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Original poster

To knock on the door and demand my package

183 replies

The2Ateam · 23/12/2019 18:21

I sold my house back in Feb.

Ordered much lusted after coat online yesterday - imagine my panic when I realised that I hadn’t updated by address. Anyway, new coat has been delivered to and signed for at old address according to Hermes tracker.

ABIU to knock on the door and ask for my package?

For context, buyers proved to be very unreasonable & difficult people during sale.

Can’t believe I would be so stupid.

OP posts:
StapleTakerOuter · 23/12/2019 18:59

Of course you should

JacquesHammer · 23/12/2019 19:00

How am I being agressive?

Well you used the word “demand” Confused

RhymingRabbit3 · 23/12/2019 19:01

"Demand" does sound aggressive. Like you'll hammer on the door and shout "give me my coat!"

YWNBU to knock ok the door and ask for your package.

Original poster
The2Ateam · 23/12/2019 19:04

My initial post provides context that based on previous experience of these people, they are very unreasonable. So I fully expect them to deny or decline to give me the package, leading me to upgrade my style of requesting from asking to demanding. FFS Mumsnet.

OP posts:
FancyAMincePie · 23/12/2019 19:06

You need to politely ask and apologise for the error

MsJaneAusten · 23/12/2019 19:06

Bloody hell. Just knock and ask/explain. No drama. No demands need making.

halcyondays · 23/12/2019 19:07

Just because they were difficult during the house sale, doesn't mean they would want to nick your parcel.

Patchworkquilt24 · 23/12/2019 19:08

Yeah, you did sound unnecessarily aggressive. Just knock on the door and explain your mistake and ask for your parcel. Like a normal person.

WorraLiberty · 23/12/2019 19:09

So why are you asking Mumsnet?

What's the alternative? To let them keep your coat and wish them a Merry Christmas? Confused

Just go, apologise and ask for it.

riotlady · 23/12/2019 19:09

Just ask?

FamilyOfAliens · 23/12/2019 19:10

Why are you even asking?

churchandstate · 23/12/2019 19:10

This is your mistake. Knock with a card, apologise for inconveniencing them at a busy time of year, ask for your coat back. Done.

ProfessorSlocombe · 23/12/2019 19:10

for some reason, I find myself thinking if I were in the householders place, I would have insisted on returning the package to sender as "delivered in error" to ensure I had covered myself against being accused of something.

PlumsGalore · 23/12/2019 19:11

Not being funny but for the last few weeks i seem to have taken delivery of 30 parcels for my bloody family. No idea what is coming, so these people may have taken it in in innocence. Kill them with kindness and apologies and just ask for it back.

Ullupullu · 23/12/2019 19:12

Why are you assuming how they will react? Just knock and ask with a smile.

Nicknacky · 23/12/2019 19:12

It matters not that they were difficult during the sale. It’s your error, not theirs and if they have any sense they will return it to the company.

Especially if you go “demanding” it.

boomboom1234 · 23/12/2019 19:13

How else would you get your coat back but to knock and smile and ask for it and say you hope they are settling in. What a bizarre post!?

itgetshardereveryday · 23/12/2019 19:13

You're working yourself up about a situation that might not even happen (them being awkward). Do you probably will look pissed off / aggressive when you go to their door which may in turn lead to them being rude.
Or they could actually have stolen your coat.

Just knock on the door (before 9pm), apologise for your error and ask for it back politely.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 23/12/2019 19:13

How am I being agressive?

Yes, the use of "demand" and your whole posting style on this thread really.

Cookit · 23/12/2019 19:14

You sound aggressive because in your post it was clear that the mistake was all yours. It also doesn’t sound like you’ve been trying and failing to get it for a while so the whole “demanding” it thing seems OTT. It’s like you think they’ve stolen it.
At present they’ve done nothing wrong.

Sargass0 · 23/12/2019 19:15

Do we need a Zilla in the title?

Are we going to get updates such as "went round and asked politely for my parcel. CF's denied they ever had it and called the police...."

Are we going to get to a thread 2 I wonder?

notangelinajolie · 23/12/2019 19:16

Getting all demandy will not get you your coat. Be nice and see what happens. Please and thank you are good words to use Smile

Cookit · 23/12/2019 19:17

And of course it’s not U to ask for your coat .. surely it’s the only option available to you given the circumstances? But yes you would BU to “demand” the coat.

I’ve taken in packages for people before. I didn’t think there was any big drama in people debating what to do about the fact that I had their parcel.. they just... rang the doorbell and asked for it... crazy, eh?!

Pfefferkuchen · 23/12/2019 19:17

YABU to start a thread about it. What else do you want to do? Gift them the coat? Confused

JacquesHammer · 23/12/2019 19:18

My initial post provides context that based on previous experience of these people, they are very unreasonable. So I fully expect them to deny or decline to give me the package, leading me to upgrade my style of requesting from asking to demanding. FFS Mumsnet

Yes, FFS MN for not gleaning the above from the short OP. Do try harder 🙄

Coatzilla.

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