"He's been" posts

[Lxx16]

Apologies if you do it but I cannot stand the "guess who has been to our house" posts. Is it just me that gets irritated by them? I am pregnant so may be my hormones but I have seen 5 on fb already and it's Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day! Also, I find them quite braggy and think people only do it just to show off how much they have spoilt their children. I hope I don't turn into one of them 😂🙈

@nearlythere12 really really not bragging; but happy to own it when I do.

Off to enjoy my day! Hope you all have a wonderful day too.

We volunteer every Christmas at a shelter and last year I posted a few photos with the caption ‘he hasn’t been’, it was a PA post to all of the annoying mountains of present boasts.

I had one person message me to say ‘stop putting a dampener on Christmas’ 😂

I left social media not long after.

I didn't intend this thread to be about how jealous people are (currently 35 weeks pregnant today with my first so I'm sure in two/three years time I will end up being one of the ones that posts 😂🙈) I just could not understand the logic.
Growing up, my mum always took pictures as memories to share in a photo album between family, not for the whole world to see and never of just the presents.
I must have just been in one of those moods last night as I've woken up and liked a few pictures, admittedly though they have kids opening presents in them.
I've also seen an engagement and 4 pregnancy announcements.

Have a wonderful day all of you and a very Merry Christmas! 🎅🎄☃️

"I do go ott, but I had shit Christmas as a child and this makes me happy. "

There will be people on your sm who are having a shit Christmas right now. Post stuff that makes people happier, not worse about themselves.

I've just taken a picture too, but it'll be shared to our family WhatsApp and then printed off for my album.

These tend to be the same people who post messages in the run up to Xmas stating 'remember, there are people/children out there who won't be getting as much as others for Xmas'.

I think you'd have to be very insecure about your own situation to think anything more than "ah that's nice" to pictures of happy families on Facebook celebrating Christmas.

It's vulgar and classless.

Ha ha to those who thinks others are insecure because they don't like it. Is that really what you think, people are jealous OMG, so far off the mark it's laughable.

I used to do this before I realised it may upset people ☹️ I do go rather overboard at Xmas. I didn't do it this year and I havnt done it this year but, in my defence, I was just excited!

I like seeing posts in Facebook and peoples piles of presents, I saw a few last night. My dd’s are older now so the pile is smaller but they still get excited. I kind of miss the magic of Santa and leaving out a mince pie and carrot. Christmas is magical in lots of different ways and I like to share peoples excitement wether it’s seeing a photo of people in matching pj’s, piles of presents, family around the table or people getting pissed in the pub.

Ah I like seeing them, I can feel the excitement and imagine their childrens' faces in the morning and that makes me so happy.

I haven't had much money this year (single parent carer on benefits) so haven't got my kids much. They're all teens anyway, so haven't got big stuff. I still posted a pic of my tree because I don't post it to brag about how much I got them. I post it as part of a happy Christmas post. I'm definitely not posting to show off my fancy decor because my house is not great!

And I like to see others, because they're my friends and I'm glad they and their families are having a good time.

If you hate people posting stuff on Facebook then leave, because that's what it's there for.

@Ludways

Yes, I would think that bitching about how other people celebrate Christmas is absolutely a sign that you aren't happy with your own lot. If you were, you'd be able to be happy for other people.

Personally, I don't do lots of the things that I see on FB - Christmas Eve boxes or matching Pj etc. But when I see people having fun with their family on FB, doing things their own way, it makes me smile. They do Christmas their way, I do Christmas my way. My way might be different to theirs, but I don't consider it somehow better or superior to theirs. I see pictures of people having fun, and I feel happy for them, that's all! It doesn't even cross my mind to judge them - why would I? I'm happily enjoying Christmas, as are they.

I hope you have a wonderful Chrlstmas, however you choose to celebrate it.

@Ludways 100000% what you said. Can’t believe how wrongly people are reading into this saying it jealousy. They’re probably the type to do it

From reading the different threads on here I know I’ve spent a fair bit more than the average on here so if it’s a jealousy thing then I wouldn’t be one of the ones to be jealous if that makes sense.

It just makes me cringe so bad when I see it.

YANBU so tacky and such a waste

noneedtoberudedear I hope you have a lovely day with your twins, the building can be done another time, maybe not with them 'helping' though.

If you think that Christmas posts are braggy then surely you can apply that logic to all photos.

Holidays
New Car
House Move
Graduation
Job/Promotion
Engagement/Wedding
Pregnancy/Baby
Family Days out
Sports achievements
Etc, etc

For each of those things there will be someone on your friends list who cannot and will not be able to do them.

Ludways
It's a fairly standard dismissal of anyone who expresses a view on material/financial/family things.

Nobody can have an opinion on a behaviour or action and it just be a difference of opinion; the person sharing their opinion has to be jealous because it's better to make speculative attacks on their personality than debate the merits of the opinion.

For example, I find humblebragging irritating but love celebrating people's achievements. That means whilst I love posts about people's promotions, children's successes, fitness updates, and so on, I find posts like "Lovely Tuesday for new nails. It's a shame I chipped one already" with a photo of the almost immaculate nails poised on the steering wheel of a new Audi so the logo is showing to be ridiculous humblebragging.

Most people would be capable of discussing the merits of that type of social media posts, the difference between sharing success and humblebragging and have an interesting discussion.

Some people are incapable of that and would declare that anyone who finds that sort of post mildly annoying doesn't find that posting style annoying, they're just jealous because quite obviously they're fed up with their lot in life, wish their job paid more, wish they had the disposable income to have regular mail appointments and clearly are jealous because they can't afford an Audi.

It's bizarre.

I take photos of the DC on Christmas, but never of their piles of gifts, it's just never occurred to me to do that. I don't tend to share many photos generally, though.

I don't think it's particularly vulgar or deliberately unkind, though. People post all kinds of stuff on social media, Christmas is no different than any other time of year where people advertise their lives to others.

Yes, I would think that bitching about how other people celebrate Christmas is absolutely a sign that you aren't happy with your own lot. If you were, you'd be able to be happy for other people.

Who said they had a problem seeing their family/friends happy celebrating Christmas?

There's a big difference between a family photo by a tree & a pile of presents. I also can't stand pouting selfies & those who are grateful to be safe because they visited the scene of a terrorist attack 5 yrs ago 🙄

Social media can be fantastic but let's not pretend that's it's doesn't encourage narcissism & consumerism & can damage mental health. I can criticise this behaviour even though I don't participate because it doesn't exist in vacuum, see people sharing footage of accidents etc.

"I think you'd have to be very insecure about your own situation to think anything more than "ah that's nice" to pictures of happy families on Facebook."

Insecure or maybe sad, lonely, living in poverty, recently bereaved/separated or just able to empathise with people who are going through any of that.

And it's not happy families is it? Nobody objects to a cute photo of your kids opening a gift, your family round the dinner table or even the now-obligatory 'matching pjs' photo. It's the 'look what I've spent' posts that are so irritating.

"Yes, I would think that bitching about how other people celebrate Christmas is absolutely a sign that you aren't happy with your own lot."

Of course some people aren't happy with their own lot. Of course some people are bloody suffering. What amazes me is that you, and people like you, decide to shove your massive pile of gifts down their throats anyway.

So anyone who has less than you feels a bit crap, and anyone who has more is probably laughing at your giant pile of Primark tack. It makes no sense. It is for no purpose or point other than to show the world what you've spent, but the world doesn't care.

@itsmecathycomehome I completely agree with this!! I have said several times this post was not aimed at the beautiful family pictures or of the joy on their children's faces when they have received something they have wished for! It just irritated me how someone would post a sofa FULL of wrapped presents with the caption "He's been! I hope my son/daughter likes them!"
I have never understood the need for it and yes I do find it braggy. Am I jealous? No, definitely not, as I know that the thought I have put into my gifts to my family is appreciated much more than someone liking my photo of them perfectly wrapped.

And as for the post about graduation, pregnancy, new job etc. It is not the same and they are celebrating a milestone in their lives! I just cannot fathom the whole idea of taking a picture of a wrapped present (or even taking a picture of your haul as an adult saying "boy done good" 😂😂🙈).

Growing up, my mum always took pictures as memories to share in a photo album between family, not for the whole world to see and never of just the presents.

You know, I think a lot of these pics are probably as innocent as the type your mum (and mine) used to take for personal photo albums. Except nowadays most people aren't in the habit of making personal photo albums. For me the easiest, most convenient way of saving, dating and retrieving a photo is to share it on FB. It takes seconds and then it's always there easy to find. Super easy - but the drawback is of course, is that it's not private.

"Super easy - but the drawback is of course, is that it's not private."

Well it can be. There's a security setting that's 'just me'. Or you could have a customised list of close family for those bragging posts that only your mum will want to see.

I ALWAYS do a 'he's been!' post, because of Bottom - for people of a certain age, 'has HE been?' has a different connotation.

And it's def not a brag - not sure anyone could tell my son's traditional Santa sack had anything in it at all this year.

FB is a really useful record of photos - every year I get a book made of my FB posts and pictures. I can imagine how badly Samuel Pepys and the like would have been viewed by Ye Olde MumsPaper....