"He's been" posts

[Lxx16]

Apologies if you do it but I cannot stand the "guess who has been to our house" posts. Is it just me that gets irritated by them? I am pregnant so may be my hormones but I have seen 5 on fb already and it's Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day! Also, I find them quite braggy and think people only do it just to show off how much they have spoilt their children. I hope I don't turn into one of them 😂🙈

Today alone 117 pics have been uploaded. Who even has the time to take that many photos?!

@OrangeTwirlit seems very harsh to defriend someone over a photo in pyjamas

Yes. I've been on FB for years. Only this year have I felt the need to unfriend someone over a FB pic. It was rather nauseous though. At least I don't have another cringy pic to look forward to again next year

It’s toe curlingly tacky!
It’s always the people (ime) with the least who share these pictures so maybe it’s just an just sense of pride but so tasteless.

I used to be guilty of this, not that my kids get a lot and certainly not piles of gifts .......then a friend had a run of shit luck and her kids only got a Christmas and a place to stay that year because myself and a few others stepped in.

Makes me feel grubby now seeing the obvious brag posts.......I don't even share pics of my DC opening gifts now unless it's via pm to thank someone.

I am sort of one of these people! We have matching family pjs - me, DP and DS16m that I posted on Facebook but we don't have the presents under the tree yet we will get them out in the morning because he is much to young to realise what is going on but it's probably something I would do when DS is grown up a bit!

The weirdest thing about teaching children that a stranger comes and gives good children gifts depending on if they were naughty or nice at Christmas is the sub text that all poor children are bad.

Oh I hate this. Matching pj pics also annoying. And 'the boy did good.'

Haven't seen any irritating 'she said YES!' Posts this year though. I think my friends and I are getting too old, most are engaged or married (or divorced) by now.

But surely the whole point of Facebook is to brag?? 😂

I don't like it either. It does indeed come across as a brag, and I always assume that they're overcompensating for some perceived inadequacy. The wealthy people I know don't do it, so it is the gift equivalent of wearing all your gold jewellery at once IMO.

Having said that, my DSis did this last year but when I took the piss she said it was about recording happy events for her dc to look at when older.

I’m not loving it this year because I am insanely jealous that our baby isn’t here for Christmas yet. She’s being delivered on the 31st so I have an entire year more to wait until I gently do Christmas for her! Not that if she had been early I would have done a Father Christmas stocking anyway as she would have been days old. But having her here would have been nice!

Can't stand then. Saw a friend today say "it's not about the material stuff" only to post a pic of the 20 million presents her kids have got waiting for them. Okay, exaggeration but it was too many presents to count.

I do feel like bragging about how little my Dds have got. Ha! We completely cut back to 4 items each from us (one thing they want, need, wear, and read). No guilt because I know they'll actually love there gufts and play with their new toys.

I do it .... I realise some people on here would see it as bragging. However anyone I’m friends with who knows me would know that is not my point. I put so much into Xmas for the kids, love and time and care and I guess I feel proud that everything looks so lovely and perfect when I didn’t have anything lovely or perfect as a child.

I want my kids to be able to remember how pretty and nicely wrapped the gifts were and how sparkly the tree was so I take photos.

Suppose I could just not share them with friends but I suppose I do because I’m pleased with myself (is that bad?)

Who knows what other people think but I know there is no boasting involved, if I had any friends who were struggling or having an awful time It would occur to me to not post the pics I think

Anyway! Merry Xmas! Can’t wait for the kids to wake up now lol

Also a thought ... my mum always took photos of the sofa with gifts on... its like a thing we do in our family, one of those things you just do. Maybe it’s like that for other people too?

I do think photos are a good idea for those times when your kid gets declined and magazine and throws a huge “you never buy me anything” meltdown. You can whack out the Christmas and birthday Facebook photo album and ask for a sincere apology.

Bit tempted to go and tell my PFB "he's been" however he is 26 and don't think he'd appreciate it as he'll have a festive hangover. I can't bear the pictures of piles of presents either. Makes me sad for those kids who don't get much.

It’s midnight where I am, and Some twat has started letting off fireworks . In fact a few of them are. That’s something to complain about.

I’m mostly gobsmacked at the piles tbh, some go overboard. But then I’ve just put all ours out and H said it was masses, but then we’ve got 3 DC. There is one small one for me and 4 for H.

It makes my fists itch.

DH left me and our toddler twins three weeks ago. Their main presents aren’t even assembled because I’ve had no time and DH hasn’t done it. All these posts are just making me feel like even more of a shit mum

I have two poorly children in bed who believe but are too ill to care 😢 I never do the he’s been post but they are making me feel super sad this year plus guilty as only flu so know will be ok in a few days and there are really seriously ill children out there

I want my kids to be able to remember how pretty and nicely wrapped the gifts were and how sparkly the tree was so I take photos.

Absolutely normal, it's the taking photos/videos that's a problem.

Suppose I could just not share them with friends but I suppose I do because I’m pleased with myself (is that bad?)

So it is a form of showing off or looking for validation, why do you need that? I genuinely don't understand.

Absolutely normal, it's not the taking photos/videos that's a problem.

I forgot the not, too early!

I did this last night, not to boast but just because I love Christmas, my kids end up with all the stuff they need throughout the year , underwear, swimming Google's, toiletries etc, I do go ott, but I had shit Christmas ' as a child and this makes me happy. It's not about bragging, or I have more than you, it's just me being happy and wanting my kids not to have the same shitty time I had as a kid.

@coffeeandbiscuittime I share all the same sentiments, I adore Christmas. I just don't understand why one needs to publicly post about it?

You can love Christmas, want to celebrate it. Take joy in your home, meal & your kids excitement. I film
my kids opening or standing next to their presents. Their sheer joy is amazing. Just don't feel the need to post it on social media.

It's not about bragging, or I have more than you, it's just me being happy and wanting my kids not to have the same shitty time I had as a kid

I get that as Christmas for me as a child holds no good memories whereas mine will have plenty. I just don’t feel the need to share it on FB or why anyone would other than to brag. If sharing with family, that can be done privately by WhatsApp etc.

I posted it, not because of a stealth boast (kids get one present from Santa and a stocking, we are not well off), but because I am excited and I love Christmas.

I wouldn't judge anyone, because I am not insecure about this and I prefer to save my negative energy for something that genuinely matters. (Haven't found anything yet this Christmas).

Tra-la-la-la-laaaaaaaa

Have some festive biscuits to dip in your brew and stick a festive smile on your face people!

because I am not insecure about this

Why would I be insecure about not posting on social media?

Brag if you want but just own it.