To wish husband wasn't nasty about chosen Christmas gift?

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I love a video game where you create characters and control their lives, building their houses and choosing their relationships etc. I'm sure it's obvious what game it is but won't say the name so that I'm not accused of being an advertisement. It is not directly a children's game (though in the right settings children can play it and I let my DC play it sometimes, but you can get modifications to it which make it a bit more adult. Not in a sexual way, just have more interesting scenarios happen etc). My current family in the game is like a soap opera.

I love the game because I'm a very creative person and like using it to create stories. I usually like making dramatic scenarios, affairs, rivalries etc. It is my escapism. While some people like to sit and watch telly with a glass of wine while the DC are in bed (as well as the DH sometimes!) I like to have a glass of wine and play this game for an hour or so.

I have all Christmas presents for DC and family/friends bought and got DH something he wanted (we share an income so it's more just a sentimental thing) and I asked him to get me the newest expansion pack for the game. He laughed at me and said I'm ridiculous, that I'm too old for video games and I should get a life. He also enquired why I couldn't ask for perfume or something like that.

Maybe I am being hormonal (TOTM) but for some reason it's upsetting me. I have a degree, a full time job, a social life and DC. I am by no means addicted to it and I feel it is no different to people winding down in the evening by watching trash on TV. Yet nobody gets made fun of for that. I will literally just play it for a little while with a drink after the DC have gone to sleep, then will come up to bed. I don't even play it every night but it is something I enjoy (and from what I've seen online, it is actually quite a popular hobby among people my age with kids...). He has made me feel like an idiot and I now feel under pressure to stop playing it. I've asked for something else now as I hate the idea of him rolling his eyes and chuckling to himself while buying it.

@bellatrixlestat
I might give it a go, it does look.fun

@gamerchick.
We actually did rent a VR controller a couple.of years ago ( before they were affordable to buy) as a treat for ds's birthday and I liked it. In fact we had quite a bit of fun playing it as a family. DS said he might want the PS4 VR for Christmas this year ( affordable as his combined Christmas andd birthday present) and I got quite excited, thinking I'd be likely to play it a but DS changed his mind . Maybe we may buy it anyway in future. Something to think about anyway.

Oh god red dead redemption 2 is one of the best games I've ever played. The storyline broke my heart. It's such a beautiful multi faceted game, its not just a cowboy game. It's like playing a film.

That’s really horrible.

My DH spends far too much time playing computer games but as far as hobbies go-its’s fine...it’s not expensive, dangerous, bad for him or takes him away for endless weekends.

Not nice.

I've been playing Sims since the first game.

I have all of the Sims 3 expansions (on offer on Steam currently). I tried Sims 4 but wasn't impressed.

Over the Christmas period I shall be playing that, possibly a bit of WoW and maybe House Flipper.

Gaming is a fun way to unwind.

I love The Sims

How can I buy you the game? I want you to have it.

On origin? :)

I don't game myself but DS is big into world building games, I'd much rather he was doing that than watching trashy tv. He's an introvert and needs switch off time.

I hate it when people are condescending about other people's hobbies. My DH loves craft, I love reading. Both of us get odd comments mainly from people who don't have many hobbies though I have to say.

Nobody will ever buy me book vouchers (except DH) because they think it's a boring present...well it's not to me! Instead I get hand cream I don't use or inspirational signs I don't have room for...that's weird.

OP can you come back & say whether your DH is generally like this about what you want/like or just the gaming?

I play the sims I have done since it first came out I’m a 30 year old adult and my favourite way to spend my time is playing sims 4. Tell your DH to piss off because it’s no different to anyone else playing video games.

Your DH is playing a variation of "You don't want that," OP.

He needs a firm look in the eye and to be told you know exactly what you want and when he asked, you told him precisely.

What he thinks about it is not the issue here. We don't buy people we love what we think they ought to want; we buy them what they tell us they actually want.

If he is unwilling, so be it, but why not tell him not to bother at all if he won't listen to your request? You could ask him why he chose to belittle your choice rather than get busy ordering it. That should make him think.

@ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal Oh god red dead redemption 2 is one of the best games I've ever played. The storyline broke my heart. It's such a beautiful multi faceted game, its not just a cowboy game. It's like playing a film.

I sobbed like a fucking baby towards the end. And the soundtrack is awesome.

Maybe we may buy it anyway in future. Something to think about anyway

Treat yourself, the one I mentioned is a stand alone. You don't need a screen

I love Sims 3. Dh can't see the point of it because you can't build to scale 🙄 However he did buy me a laptop that handles everything Sims throws at you and more. Love TSR and download loads from there.

Do you want me to reticulate his spline?

What s sims3 like on the Wii? They had it for a fiver in the second hand shop near me

I know I'm spectacularly missing the point of the thread but you said you can change the settings so children can play it. Does this mean you can switch off the woohooing in sims4?

Don't ask for something you don't really want just to mollify him. If you want an expansion pack, there's nothing wrong with saying so. Surely he'd want you to have a gift you enjoy?

Ive not played the sims since the original. Id love to see what its like now. Is it too addictive though?

YANBU, I’ll buy it for you. Fuck your stupid husband. How much is it?

Do you think he meant to hurt your feelings?

I can be a bit insensitive and have taken the piss out of dh's obsessions with what I think are boring pastimes and he takes the piss out of my life of gaming.

It's done in good humour though and neither of us are trying to be unkind, maybe he isn't?

Explain to him that he's hurt your feelings. If he isn't sorry then he is actually a prick.

I'm waiting for DD to finish playing her family on The Sims so that I can have a go with a new character I created.

The Sims is great but that's neither here nor there. Your DH is being a child criticising your hobbies. Part of being an adult is coming to terms with the fact people like different things.

Men are always accused of being a ‘man child’ on here if they play games. Maybe he thinks the same as them. I’m surprised you’re not getting the same abuse but I suppose with you being a woman, it’s different.

Mega Sims fan here too. I don't see why unwinding by playing a game is any sillier than watching Love Island etc - my sim characters have far more interesting personalities than the majority of reality TV stars....