AIBU to expect AC to contribute to xmas?

[Sandygran]

We've just had my adult daughter, her husband and 3 children staying for 5 nights over Christmas.
We provided all the food and drink for all of us for every meal, including the Christmas dinner of course. They were welcome to it and it was lovely to have them. It wasn't until they had gone that I thought "Gosh, when we used to say with my in-laws when our kids were young, we would provide the turkey and take drinks with us and we only stayed one night!"
Have times changed or should they have made a contribution or at least offered to take us out for a meal one night? (They are well off btw , and could easily afford to contribute).

I agree. Expression of gratitude dont have to be material. Not do they have to be alcohol as some PP have suggested (or chocs that my dad can’t eat due to his diabetes etc...).

My parents used to live overseas. As far as they were concerned, me making the Effort to come and see them (24 hours flight) was plenty. They are now living much closer but still are just plainly delighted to see me and their grand children. They dint need and or want anything else.
My PIL are the same (and even worse as my MIL keep giving us stuff when we go and see them - home made cakes, home grown vegs etc... that she just wants to share). They have made clear they dint want stuff (they are trying hard to declutter) and dint eat anything that isn’t on their ‘normal’ food list. Wine, chocs, candles etc... wouod just sit in a cupboard until they aren’t eatable (tried that before).

I’m not sure how disregarding their wishes (of not bringing anything etc....) can be seen as being nice and grateful tbh.

Lol 57bbcessex. No i suppose it does sound like that but we are real ale snobs so too fussy for the others to choose and we'd way out drink the other 3 adults so cost not really an issue. DH hates his moms cooking so thats why we didn't go. We did boxing day tea instead and they are buying us brekkie tomorrow

@gothefcktosleep

Much love.😘

I would never expect my children or family to bring anything. But and its a big BUT, they would never think of coming without something even if it was just a bottle or a little something just for me for being the hostess.

We always take a bottle of wine to my parents’. In the past we’ve taken a cheese, too. I bring something for me to both parents
And in-laws as I’m a lactose intolerant vegetarian so I eat vegan.

As a host you should not expect, but if a gift is given it is very welcome.
9 years now I have hosted my sil, not lifted a finger (her or her family).
No more, I had a huge tantrum and told my husband it is not ok for me to cook 2 3 course meals 2 days in a row and entertain etc etc.
I love my husband and have been very respectful but now I am done.