To ask for no presents for DD

[OopsieDaisyB]

DD is 6 months old. She has a very large family (6 aunties/ uncles and 4 grandparents plus greats and cousins etc) I'm contemplating asking her family on both sides not to buy her gifts for special occasions such as Christmas, birthdays etc. Instead I would like them to a) give that money to a children's charity b) give the money they would have spent to build up her savings for when she is older or c) do something with her instead e.g. a birthday picnic
I have several reasons for wanting to do this, reducing the amount of toys she will receive, save family money but mostly I want her to see these occasions as something other than all about presents. I want her to focus on the people not the gifts that will undoubtedly end up in a charity shop in a few years anyway. DP and I will of course still get hers a few gifts.
How would you feel if a member of you family asked you to do this?

Imagine growing up and not getting presents from people because your mum wouldn't allow it sad I can't imagine how damaging that will be for your relationship

What an over-the-top ridiculous sentiment - the kid will get plenty of toys she's not Oliver fucking Twist

I would love to know how many posters on here trashing the (very sensible) OP are grandparents not wanting to be deprived of the joy of giving shopping.

@FixItUpChappie It all seems to be a big competition these days to see who can spend the most and buy the most etc to show that they must 'love' the child the most and are favourite because just look at the gifts

It is you and your partner's decision.
Kids enjoy receiving and opening presents. It's a normal part of growing up. Yes not all gifts will be to your choice, but your child may well enjoy some of these gifts.
As for days out , well if it is family then they will still happen.
Many people like to choose gifts and enjoy giving them . At least for now let your child and the giver enjoy this experience.
If you feel you cannot, then just tell everyone how you feel. I imagine it will cause much hurt and upset. Your child will question why they are different from other children at some stage.
Not everthing has to be clean, educational, functional or branded.
Your child is very fortunate to have so many people love them, and whom enjoy giving to them.
Either learn to accept politely or just refuse and point them to the nearest charity.

Your child will question why they are different from other children at some stage

Sorry what??? Did you have the exact same amount of presents as the child down the street or your friends at school? Did you feel hard done by if someone had more than you?

The OPs child will be having presents just a limited amount. A lot of PP's really do need to read beyond the title of this thread instead of assuming that there will be nothing for OP's DC to open.

You are relatively early in your parenting journey OP. People buy crazy amounts for new babies because they enjoy doing so. As dc get older people don’t tend to buy quite as much and they will also start to ask you what DC would like. Then you can direct towards the things that you know they need, eg clothes, books, jigsaws etc.
When our dc were little we limited ourselves to one small pressie each because we knew they would get presents from our relatives. We would never have dreamed of telling them what to buy or not buy! As they’ve got older, people have asked and we’ve said clothes, books etc as above. At one point I hardly needed to buy clothes for dc as they got such beautiful ones from their relatives! I think what you’re suggesting comes from a nice place but the older your dc get, the more you will realise it’s not about you and it’s not for parents to control these things.

Sounds miserable tbh. And overly controlling.