"He's been" posts

[Lxx16]

Apologies if you do it but I cannot stand the "guess who has been to our house" posts. Is it just me that gets irritated by them? I am pregnant so may be my hormones but I have seen 5 on fb already and it's Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day! Also, I find them quite braggy and think people only do it just to show off how much they have spoilt their children. I hope I don't turn into one of them 😂🙈

I only have one person post these but they are Christmas crazy and have their decorations up from November the 1st and posted an angry post about children ruining Christmas for other children by saying Santa isn't real and how she still believes in him too.

I do find the piles of presents a bit much but maybe I am just jealous I can't afford much for my lot.

I deleted fb nearly 3 yrs ago so do not see them. I don't show anyone our tree as it doesn't matter xx

Very braggy! If stuff like this pisses you off then delete the apps and don’t look. Instagram is the worst!!

@Lxx16

I was about to say 'whatchoo talkin' bout willis?!'

Then I popped onto facebook and the first thing I saw was a post on my timeline with 'SANTA' putting gifts around the Christmas tree, with 'Look who's here! The kids will be so excited tomorrow!' alongside it.

I just laughed. Never seen it before. But I have now.

I tend to just to ignore them (with an inward eye roll 😂) I couldn't bring myself to do it as I'd be frightened someone will break in and we'll go downstairs in the morning and everything will be gone, which I think could be a little irrational but better safe than sorry right??

I posted a picture of our stockings... Nothing spectacular, does that count?

An old friend of mine post photos of piles and piles of huge presents every birthday/Christmas. Worse now that she has two kids. No idea where she puts all the stuff!

When posts like this suggest ‘get better friends’ ... seriously we can’t be friends with perfectly nice people who happen to get a bit dicky about Christmas? The two aren’t mutually exclusive.

I totally agree with the OP though and for this reason would wholeheartedly recommend staying off of Facebook for the next 48 hours. You will enjoy your Christmas so much more.

Oh dear. I have just put a photo of us as a family in front of the tree on Facebook to wish everyone happy Christmas. I barely ever post on FB so thought it’s a nice opportunity at Christmas. No intention to brag about us as a happy family or brag about presents. It was a good pile but definitely not over the top.

I have noticed that the friend I have who used to post pictures of a sea of presents covering almost the whole lounge, along with posts about how no one has the right to moan about how much she spent because she saves all year and anyone could save if they tried hard enough blah blah blah, has this year posted a rather much smaller pile of presents along with a post about how sick she is of the massive piles of presents people have bought and they should be more considerate of people who can't afford to do so.

It's interesting how this is seen as so braggy and OTT that people are unfriending over it. Do you do that when people talk about other types of good fortune, as well?

Jealousy isn't a good look on some of you. I have a very "unposed" sort of Christmas, but trashing women's work (and it's almost all women's work) is honestly kind of a shabby thing to do. "I'm not like THOSE ones." Sure. Which is why you have to let us know so much?

LOL, Porpentia, I was about to say the same. Several people I see lamenting the big piles of pressies this year were doing it themselves a few years ago, on social media and everything! I think some people who used this to brag were rather put out when they saw that other people could out-brag them, if it came to that.

I'm in two minds here. I don't mind the pics of parents and children in matching pj's, or the "Santa's been" pics, usually.

However tonight I have unfriended 2 people and unfollowed 3 people. The parents, baby and extended family in matchin Elf pj's - including gran and grandpa - was a tad too much 🤢

Plus pics of ridiculous amounts of presents some parents are posting - a whole living room floor plus 3 piece suite and table covered in presents FOR ONE CHILD!

Not for me... Thank God for the FB unfriend/unfollow button.

Never seen this type of post.

I can't put my finger on whether it's the braggy element or the cringy one that gets me. I mean is it not mainly adults on Facebook? So who is this "he" for the benefit of?

@OrangeTwirl it seems very harsh to defriend someone over a photo in pyjamas

I must be one of a minority group because I've never received or seen a 'he's been' post with pictures. Have I missed out I wonder?

Who is 'he' and why do people need to know that 'he's been' (what has he done while 'he's been'....)?

I don’t think it is jealousy. It’s just so tasteless. Up there with people showing off new cars on Facebook. If you need people to know about it in that sort of way you’re having it more for other people than you are yourself I think and it’s the same with the Xmas present piles IMO.

Luckily none of my friends do this but it's the same type that post a pic of their new nails on a steering wheel, etc. It's so weird particularly as it's a stealth brag but not remotely stealthy!

The twee matching pj posts do my tits in though. It's way too try hard for my taste.

I agree! So many tonight. It's making my cringe hurt.

I don't mind the present ones though. I like all of the Christmassy living rooms.

The PJs are a step too far though. I would not unfriend though. I just scroll on.

@OrangeTwirl im with you on the deleting . And it's certainly not through jealousy as someone mentioned.

I want my son to see it before bloody Facebook does. Also, the masses of presents to me doesn’t say bragging, it says, that kid is going to grow up feeling entitled, oh yay!

Jealousy isn't a good look on some of you. I have a very "unposed" sort of Christmas, but trashing women's work (and it's almost all women's work) is honestly kind of a shabby thing to do.
And yet again the approach of "if women say they dislike an action of another women it's best to dismiss their opinion by saying they must be jealous" strikes back.
It's such a dull way of dismissing different views, pretend to be adopting a feminist stance whilst telling other women their opinions are driven by jealousy.

There will be millions households up and down the country with presents under the treen(including people on this thread). Nobody is trashing the existence of presents. They're rolling their eyes and sharing minor irritation at a type of social media post about the presents.

People can have an opinion about those who share lots of political posts online, those who do 34 selfies a day of them and the kids with various Snapchat animal filters, vaguebooking, humble bragging, photos of present piles and so on without being jealous.

I normally don't mind I just scroll past. But I have hidden one friend, don't want to delete as I see her weekly..
Today alone 117 pics have been uploaded.
From her ds in morning with his Xmas eve box. Posing then 10x pics holding a dvd.. 7 holding a hot choc etc

Then another 20+ of him eating a macdonalds with an Xmas balloon

Then this eve.. 60 odd with him holding a mince pie, stood by tree, laid in bed.. Then the one of he's been

Plus all. The time hop type ones 2 yrs worth..

This isn't a one off. He's very pfb and she loves to take pics.. From.him watching inpad. Waiting for a bus. Eating each meal. You name it. There's a pic. Even potty training

It's super crass and fake. The worst offender on my feed is in a dv relationship. I have simply posted Womens aid helpline number on my own profile