"He's been" posts

[Lxx16]

Apologies if you do it but I cannot stand the "guess who has been to our house" posts. Is it just me that gets irritated by them? I am pregnant so may be my hormones but I have seen 5 on fb already and it's Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day! Also, I find them quite braggy and think people only do it just to show off how much they have spoilt their children. I hope I don't turn into one of them 😂🙈

Kljnmw3459... Do people actually wrap up regular everyday items to bulk up a Christmas gift pile???

Never seen one of those type of posts.

I guess it depends on what you consider every day items.
When the grands were little they loved getting a ream of paper and their own color cartridges for printing anything they wanted.
Drawing paper was a precious gift to me, second only to books, when I was little.

Christmas eve boxes that are full of memorable things to do on Xmas eve I get but ones ive seen today on Facebook are wasteful tat. Christmas eve for me as a child was really exciting watching Xmas movies I don't remember my pj's matching my mother's or having a box full of plastic crap I'd never use again

I'm with you on this, I have one particular friend who is a compulsive 'look at me' poster on social media.

Last Christmas she posted a series of photographs showing an absolutely obscene amount of presents around the three Christmas trees she had in the house. There was so much I was left wondering if the fire brigade would have to be called to rescued if the mountains of gifts toppled over!

It turned out the kids were crying in the end because three hours in they still hadn't managed to open the presents

This year she said she had cut down, and then a saw the photos, her perception of cutting down must be filling two skips instead of three with gift wrap this year. Honestly there is no need for this, bigger is not better.

" Sorry I haven't been on today, I've had a really good day with family... without validation from the internet."

It didn't happen if it's not on sm you massive liar.

Do people actually wrap up regular everyday items to bulk up a Christmas gift pile???

Yeah I’ve seen this a lot. Someone upthread mentioned including underwear too. That’s a basic necessity in our house so while DDs piles are tiny in comparison she’d be more confused opening these every day things.

Well I think some people are just grumpy. It’s Christmas. Yes, some people don’t have big piles of presents, some people don’t get anything but does that mean that no one can ever talk about what they do have? I see people post on Facebook all the time about their amazing holidays, their nice new cars, new handbags etc.., is that wrong too? We don’t go abroad, we don’t have nice cars of fancy clothes but it doesn’t bother me that other people do have these things. I feel happy for them and I like seeing photos of people enjoying themselves. I enjoy seeing piles of presents and kids faces when they open them. I’m sat here watching my daughter build her Lego set, she got a few sets for Christmas and wasn’t overwhelmed, she’s not spoilt, she’s just a child enjoying Christmas.

There will be people on your sm who are having a shit Christmas right now. Post stuff that makes people happier, not worse about themselves

No. I'll post what I like on my own social media, including the pretty presents under my tree. I've had REALLY shit Christmases that would curl your hair, and I would NEVER expect someone else to avoid posting about their own enjoyment so as not to make me feel bad. Ridiculous.

I'm fed up with the 'family gathered around the tree in matching pj' photos. It's absurd. Why would you want to do that?
And the obviously posed ones with smiling-faced children wearing santa hats at a jaunty angle, surrounded by presents in an immaculate room.
Where are the ones with the kids fighting over the last matchmaker, the carnage that is "I've unwrapped everything why are there no more presents?" and the ones with the drunk uncle slumped on the sofa with mince pie crumbs all down his beard?

I've got 4 kids. Reality was kids crying, teens being ungreatful...some moaning they got less than others...fighting...whining...more fighting...etc!

I'll admit I've been appalled at some of the posts I've seen and my kids have seen. Huge mountain of presents under one tree for two hideously, rude, sullen young teens I know ... sure this will help their crappy entitled attitude. And my boys have been amazed at how many of the boys they know got the newest iphone, latest ipad (or whatever it is) and trainers that cost £££ ... not one item each, but all of them! ... as well as stacks of other pricey things. Many of these children already seem so entitled and sneery at others who don't have 'name brands' and frequent expensive holidays. The sense of entitlement they're building in their children is staggering.

I don't have sm but I don't understand the need to post any pics at all of presents under trees etc

I never put piles of presents on it’s crass. I do love seeing everyone enjoying themselves tho, matching pjs and kids opening things excitedly, people playing games ect. Makes me smile

The only photos I've seen have been, close of extended family, neither of which had anything other than a reasonable pile of presents. Unlike the year our entire living room was taken up with presents. Mind you we had 3 children, plus 4.grandparents and great grandparents presents under there as well as ours.

I hate it too
Showy and insensitive to others

I've got 4 kids. Reality was kids crying, teens being ungreatful...some moaning they got less than others...fighting...whining...more fighting...etc!

Don't often see this for some reason & very much the reality ime🤣

Those that think it's fine to post large piles of presents or similar do you teach your children that it's not nice to show off?

family gathered around the tree in matching pj' photos. It's absurd. Why would you want to do that

Because we wanted to. HTH.

"No. I'll post what I like on my own social media, including the pretty presents under my tree."

Of course. You can post what you like, and people seeing your nauseating posts can have a good laugh at you.

"Because we wanted to. HTH."

I don't mind the pj pics. It's so obligatory now that it's pointless. And the ones I've seen look so cheap and nasty that they'd go up in smoke if you walked within six foot of a naked flame. But I think they're happy photos and nice memories, with no obvious showing off.

It's the showing off ones that irk, but then they are also funny because there's generally a correlation between the showing off and the not actually having anything to show off about.

people seeing your nauseating posts can have a good laugh at you

Ah now that's the thing. I wouldn't have friends that would laugh at me, I only keep people around who are normal, nice people. It wouldn't happen. In my circles, we don't mock our friends and loved ones for enjoying things. Not like the nastiness on Mumsnet.

"Ah now that's the thing. I wouldn't have friends that would laugh at me, I only keep people around who are normal, nice people. It wouldn't happen."

That's probably what my friends say about me.

Also, have you read the thread? The objection isn't to people enjoying themselves at all. Post as many lovely Xmas photos as you like. PJ photos, tree photos, xmas dinner photos, kids unwrapping gifts or playing on new bikes? I love them all!

This is about the nauseating crap bragginess of posting a photo of a pile of gifts. Really think about why you do it. Because if you're kidding yourself that it's because you're a nice person, in what way does 'look how much I've spent' or 'look how lucky my kids are' suggest any nice traits whatsoever?

I'm not mocking you for enjoying yourself at all. But if, in order to enjoy yourself, you have to have a little brag, then go for it but yes I will mock you for it, but it's not nastiness from me, quite the opposite.

How would you know how much I've spent by looking at a pile of wrapped gifts? You'd have absolutely no idea. Your point is invalid.

Those that think it's fine to post large piles of presents or similar do you teach your children that it's not nice to show off?

Absolutely people can post what they want but in the same vein people can criticise & question those posts.