To knock on the door and demand my package

[The2Ateam]

I sold my house back in Feb.

Ordered much lusted after coat online yesterday - imagine my panic when I realised that I hadn’t updated by address. Anyway, new coat has been delivered to and signed for at old address according to Hermes tracker.

ABIU to knock on the door and ask for my package?

For context, buyers proved to be very unreasonable & difficult people during sale.

Can’t believe I would be so stupid.

Is it a Barbour by any chance?

Treat the coat as a separate issue. They haven’t (yet) dome anything wrong. You made the mistake.

Pop round, knock the door, apologise and as for your coat.

Keep it calm.

Just ask them nicely.

Get a shitter on if they say no. But wait 'til then.

Knock and politely ask on your old house, and all the neighbouring houses. Then walk around checking all bins, sheds etc. That crowd could have left it anywhere. Hope you get your coat.

Whilst your experience of them is that they can be difficult, if your default is to demand rather than simply ask nicely to maybe their opinion of you is not so high either.

Either way - if they are difficult when you have asked then you can upgrade to demanding. At the moment it is unnecessarily;y aggressive.

I feel your pain, by the way, The new owners of our last house took delivery of a solid state disc drive and denied all knowledge (we had changed the address the company held, but for some reason the still sent it to the old one, as it was an exchange) and spent my Tesco vouchers.

Just go and knock. A large part of the country will be waiting for parcels. They havent done anything wrong yet.

If you go in with a stroppy attitude, they are going to tell you to piss off. Anyone would. If someone came round to my house aggressively asking for a parcel, I would tell them I didn't have it, shut the door on them and send the bloody thing straight back where it came from.

Are you sure they were the unreasonable ones?

Go and ask for/get it ffs, it can’t be urgent if you need census first.

So I fully expect them to deny or decline to give me the package, leading me to upgrade my style of requesting from asking to demanding.

If you "demand" in an aggressive manner, I expect them to tell you to sod off. Regardless of the history, you need to go, apologise for YOUR mistake and ask politely. You already know they're awkward, so going in aggressively "demanding" anything will just make them worse.

Just knock and ask nicely.
If it was me, I'd have a bottle of wine or tin of biscuits in hand to thank them for handing it over.
Goodwill to all and all that...

YABU. You don’t get to demand anything considering this was your error.

You should knock and ask politely, but if you have an aggressive attitude towards them like you do on this thread you should expect them to deny you your package.

If someone came to my home demanding something I'd be very put out. You've caused inconvenience to them by not updating your address. Go to their home, thank you for taking in the package and leave. So rude

As a property lawyer I can say that often it is me who is being “unreasonable” rather than the people buying or selling...so they may be perfectly lovely. As with everyone else...be nice and apologise for the inconvenience 😁

Go and ask nicely for what is rightfully yours.

If they get shifty about it then you can demand - and show proof of purchase etc.

Well, you've got several choices

• Pop round, explain the situation and ask for the coat
• March round, demand they return the item they've misappropriated
• Leave it with them.

FFS MN

I suggest you don't turn up expecting them to be difficult. Just ask them nicely.

Yes, that would be very rude and obnoxious. You could just call and politely ask for it.

MRS ANGRY WANTS HER COAT!

Demanding is normal in her world. FFS Mumsnet, don't you get that!

...and they were the ones causing problems during the sale? ok then...

OP, go get your coat :) and if they deny it then tell them you have proof it was signed for at the address (hopefully their signature/name) and you'll contact the police if they refuse to hand it over.

We had to get the police out once for an expensive misappropriated parcel, they were very helpful.

Good luck OP, I was on maternity leave and my team sent a card and vouchers to me at my old address. DH went round and asked current occupiers if they had an envelope addressed to me, we’d moved more than 2 years before so redirection had run out. They denied receiving any envelope, I suspect they opened it and found the mamas and papas vouchers and decided to keep them, I was gutted more about the card and messages from my team. Would have happily just had card minus the vouchers

My initial post provides context that based on previous experience of these people, they are very unreasonable

Now I wonder why they might have been unreasonable?

You could go round and yell "WHERE THE FUCK IS MY FUCKING COAT???"