Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

[Beebeezed]

Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

13 pages in!

Or rather 35!

@Flowers24

Im so sorry, id speak to him asap

Ya think @Flowers24? THE OP WAS IN 2019

I get that people don't always have time to RTFT, but when it's in relationships - therefore relatively sensitive/serious, at least scan the OPs posts which you can do by hitting 'read all'.

FFS it's so meaningless to post otherwise.

OP - if you are still checking this thread, I am super impressed by you. Mostly by your positivity and ability to rally yourself and find the best outcomes in the shittest situations. I wish you well.

Plus fact that 35 pages in may indicate that there’s been developments!

That's some amazing update. You sound like a great parent OP, to be able to rise above what you're feeling to put your kids needs first.

I hope going forwards this means you can parent together and still be family even though your relationship is over. Too many people have children and use them as weapons - my own parents included.

Wishing you well

I'm so sorry. Can someone take your baby for you for a bit whilst you talk to him? You can and you will get through this.

Haha, just realised ive posted on a very old thread! Sorry!

He's two timing both of you. So contact her now while you have chance, and tell her he lives with you and has a new baby. He probably hasn't told her, like he hasn't told you.

Maybe she has a baby with him too, of course.

God OP just read the whole thread, you sound amazing. I'm glad you're happy and got through this.

We should have a check in once a year like that book One Day, see how things have moved on?!

Hope you're living the dream now, OP.

Wow, the last post wasn't something I was expecting to see! I remember following this post in the beginning. So sorry about all you've been through, and I'm genuinely shocked to hear you moved in with them! I'm glad all has turned out ok for you. X

What made you post today Nothingyet 4 months after the OPs update?

@LimitIsUp

What made you post today Nothingyet 4 months after the OPs update?

Probably because first thing this morning, the thread came up as trending. I saw it, was reading and it all felt similar. Checked the dates and realised it is a zombie thread.

Ah, okay - that's bizarre. How could it be trending, most odd.

Happy to have read the OP's December update however, as I didn't see it at the time.

Take photos of all the messages then confront him and get rid.

@Boomshakkalakka

Take photos of all the messages then confront him and get rid.

Please read the thread.

Sorry can someone clear this up for me so op dumped ex. Moved out to parents. Then found out she was pregnant and ex became offical with ow. Then suddenly in her update shes moved back in with her ex but they arent together so presumably still seeing ow after all that ?

That's really bizarre moving in with your ex and his gf(ow)

Wow, @Beebeezed.

I am literally speechless (rare for me), in admiration of you. You have done beyond well. How you did all of this, and managed your emotions and the practicalities, and with a baby and then pregnant and alone with a baby, and then with two babies ... it's amazing.

I have to say that your parents have also been amazing, too, by the sound of it.

I think you should all be so proud of how you've handled this, and I am glad that it's also ended with the ex being rehabilitated, etc., because I do think that personal intimate screw-ups etc are one thing, but being a father / mother is a different thing.

Very best of luck to you, and thank you for telling us your story, because you will give lots of other people strength and understanding, too, I think.

Just read all the thread, wow.

Do we get an update? Has the op found new love?
Is the OW up the duff?

We're closing this thread now as it's been bumped back into active conversations and is several months old.