To wish husband wasn't nasty about chosen Christmas gift?

[gitehn]

I love a video game where you create characters and control their lives, building their houses and choosing their relationships etc. I'm sure it's obvious what game it is but won't say the name so that I'm not accused of being an advertisement. It is not directly a children's game (though in the right settings children can play it and I let my DC play it sometimes, but you can get modifications to it which make it a bit more adult. Not in a sexual way, just have more interesting scenarios happen etc). My current family in the game is like a soap opera.

I love the game because I'm a very creative person and like using it to create stories. I usually like making dramatic scenarios, affairs, rivalries etc. It is my escapism. While some people like to sit and watch telly with a glass of wine while the DC are in bed (as well as the DH sometimes!) I like to have a glass of wine and play this game for an hour or so.

I have all Christmas presents for DC and family/friends bought and got DH something he wanted (we share an income so it's more just a sentimental thing) and I asked him to get me the newest expansion pack for the game. He laughed at me and said I'm ridiculous, that I'm too old for video games and I should get a life. He also enquired why I couldn't ask for perfume or something like that.

Maybe I am being hormonal (TOTM) but for some reason it's upsetting me. I have a degree, a full time job, a social life and DC. I am by no means addicted to it and I feel it is no different to people winding down in the evening by watching trash on TV. Yet nobody gets made fun of for that. I will literally just play it for a little while with a drink after the DC have gone to sleep, then will come up to bed. I don't even play it every night but it is something I enjoy (and from what I've seen online, it is actually quite a popular hobby among people my age with kids...). He has made me feel like an idiot and I now feel under pressure to stop playing it. I've asked for something else now as I hate the idea of him rolling his eyes and chuckling to himself while buying it.

Well I've got kids and just finished an hour playing it myself! I'm really creative too and enjoy the building and design aspect. Tell your husband to bore off and get the expansion, it's so good! You cant put an age limit on a person enjoying themselves.

This site has a whole board for gaming, and about a million Pokémon threads. Plenty of grown ups play games, and I would probably enjoy that much more than perfume.

I got the simms when I was about 13 but couldn't get my mum (who was mid 40s then) off it too play it She loved it for years and I remember her playing it a lot. I never got into but u have sold me might give it another try. Your dh is bu. If it relaxing and enjoyable then wheres the problem/harm. Enjoy your game and dont take any notice. Buy yourself the new version. Its possible he didnt realise how offensive he was being or that he has hurt your feelings......if this is the only thing he has bu about I would let it go (easier said than done) and not let it get in the way of christmas. If he is critical of other things u do I would have a word and highlight he is bu to him.

The thing that gets me most is that when our first was a baby he was obsessed with them bloody war games. He'd have DD in one arm and the controller in the other. Eventually his interest in gaming fizzled out (when toddler age DD spilt juice on the console and we couldn't afford a new one) and he's not played anything for years now, but still!

He now winds down by watching stuff like Top Gear etc on Netflix. That doesn't interested me but I don't shame him for it.

I don't shame him for it.

I'd start. Now. But I'm petty like that

it’s similar to people making fun of people (more frequently men) playing on games consoles and nothing wrong with it. Having said that I do gently make fun of my DH for complaining about driving all day and then coming home and playing driving games; you’ve made me wonder if I’m being a bit horrible when I don’t mean to be.
Also for the record I like the game you’re talking about and when I was in hospital for a few weeks it kept me sane

I have a thing for an actual kids game I used to play on the very first playstation as a child Been trying to find it again for years but no such joy. My partner and I are getting ourselves a joint present this year of the new borderlands game for the xbox. Nothing wrong with gaming as long as it doesnt interfere with responsibilities.

I’ve had my first free day in weeks and I’ve spent most it playing xbox - best day ever

Get yourself on the sims, make a family of just your husband and make their lives hell that will cheer you up

Feel like I've found 'my people' with this thread and this particular game it's my guilty pleasure.

Haha @XmasRibbons me too!! Sims appreciation thread anyone (me thinking I was the only older person who plays)

pregantandengaged

If I got sick of a character I'd make them swim in the pool and remove the stairs

The Sims is awesome. Discover university is well worth it. Your DH is a twat.

Make him in the sims and make him suffer lol.

I think we all think you need to point out his hypocrisy to him, and how much he's hurt you. Why does he think that's okay? Is he always like thi?

Oh no dont let him change your mind. Please tell him what you really want for Christmas. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. Its better than drinking/smoking/gambling.

@pregantandengaged

I've been known to lock people I don't like in a room with 7 screaming toddlers with no entertainment or toilet and then leave them to it while they go insane.

Off topic here, but I really struggled to feel the same about the Sims after the Sims 2. That was just great. I remember the Seasons expansion pack coming out and being over the moon with that one.
What is the current version of sims like? I remember hating the sims 3 with a passion.

He's a twat. You sound brilliant. I love gaming, it's one of my escapisms along with reading and watching box sets with DH/DS1. You're allowed to have a hobby, he's the problem. But you know that, because this thread is full of awesome people who agree with you

@gitehn I have been known to build a basement and give them the basics to live and take away the door. Leave them to paint and sell them on to make the family upstairs rich I scared myself quite a bit that day

Lots of ppl play it, your DH is a prize prick.

I love the sims, when I was pregnant with my first child the game froze and I couldn’t pick my sim twin babies up so social services came and took them off me, I was very upset and my OH found it highly amusing! We saved a fortune sitting playing the PS for 9 months saving money for the real baby who I didn’t get taken off me ! I think it’s mean of your husband so just tell him you have changed your mind and you now want a Gucci handbag instead see if that suits him better!

Is he often tiresome about you doing anything that isn't for his benefit? Does he have some fuckwitted ideas about what a 'proper' woman does (housework, childcare, Pleasing Her Man) and resents any indication that you are an actual person with interests?

Your DH is a nob. I doubt he actually feels that way, just more trying to belittle something you like. And feels it isn't a worthy present. Ignore him.
I'm not a Gamer but I like colouring in and drawing, DP has never commented on it. Same way I haven't commented on his fascination with Aliens, we all have our thing.

Sims 2 was way better than Sims 3. Ive not played since about a year after S3 was released. I. Waiting the dc becoming self sufficient teenagers as I become obsessed with the game and may neglect them.

I love it too.

I also love Zelda on the WiiU. Far from thinking I’m sad, OH bought me the game and reads the walkthroughs for me.