"He's been" posts

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Apologies if you do it but I cannot stand the "guess who has been to our house" posts. Is it just me that gets irritated by them? I am pregnant so may be my hormones but I have seen 5 on fb already and it's Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day! Also, I find them quite braggy and think people only do it just to show off how much they have spoilt their children. I hope I don't turn into one of them 😂🙈

" I can imagine how badly Samuel Pepys and the like would have been viewed by Ye Olde MumsPaper..."

Well even Pepys kept his diary private. It was published after his death due to his insightful record of life in the 17th century, and particularly his knowledge of the inner machinations of the admiralty.

It wasn't a great big pile of landfill, broadcast to all for bragging purposes and so we can all see how #blessed you are and how #notasgoodasyou the rest of us must be.

danadas, which of the things in your list are only for children who have been nice the way Christmas gifts are said to be?

Wtf is going on with the matching pjs? Everyone I know has posted these on fb. Was I meant to have done this?! My dh would point blank refuse to wear them! Let alone be photographed in them and put on social media.

Ugh yes I hate it, find it really cringey! I tend to avoid Facebook completely on Christmas day.

Yup makes me feel pukey

This year I went off FB following their pathetic excuses for not removing the mosque shooting live stream. Oh my god, it is so nice. I still know what's going on in the world thanks to actual contact with actual people and get to avoid endless 'perfect life posts. Tey having a FB holiday and see how you go

The matching PJs on Xmas eve are fucking twee!

I don't say "He's been" but I have uploaded a photo of her wrapped presents this year, so that my DC's family can see the new bike before it gets destroyed!

I'm don't be so judgemental

I hate those posts because to me, its showing off. Why else would they post a photo of the presents under the tree, everyone opening the presents, everyone eating dinner etc.

I still do the 'he's been' photo, and it used to be as a brag, but not in the way you might think.

A few friends and I used to chat between us waiting for our kids to go to sleep so we could get the presents out and get to bed, we were competitive about who would get done first, so one by one we'd post the 'he's been' photo to signal we could finally get to bed. LOL!

I still do them as there are a few friends on my FB who enjoy seeing them each year, and they're a nice memory to look back on if the kids are ever wondering what they got a particular year. :)

I'd still like to know who 'he' is, the person who has 'been'.

I think its ridiculous.

To all those people tagging me about this. I love reading about people who achieve things through hard work, sports, academics, promotions, I am generally really happy for those people. People bragging about money and possessions over what others can afford, vulgar and tasteless.

Sorry I haven't been on today, I've had a really good day with family... without validation from the internet.

I love it but my friends aren't braggy or extravagant. Many live in different countries and it's a way of keeping close. They just post small piles nicely laid out with a snack for santa which is always a bit different and very sweet. I suppose I might be a bit 🙄 if it was people with huge piles

I don't think its parents being braggy the majority of the time.
It's more likely to be excited parents.
My DS was 3 months old last Xmas, so this Xmas he is more aware.
So in a way was his first Xmas.
I was so excited, we had lots of wows opening the presents this morning and he's had a fab day.

I didn't spend a fortune on DS as he's still young, so no way braggy over here!

Just delete fb if you don't like it, I don't understand, just scroll on and let people be happy.

I understand a child playing with their first present or a child unwrapping a present.

I dont get the validation seeking behaviour. Why post a picture which shows you can order from amazon and wrap stuff??

Like others I love seeing people's Christmas photos. The presents waiting under the tree for excited children in the morning - lovely. And I say that as a family using a food bank.

I think people need to take much more responsibility over their social media usage. If you don't like these photos - scroll on. If you don't like a certain persons posts - unfollow. People can post whatever they like to their social media. It is for sharing, after all. Although according to MN noone should ever share anything on their social media!

My kids are a bit overwhelmed by Christmas to be honest. They have been given lots of presents from various kind family and friends and it’s made them a bit anxious; the rules about saying thank you, saying you love a gift even if you don’t etc.

My two received three gifts each from Father Christmas because that was all I thought they’d cope with. They were happy with them.

However, my kids are under 8. When social media is part of their lives, I wonder about the impact. If you only get three gifts (regardless of the value) how can you possibly live up to your friend with the enormous pile of gifts?

My DD is too old for this sort of thing now but I still Enjoy seeing my friends and family’s posts of footprints near the fire and half eaten mince pies. Can’t say I’ve seen photos of massive piles of presents but I like seeing the pictures and appreciate the effort parents have put in - I can imagine the excitement the kids feel in the morning seeing ‘proof’ that Santa has been. We always left 1 small
Present from Santa, usually a book as we said the elves could only make books or wooden toys and the rest were from us - made it much easier to explain why DD didn’t always receive everything on the list even though she had been good .... some friends post lots of posts throughout December of trips to Lapland and ice skating etc but I’ve always just felt pleased that they have the time and money to do that - wouldn’t dream of unfriending them over it

Sorry I haven't been on today, I've had a really good day with family... without validation from the internet.

What! But, but, but how can this be? nothing matters without validation!

Don't even get me started on Xmas eve boxes full of random toys too. Not even stuff to do on Christmas eve just rubbish tat

My sister and brother in law send me photos of my nephew's bundles through WhatsApp... I then use the "capture the magic" app on my phone, and put santa into the photos and send them straight back through WhatsApp...

Its not to do with being "braggy", they're just creating Christmas memories, and including me in the excitement of a child on Christmas day, as I currently don't have any children of my own... xXx

nearlythere12, I am literally just back home after spending a wonderful Christmas at my sisters house, where my brother in law cooked, and I watched my nephew excitedly opening his gifts, which I then played with him... Not a single photo was taken all day... Which was a complete oversight, I LOVE photos, but to be honest, I was having too much fun to even think about my camera! 🥰🥰🥰 xXx

I like to see what others pass off as presents just to "bulk up" the pile. Regular shampoo, regular deodorant (not the fancy gift box stuff), crisps etc.

Klouise777, I'm getting closer to 40 than I'd care to admit, and in our family we always had a Christmas eve box... In it we're new pj's, a bedtime story book, and a VHS movie to watch, whilst drinking hot chocolate etc... It's a tradition that has carried on to my nephew, with the only change being its now a dvd rather than a VHS tape... Absolutely no tat is allowed in the box, and it's more about a Christmas eve, night-time routine with family than an additional "gift"... xXx