"He's been" posts

[Lxx16]

Apologies if you do it but I cannot stand the "guess who has been to our house" posts. Is it just me that gets irritated by them? I am pregnant so may be my hormones but I have seen 5 on fb already and it's Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day! Also, I find them quite braggy and think people only do it just to show off how much they have spoilt their children. I hope I don't turn into one of them 😂🙈

Think the one "big present pile" photo I put on this year was DD2 mid-way through opening them because she'd decided to dispense with the middle-act of removing the presents from the sack and was just sat there with the sack over her head opening them as they fell out and it just looked daft as anything (she's a funny kid - born comedian) and I thought it was funny.

Friend posted how her kid had been spoilt (same age as mine) with an iPhone 11, iPad, laptop and loads of Barbies as well - bit OTT (and no way are mine having phones for a good few years yet) but other than that and one who delights in posting how amazing they are as parents for spending quality time with their kid - who has been shoved in front of a tablet since about 2 years old - the bragging's been minimal this year really.

"Then I'm free to mock you for not knowing how to unfollow someone on FB or because you add people you clearly find irritating."

It has already been done. This thread is not about my specific newsfeed is it?

"Personally I don’t mock my friends. "

Neither do I. I'm mocking the pp on here who can't see how crass, tasteless and braggy it is to post photos of your great big mounds of presents.

I'm not friends on fb with anyone who does the below

Brags
Duck face selfies
photos/vids of accidents
gushing tributes to DH or DC
expresses their gratitude for missing a natural disaster/terrorist attack because they were in the same area 5 yrs ago

However I can still have an opinion on those that do the above.

"God forbid anyone is excited on Christmas Eve."

I wonder whether it would be possible to experience excitement without a bragging sm post? It's a tall order, but some people do seem to manage it.

Kuponut, your photo sounds funny and lovely, exactly the sort of thing I love seeing on fb.

"God forbid anyone is excited on Christmas Eve."

I bloody love Christmas & Christmas Eve (as we always have a party). Can one not enjoy anything unless it's shared on social media? Does social media somehow heighten the excitement?

oh & I forgot photoshops their babies. wtf!

I'm mocking the pp on here who can't see how crass, tasteless and braggy it is to post photos of your great big mounds of presents.

Depends on your audience.

If you know and love that person and get why they might be doing it (beyond just bragging) then that should be fine, shouldn’t it?

However, if you’re friends with someone that you don’t actually like, who you think is just bragging, then more fool you for being friends with them on SM, right?

Either way, I don’t see any reason to get annoyed about this, when the ‘hide’ button exists for this very purpose.

Can one not enjoy anything unless it's shared on social media? Does social media somehow heighten the excitement?

Depends on how you want to use social media. For some people it is an integral part of their lives,

The key thing is that you don’t have to engage with these people if you don’t want to.

The key thing is that you don’t have to engage with these people if you don’t want to.

The key thing is I don't have to engage but I can still judge. I don't follow or watch the Kardashian's or Towie people but I can still criticise them for promoting weight loss tea etc.

Depends on how you want to use social media. For some people it is an integral part of their lives

It might be an integral part of their live but how does it heighten excitement or increase enjoyment?

My parents are immigrants & my entire extended family live in their home country. I totally get sharing things to stay in touch & share joy etc.

Who needs to see the attached?

I love to see people's lovely family pics on fb. I certainly never compare it to my life or make many serious judgement calls about posts. I like to think that I am content enough with my own life to let other people's activities make me feel somehow less. At the same time, I don't automatically assume happy posts are hiding some deep-seated unhappiness. I always put a few pics up, not really of presents, but festive fun, and they have all been authentic and sincere whatever the varied circumstances of my personal life have been.

Some people aren't bragging. Not everyone has ulterior motives. It's not rocket science.

These threads are always ridiculous and attract the same type of nasty, condescending people who don't seem to understand a simple concept like how social media works and that people are allowed to do different things. They post about how someone who does something differently go them is "crass" or "common" and how they secretly sneer at them, all while sitting on their phones participating in an online forum such as Mumsnet. It's laughable really

"Either way, I don’t see any reason to get annoyed about this, when the ‘hide’ button exists for this very purpose."

I'm talking about it because op invited me to with this aptly-titled thread. This is, literally, what we're supposed to be debating.

"These threads are always ridiculous and attract the same type of nasty, condescending people who don't seem to understand a simple concept like how social media works."

Would that be the nasty, condescending people who have said that the 'pile of presents' posts upset people who can't do the same for their own family? Heck, what nasty people they must be, especially compared to those bastions of virtue saying 'I'll post what I want and if it upsets people they must be insecure or anyway they can just unfriend me.'

"all while sitting on their phones participating in an online forum such as Mumsnet. It's laughable really."

Are we comparing an anonymous forum to an online fb brag?

Some people aren't bragging

Oh so you do acknowledge that some people do brag?

These threads are always ridiculous and attract the same type of nasty, condescending people who don't seem to understand a simple concept like how social media works and that people are allowed to do different things

This is laughable, you can't judge others for judging others. Well you can but you need to recognise that it means you're a hypocrite.

@letmeinthroughyourwindow don't waste your time. Critical thinking is in short supply here.

I get it. For some of you the desire to brag outweighs all other considerations and you'll never be convinced that it's much nicer to consider other people's feelings. It doesn't take much, just a subtle change of photo, but hey ho, it's just too ingrained and important to you I guess.

What a load of judgemental twaddle. I don't do it, but others do and I smile because I'm happy that they're excited for Christmas. God I'm glad I'm not one of those people who stays on Facebook but continue to moan about posts on Facebook.

In my experience 9/10 the matching pjs families or the ones that do the gushing posts are compensating for something, and often something sad. I knew a few women (and it's mostly women) who go crazy for happy family fb posts because they are either unhappy in their marriage or because they are missing a deceased relative at xmas. So I try not to judge. The happy families are usually not focussed on telling everyone how happy and excited they are all the time.

"God I'm glad I'm not one of those people who stays on Facebook but continue to moan about posts on Facebook."

Are you aware of the thread title? We are being asked our opinion on this specific issue.

I live month to month. I have to start planning and buying for Christmas months in advance. I never feel like I have enough. I sacrifice a lot to give my family one nice day of the year. Most people I know are in the same boat. If they want to celebrate that they have managed to pull off Christmas for their family, and post a photo on social media, who am I to judge.

The same could be said for holiday posts. We haven't had a family holiday in over ten years. If someone on my Facebook is lucky enough to go to Benidorm, Mexico or even the Maldives, and want to share their experiences, I certainly wouldn't be judging them on posting pictures of their holiday that someone else can't afford. I would like their pictures and be happy for them.

"If they want to celebrate that they have managed to pull off Christmas for their family, and post a photo on social media, who am I to judge."

I agree. I love xmas photos.

"The same could be said for holiday posts."

I also love holiday posts of families having fun together or interesting sights. I put photos of their hotel bathroom or a panning shot of their pool in the same category as 'giant pile of presents'. It's really easy to post nice photos and memories without being a dick.

I'm not unhappy in my marriage, missing someone deceased or anything else along those lines. I just enjoyed buying my husband and children new Christmas pjs and we had fun wearing them together. That's what it was, see. A bit of fun. Some families enjoy having a laugh together and it doesn't have to signify that outside of the photograph everything is terrible. Sometimes it's as simple as it gets.

Thankfully, I've never come across the type of people that seem to frequent Mumsnet in real life. The adults I associate with are generally kind and supportive, happy and easy-going. Unlike here.