Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

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Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

Oh No. I’m so sorry. Speak to him when he’s sober and see what’s going on xx

A girl-as in a child?

I would send a text from the iPad so that they both know that you know and tell him not to bother coming hone!

You poor thing OP. Thank god you’ve found out sooner rather than later

Oh God, you poor thing. That's really awful. All you can do is wait and then choose a time to have it out with him. Have you much support with the baby? Somebody who can babysit for you tomorrow?

@bigbubbles I'm guessing when she says another girl that no it's not a child. It's reference to another woman

Agree with chips sorry op

Text him back asking which one he loves most? I’m sorry this is happening to you, OP. I’d ask him to come home ASAP. Tell him you know everything.

bigbubbles no!!! An adult female. Sorry if it seemed that way.

Oh bless you, strong hot tea or a glass of something strong

Don’t knee jerk into a reaction based on the adrenaline that is whizzing round your body now...

Deep breaths and think about what you might want to do next

Many will be along to tell you to do this or that

Ultimately you will be the one to decide and there are many routes to choose

I agree with @ChipsCheeseAndBeans

And I’m so sorry for you.

Guys I’m sorry I don’t know what to do. I’m usually composed but I’m in so much shock right now. I would text friends or family but honestly, I’m so embarrassed. This is our baby’s first Christmas

What chips said. Or take a pic of the ipad and send it to him.

Please don’t be embarrassed- you haven’t done anything wrong

Take your time, of course this is a big shock

What an idiot - you're better off without him anyway, OP.

Take photos of the messages from your phone, but I wouldn't screenshot from the iPad as he'll probably receive the screenshots on his phone via the cloud.

I wouldn't let him know that you know until you've done everything you need to do at your end - financially, legally, etc.

for you, OP. On the plus side, at least you know now - he might have been stringing you along for years otherwise.

What is your living situation? Do you own jointly etc. Do you have family near by? Any shared finances? I ask because you may want to have a plan in place before you let in that you know. The relationship is over I’m afraid and you need to think about what’s best for you and your child.

Op I'm really sorry, what an absolute arse to do this. I know it's hard but be strong.

So if this was me.. I would be more inclined to do what another poster had suggested and text back on the pad.. "Good to know he misses us both at the same time" because I dont know if I could wait to confront him.

He knows you know, she knows he's got a partner. That's just me, I would be raging and need to get my frustration out.

Please don’t take this as me boasting but I thought I had it all. I really thought everything was fine. And now I’m just watching my baby sleeping on the monitor crying my eyes out so upset that I’ve bought him into this. He’s text me a question mark because I didn’t reply to him saying he misses me but he’s text the other girl back saying ‘can I call you?’

Yep, what Chips said.
I’d possibly pack a bag for him and place it in the porch. Don’t forget his iPad!
Call your mum or a close friend if they’re around and ask them to come over

Photo all the messages on your phone. Just in case he tries to deny later.
As others have said , you don't have o do anything just yet, but I would be tempted to repl asking which one of you he misses most. don't be afraid to text someone close to you for support.

I agree with @ChipsCheeseAndBeans too! Tell them you know, dont come home- can you phone a friend/family member to pop over so you can have some support there now (and go through the iPad with you!)-
Sensible thinking Op, deep breaths x

Another twat.

What’s your home situation? Support around you?

Text him and tell him he doesn’t need to come home. Text her and warn her she’s got a drunk wanker to babysit later, as you don’t want him disturbing you or his child.

They’re pathetic

Take photos on your phone - as soon as you confront him he’ll delete the messages on his phone and that will delete them from the iPad also.

Do you have anyone you can call to come and be with you?

And yes yes to saving the messages somehow.