To think I did nothing wrong and he is batshit?

[Lemononachair]

I live in a shared house and have had issues with one of the housemates basically since I've moved in. He is constantly making up 'rules and regulations' (which are in no way set or unforced by the landlord, just by him) and complaining about things I have or haven't done. It's built up over many many months and I'm really tired of it tbh but his recent behaviour takes the fucking biscuit.

Went to a Christmas party, at the weekend so no work the next day (me or housemate). Bf picked me up and gave me a lift home. It wasn't overly late at this point, maybe 10:30/11 at the latest. I'd had a few drinks but was not drunk or being overly loud.

Bf was laid down on one of the sofas, arms behind head and asked me to sit on his lap while we were waiting for the kettle to boil. I did, sideways, with my feet on the floor so as to just 'perch' on him and not squash him. Housemates storms out of his room and immediately announces that we are making him uncomfortable and need to stop. We separate, I get up, both apologise and then carry on with our evening.

The next day he accosted me as I was coming home and basically said he's having words with the landlord about me because I was 'dry humping my bf' in the communal space, as well as a load of other comments. This is completely untrue and I am so fucking hurt and angry because I try so hard to be a considerate housemate and live in harmony with every one else - to the extent where I will walk through the house in the dark when I leave for work at 6am just so I don't turn the lights on and disturb anyone. I actively go out of my way at every turn to be quiet and considerate (which the other housemate definitely does not!!) and yet I am the only one having made up accusations thrown at me?!

Aibu and was my behaviour out of order or is he just batshit and obviously has it in for me?

@Lemononachair - definitely, do stick up for yourself, and behave as if you have equal rights in the house as your housemate, which you do, obviously. BUT you say: "However, I will be informing the LL and the housemate (nicely)" - please do understand, the LL couldn't give a flying flamingo about your use of the house, as long as you pay rent on time and cause no damage to it or any of his property, so there is absolutely no point informing the LL about any of this.
Good luck in your search for a new place, I do hope it all goes well when you move out!

Totally agree @Jaichangecentfoisdenom, the LL doesn't care about housemate's made up drama!

I just meant that if he has been to speak to the LL and the LL does mention it to me, I'll be standing up for myself. If I thought I was in the wrong and genuinely believed that he had a valid point I would be contrite and apologetic as I hate confrontation and will do anything to avoid it normally but in this case I really don't feel I did do anything wrong and I refuse to back down. I'm entitled to have a life while I live there.

Lol it's not just your housemate who is OTT, a lot of MN posters are.
There was no one in the room ffs
And even if there was, when did it become inappropriate to sit on your boyfriend's lap?
I am glad I never shared a house with some of you.
Snogging all the time etc is not on, but she wasn't being inappropriate from her description.
OP, share your concerns with the landlord too. You sound considerate enough and he sounds like the type who actively looks for trouble. How do the other housemates feel about him?

As far as I know the other housemate is fine with him but I've never asked really! Mind you, he's never had a go at the other housemate..

He really is SO nitpicky about everything. It's very wearing and yes I do believe that if he wasn't complaining about this it would be about something else. He also asked if I could not 'do anything too late' - I assume he meant use the kitchen or come in/out of the house over the Christmas period as he would be working a lot (he doesn't even have early starts). Fortunately I was away anyway so it didn't matter but seriously?!

Oh, right, I see what you mean, @Lemononachair!
I'm guessing this housemate has been there the longest and therefore thinks he's justified in inflicting his own odd rules of behaviour on the other two sharers? It is really difficult to share a house or flat, particularly with people you didn't know beforehand, it's true, but one person just cannot impose their requirements on all the others, there has to be mutual respect and a lot of give and take.
Again, good luck with finding a new place in the New Year, @Lemononachair

you sound as if you are too passive in your dealings with him. This is why he feels it is OK to keep having a go at him. You really need to stand up for yourself and start calling him out on it. Don't avoid the shared space when he is in, make a point of using it and if he is unpleasant tell him he is being an arse. Complain about his nasty comments. I think you are giving him a free pass to bully you.

Yes I think that's exactly what he thinks, as he has been there he longest he feels entitled to set rules in place for everyone else to abide by. Doesn't work that way actually!

It's ironic really as he accused me of treating the place like it's my house - well yeah, because I live there! Of course I'm going to treat it like it is because while I live there and pay rent, it is!

Anyhow, thank you and I'm keeping my eyes peeled for something else and hopefully better, once we get into the new year fingers crossed another place will come up

He is bullying you. You going out of your way to be considerate is seen by him as weakness
Stop trying to placate him and tell him to f off
I imagine the landlord has better things to do than listen to him bitching

Arse!