to sis inlayws for xmas dinner this year and shes charging £100 per family. No alcohol was provided, we had to bring our own. Pud was brought by another family member. All her veg was free from a local charity for food waste. So she only paid for meat which I ate about half a palmful of beef of. My family consists of 2 adults and 2 children that ate fuck all. Aibu to say I'm not fucking paying it? No back story or drip feed. This is it!

[ohprettybaby]

@yomellamoHelly

"We ate Christmas dinner out. 4 of us incl kids (who didn't want to eat anything) which was £90 excl drinks."
To be fair, if that was Christmas day, that was dirt cheap. Even most chain pub/restaurants don't do 2 adults and 2 kids for that price. You landed a bargain.

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

I'm happy to pay her the original £50. But she will still kick off

Fair enough, so let her - after all it's your DH's sister and if he says she's getting no more that would be good enough for me

[Oysterbabe]

Just say
Wow that's a little more than we budgeted. Can you send us a breakdown of that?

[NoMorePoliticsPlease]

This seems to be a fashion and I think its appalling. If family members contribute by taking a few bottles of wine , or some food like pud or cheese or snacks, thats fime but money? Oh no very crass . I just wouldt go

[Oysterbabe]

You seem to think you should pay less though because you didn't eat very much, it doesn't work like that. You don't weigh your portion of meat and just pay for that, the cost is split equally.

[letsdolunch321]

Fuck your in laws off.

It is a liberty !!!

[RuggerHug]

'You missed the decimal, I'll send you £10'

[beautifulstranger101]

Tell her its fine but you'll need an itemised invoice for tax purposes and you presume she'll be declaring this income to HMRC?

[sonjadog]

As she says she has calculated that it is actually 100 pounds, I would ask to her her calculations.

[Ilovenutellaaaaa]

We went to sis inlayws for xmas dinner this year and shes charging £100 per family

Are the rest of the family as shocked by her charging £100

No alcohol was provided, we had to bring our own. Pud was brought by another family member. All her veg was free from a local charity for food waste. So she only paid for meat which I ate about half a palmful of beef of

So you provided your own alcohol, others brought pudding, vegetables were free...and she paid for the meat which you are only of Palmfull...how can that cost £100


My family consists of 2 adults and 2 children that ate fuck all

Op I'd ask to see a breakdown of what this £100 is for because of everything was provided and all she bough was meat how can that be £100 if everyone brought the rest of the stuff (meaning it sounds like she's trying to charge you for all the stuff you and others brought)

Aibu to say I'm not fucking paying it? No back story or drip feed. This is it

I wouldn't pay it...£100 is alot when all she provided was meat and everything else was brought by others...are the rest of the family paying this?...she's asically scamming you all if you do (if everyone pays don't be surprised if she offers to host Christmas dinner next year too as she is making money out of doing it )

[poppy1973]

Hi, just put a cheque in the post for the original £50 as first told. Just say you are only to pay what was originally agreed upon and that next year you will do you own thing or will go out for dinner.

[AJPTaylor]

For actual Xmas dinner?
Ours was 60 For the turkey, the spuds veg and rest was easily less than 30.
Divide 100 between the number of guests, multiply by 4 And send her that.
C.f..

[PrettyPurpleFeather]

Ask her publicly on Facebook for an itemised bill so that everyone can see she's charging her family £100 for Christmas Dinner. Also ask how she came to £100 since guests provided wine, pudding and other meal items. Plus she received free vegetables from a surplus food charity.

[Twillow]

The words 'guests' and 'family' are completely incompatible with charging anything at all, to me. It would be rude not to offer to contribute something, of course, but I would certainly decline any offer of money (and I'm not well off by any means) - wine, chocs, flowers would all be appreciated.

[ChristineKeeler]

I'd send £50 and be done with it.

[kingkuta]

I've just worked out what I paid for Xmas dinner including alcohol and it worked out about £50 per head including alcohol (not incl kids). I think, alcohol or not, £50 for a family of 2 adults and 2 children is a very reasonable cost. It's not your sil fault if you decided to eat only half a palmful of beef for your Xmas dinner. She will have catered for the numbers at the table. Would you go to a restaurant and say oh I only ate a mouthful of the steak so will only be paying a tenner? Sounds like she is trying to pass on the cost of her in laws to you with the £100 which is not on but I think it would be bad of you not to pay the £50, even if you deducted a little for the alcohol, as this is what you agreed with her. Is it worth a big family falling out over?

[Lucked]

Ask her. Point out it was BYOB, x brought pudding so could she explain £400 spend (4 households attending) and if she was giving x the cost of pudding.

[fedup21]

Which charity is giving out enough free Christmas vegetables for a huge family dinner?

How odd.

[Ilovecat]

Seriously.
Fuck nope. OMG ?
This reminds me my super tight uncle who charged me for coffee in his house.. I mean a cup of coffee. As I’m live in the UK and I must be obviously sooooo loaded!
Also he makes a home made plum brandy for close family from plums my mum used to gave him, however when I politely asked him if I can have some brandy ( 0.5 litre) costing about a £5 per litre to take with me to UK he said only if I bring him a proper PROPER Scottish whisky the best in return.
No back story etc.
I spent about £30 on whisky I knew nothing about- he gave me a small bottle of the worst ever made brandy which he would usually discard as not up standard.
Highest fucking stinginess, Scrooge...

[woodhill]

I really don't agree with family members charging for meals. How mercenary,

Fair enough to contribute by bringing courses, drinks etc.

You are not operating a restaurant

[Lucked]

At the very least send a jokey text asking if it was Wagyu beef?

[Twillow]

Did you agree to the £50 with the understanding it included alcohol? If so definitely deduct. Otherwise pay the £50, say you budgeted for that amount and it's not something you would like to repeat in future.

[JosefKeller]

Fine to charge whatever she wants at the point of invit;, so you can decline and not get ripped off.

Rude and very shitty to tell you AFTER.

On another note, she must be a MN

[Sexnotgender]

She’s a CF indeed.

I’d never dream of charging family to eat with us.

We just had a small Christmas but my parents provided the meat (£50 fillet of beef) and I did all sides, pudding and alcohol.

Probably worked out relatively even. Even if it didn’t we’re not falling out over it.

[crochetandshit]

The only response I might send would be to treat her message as a joke.

"Lol sil I just love your sense of humour! As you originally said £50 for us all including booze but then we needed to bring our own, I've put £30 in your bank. Had a great day see you soon "