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Feeling disgusted by friend’s DD’s salary

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DisgustedParent · 23/12/2019 15:51

Best friend’s DD is the same age as mine (26) and we’ve known each other since both DD’s were born. My DD went off to uni but struggled to find a job after her degree and has ended up working in a call centre (financial services) where she is paid very poorly, has to work unsociable hours and is not treated well by management at all. It’s awful to watch her struggling to get by after rent and bills, knowing that despite working long hours, she may never own a property of her own or be able to afford to do all of the things she wants to do in life. My friend knows all about DD’s struggles and my worries for her as we are very close.

Her DD went straight in to an apprenticeship after school at 16 and landed herself in a role in Data Protection. Over the years she’s completed all sorts of professional certifications in the field and worked her way up, but never did a degree. I hear today from my friend that she has just accepted a senior management data protection role at the same large financial firm where my DD works. Friend has gleefully told me that her DD will be earning an eye watering £70,000 per year along with all sorts of benefits such as home working, health insurance, allocated parking... all of which of course aren’t available to my DD despite working for the same employer.

AIBU in feeling absolutely furious about this on DD’s behalf and thinking that there is something so very wrong about a company which pays its front line workers the absolute minimum, with no benefits whatsoever, whereas those with more ‘fancy’ job roles who probably don’t do an awful lot at all (and friend’s DD at 26 is still barely old enough to be out of school!) get to swan in to the company earning an astronomical amount, with lots of benefits on top too. Friend’s DD has already bought a house, has a brand new car, is always on holiday and draped in designer clothes. Meanwhile my DD and the rest of her call centre colleagues are threatened with redundancy regularly and are frequently told that salaries will not be increased as cuts have to be made.....How can this be justified?!

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Indie139 · 29/12/2019 18:47

I get what youre saying but yabu. Your daughter is still young and can still work her way up. Seems her friend is very lucky, alot of people are no where near that salary at that age including many others with degrees.

Runnerduck34 · 29/12/2019 21:52

Good for her! I understand your frustration on behalf of your DD though, life isn't always fair

saucyspice · 29/12/2019 22:13

YABU! I'm 22 now and at age where lots of my friends are starting to realise that going to uni doesn't mean they will necessarily they will walk into the high paying glitzy career that everyone promised from secondary school.

I didn't go to uni and instead have already paid off a year off of my mortgage able to drive and own my own car with a decent career and opportunities for progression. Some of my friends who went to uni seem to lack any motivation to actually do anything after uni and are unemployed, living with parents, unable to drive, etc. I must say it's quite a nice feeling especially as I felt some friends and their parents looked down on my choices a couple of years ago.

amijustparanoidorjuststoned · 29/12/2019 22:24

For the second time tonight, I hope this is a joke thread.

Try some sugar in your coffee - it will help it taste less bitter.

Fleetheart · 30/12/2019 17:15

I think it comes down to supply and demand. Data protection people are in very short supply. Therefore salaries are high. And let’s face it, most of us don’t want to do that job at any salary as it is v dull.

I get where the OP is coming from through with the lack of opportunities for graduates. Companies these days aren’t really investing in good graduate programmes any more. It’s all very short term. Good on the DDs friend; but actually we do need good investment and career paths for all.

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