To wish husband wasn't nasty about chosen Christmas gift?

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I love a video game where you create characters and control their lives, building their houses and choosing their relationships etc. I'm sure it's obvious what game it is but won't say the name so that I'm not accused of being an advertisement. It is not directly a children's game (though in the right settings children can play it and I let my DC play it sometimes, but you can get modifications to it which make it a bit more adult. Not in a sexual way, just have more interesting scenarios happen etc). My current family in the game is like a soap opera.

I love the game because I'm a very creative person and like using it to create stories. I usually like making dramatic scenarios, affairs, rivalries etc. It is my escapism. While some people like to sit and watch telly with a glass of wine while the DC are in bed (as well as the DH sometimes!) I like to have a glass of wine and play this game for an hour or so.

I have all Christmas presents for DC and family/friends bought and got DH something he wanted (we share an income so it's more just a sentimental thing) and I asked him to get me the newest expansion pack for the game. He laughed at me and said I'm ridiculous, that I'm too old for video games and I should get a life. He also enquired why I couldn't ask for perfume or something like that.

Maybe I am being hormonal (TOTM) but for some reason it's upsetting me. I have a degree, a full time job, a social life and DC. I am by no means addicted to it and I feel it is no different to people winding down in the evening by watching trash on TV. Yet nobody gets made fun of for that. I will literally just play it for a little while with a drink after the DC have gone to sleep, then will come up to bed. I don't even play it every night but it is something I enjoy (and from what I've seen online, it is actually quite a popular hobby among people my age with kids...). He has made me feel like an idiot and I now feel under pressure to stop playing it. I've asked for something else now as I hate the idea of him rolling his eyes and chuckling to himself while buying it.

Sorry OP, you ABU to still be playing Sims 4

Sims 2 forever!! Seriously how can anyone appreciate another in the franchise when Sims 2 is hands down the best? I'm currently having a bit of a breakdown over the fact I can't get it working on my new laptop! Tell your OH to go swim in a pool with no ladder if he has a problem with you playing.

Interesting responses here considering men who play video games are called childish, selfish irresponsible time wasters on MN.

He's a dick.
Is he embarrassed in case people ask what he got you? Poor baby.

I'm getting lego for xmas off DP. Happy days.

There is nothing wrong with playing video games IMO, Loads of people do it. Everyone seems to be saying how mean your husband is but maybe he was just joking. My DH plays loads of computer games and WarHammer and Dungeons and Dragons, I often laugh at him and his friends doing this but I really think it’s cute.

I think itd be one thing if he were are really awesome person who spent their spare time playing piano concertos or reading philosophy books but he’s not so he really has no right to even think that. What an arse. I’ve never liked the sims, I really don’t get it. I loathe all video games to be honest. But I watch really crap historical dramas in my spare time, and go on mn too. So I accept that I really have no right to judge anyone from playing video games beyond noting that they equally as crap as me and we both need to work on becoming better but that’s more of a value judgement than a relative judgement.

I can't believe he was so nasty. You don't have to justify yourself. It is something you enjoy and have fun with - surely he should encourage thinks that make you happy. I haven't played it in a while but I love that game! Interested to see what the latest expansion is

Back in 2017 Sims players hit 200 million so you are hardly alone in your love. Sims 4 has brought in over $1 US billion in revenue.

Your Dh is a dick. I am getting Beat Sabre for Christmas, I can't wait!

Interesting responses here considering men who play video games are called childish, selfish irresponsible time wasters on MN

It is if they are prioritising that over you know, parenting. Ignoring a crying child to keep playing their game. That goes for men or women. It is about when you play it and for how long.

Interesting that you can say you binge watched Peaky Blinders or Stranger Things, no one bats an eyelid, but game for a few hours and all of a sudden you are the worst person ever.

As a fan of Pokemon Go, I would like to say that your husband is a joyless twat.

He sounds like a dickhead. There's absolutely nothing wrong with your hobby!

I'm not a gamer but I'd defend your right to play whatever online stuff that you want to.
Your husband is a nasty sod, rolling his eyes at your hobby. How dare he

Stupid man.
The Sims is awesome 😂 I love it too. And I'm 33 with 3 kids lol
And my OH likes to play PlayStation while I play this.
How many men that age like playing video games? Loads I'd say.
My cousin likes doing jigsaws instead of telly is she too old for that too?
I don't play it every night at all. I go through phases but like many pp said it's him that's the problem. He's being mean for no reason.
Do we all need to watch telly at night In his opinion then? Is that acceptable to him? He's so stuck in his ways... not very open minded at all. I don't like him already... sigh

I flipping love The Sims 3.

I've got a whole trope of game series I've played. (Mass Effect, Assassins Creed, Red Dead, Uncharted, The Witcher, Saints Row etc.)

I'm very much an adult and gaming is my pleasure, just like people watch soaps and reality shows.

God I bloody loved the Sims 2. I had all the expansion packs!

My husband is really into racing simulation games and my gift to him this Xmas is some sort of cockpit thing which will make it like he's in a race car. It's not my thing at all (we do game a lot together but not racing games) but it's his and if he enjoys it then that's what matters. I'd never make him feel stupid for it - everyone needs escapism. It's quite cruel for your husband to make fun of you or make you feel silly for something you enjoy. He should want you to be happy and be glad you have something fun to do.

Sounds like he's jealous you have a hobby. Please don't let him shame you into not playing or playing less often. We all need to unwind and it sounds like you don't play it that much.

This really should be endearing not annoying.

Man, reading all of these posts is making me want to crack out Stardew Valley /Zoo Tycoon / Sims 4 /Pokemon Sword... Too bad I'm baby trapped! :(

If you have a partner or a husband, they shouldn't make you feel bad.
This is all you need to know.

I loved that game!! I’m a huge fan of two point hospital, planet coaster. Roller coaster tycoon, the last of us, tomb raider.... my husband buys me them and I buy him them. We share a PlayStation plus account; play the same game in shifts....

Your husband is being unkind; he should totally indulge what you want at Christmas!

Sims 4 is amazing. The only thing it really lacks is horses.

I treated myself to the new expansion this week incidentally enough, using their build a bundle on origin, ended up getting university, strangerville and bowling stuff pack for £40 where normally it would have cost over 60.

I'm also currently playing the likes of stardew valley, final fantasy, pokemon sword and shield, archeage unchained and well, let's just say I would be here all night if I listed.

I am also in the process of trying to finish knitting a christmas gift too.

Nothing wrong with playing video games, whether you are male or female.

Oh and I forgot, Jurassic world is amazing too, I binge played that after winning it in a Twitter giveaway on valentine's day

DH and I met on an online game eight years ago! We are now married with a baby and his gift to me this year? My own Switch so we can sit beside each other on the sofa and play games together each on our own console Living the dream! There's also a few games from him under the tree (I've been parcel squeezing). I've bought him a lesson driving a lorry too We are gigantic nerds and I bloody love it

I can't get along with The Sims 4 at all.

I still play 3.

I'm on the 8th generation of Thornton and Morgana Wolff's family.

Does your DH not play anything? My household is big on gaming so my DH doesn't see anything wrong with my Sims obsession.

I have a ten year old and a 1 year old and and 34. Ever since I was 14 I have played games. I love mmorpg games like lord of the rings online, Skyrim and also things like destiny. I play a game to death when I get a chance once kids are fed, played with and sleeping then get bored of them for a few weeks and don’t look at them again for a few weeks but I always go back to them! I love playing games! My partner is the same so no issues about it but he does make fun of the mmorpg games I play but I don’t care as I love building characters and skills or getting the best armour!

Just buy your extension pack and don’t ask him to do it in the future. He is being a twat sorry!!!

So why does your DH think that you should have something to make yourself look pretty rather than something that is useful to you. He does know that it's not the 1950s still and that women are allowed to have a life and not just look pretty for men right?

I'd be more concerned with you having a drink every night tbh 🤷‍♀️

I buy my DP an expansion pack for The Sims almost every birthday and Christmas. I’m genuinely happy for her when she plays as it means she’s got an hour or two of relaxing and doing something she finds fun.

Your DP is a dick. Especially as he’s been into gaming himself so knows what it’s like.