Feeling disgusted by friend’s DD’s salary

[DisgustedParent]

Best friend’s DD is the same age as mine (26) and we’ve known each other since both DD’s were born. My DD went off to uni but struggled to find a job after her degree and has ended up working in a call centre (financial services) where she is paid very poorly, has to work unsociable hours and is not treated well by management at all. It’s awful to watch her struggling to get by after rent and bills, knowing that despite working long hours, she may never own a property of her own or be able to afford to do all of the things she wants to do in life. My friend knows all about DD’s struggles and my worries for her as we are very close.

Her DD went straight in to an apprenticeship after school at 16 and landed herself in a role in Data Protection. Over the years she’s completed all sorts of professional certifications in the field and worked her way up, but never did a degree. I hear today from my friend that she has just accepted a senior management data protection role at the same large financial firm where my DD works. Friend has gleefully told me that her DD will be earning an eye watering £70,000 per year along with all sorts of benefits such as home working, health insurance, allocated parking... all of which of course aren’t available to my DD despite working for the same employer.

AIBU in feeling absolutely furious about this on DD’s behalf and thinking that there is something so very wrong about a company which pays its front line workers the absolute minimum, with no benefits whatsoever, whereas those with more ‘fancy’ job roles who probably don’t do an awful lot at all (and friend’s DD at 26 is still barely old enough to be out of school!) get to swan in to the company earning an astronomical amount, with lots of benefits on top too. Friend’s DD has already bought a house, has a brand new car, is always on holiday and draped in designer clothes. Meanwhile my DD and the rest of her call centre colleagues are threatened with redundancy regularly and are frequently told that salaries will not be increased as cuts have to be made.....How can this be justified?!

Surely you're joking.

Would you be disgusted if it was your daughter earning the higher salary?

You just sound very jealous.

You sound very bitter.

YABU and you sound very jealous.

I can understand why you are disappointed but yabvvu.

What?

I’d hate to be your friend tbh. What a jealous person you are.

Oh go away. Id be happy for someone getting on so well at a young age. Good for her working her way up and having a job from the age of 16.

Total snobbery from you because friend's DD did an apprenticeship and yours did a degree. Big whoop. Degrees aren't all they are cracked up to be and often don't lead to a job.

How dare someone take an apprenticeship and do better than your daughter who has a university degree, eh?

Oh dear. Do you realise how jealous you are sounding here?

Do you think that just because your friends daughter doesn’t have a degree, then she isn’t smart and doesn’t deserve to do well?

It sounds like the woman has done a great job getting up the career ladder: she has qualified in a highly sought after niche role, so her pay quite rightly reflects this.

Stop being snooty about her not having a degree.

Can I ask, if this was a man, would you be as snooty?

You sound very odd. Your DD's friend has been employed for much longer and has earned relevant professional qualifications. Comparison in the thief of joy.

Is this a reverse?

Which speaks volumes about the worth of apprenticeships for specific roles. Fair play to the girl for grafting hard and getting such a fab salary at her age!

Yabvvvvvvvvvvvu

Wow, I hope that you have tin foil at the ready because you are about to get absolutely roasted!

How do you know they dont do an awful lot? I guarantee you have no idea. At one point I had a high earning and high paid job. I'm sure it did look to the rest of the world like I had the life of dreams. Of course they didn't see the pressure for targets , the 2 am emails, the tendency that when the wind changed so did your job. Bitterness about someone elses success is just sad and frankly quite tacky.

Why are you writing off your 26 year old DD as though this will be her life?

She managed to get a degree. She can retrain, if SHE wants to.

This is nothing to do with your friend, her DD or the employer.

What stopped your daughter doing what this other girl did? Did someone tell her she couldn’t?

Fair play to your friends DD. Nobody hands a 26 year old woman £70k+ for nothing. She’s clearly a grafter and makes a fortune for the company.

I am assuming this is a not very well disguised reverse by the way.

Perhaps your daughter should apply for the same job role in the company?

It sounds like both are being paid what I'd expect for the jobs they do.

Data protection is a big thing at the moment due to recent law changes, so that's probably worked in the friend's favour.

The correct response to this situation is that your daughter needs to find a better job.

At the end of the day, your friend's DD is doing a job that's worth more to the employer than yours, due to having more relevant experience, relevant qualifications, etc. Nothing to stop your DD doing additional training/qualifications etc to improve her skills leading to a better job.

A random degree in an non relevant subject isn't much help to an employer.

I’d hide this thread op

You’re coming off as bright emerald shining green with envy, and a mean person to boot

Wow
Yabu and bitter

I also work in data protection for a large financial firm and can assure you we do do a lot.

I get it's unfair that is the same employer and the benefits should be more widely shared etc but obviously there are huge differences in the role.

You can think that without being so disrespectful about your friends daughters new position.