To be upset that he Lied to me about Christmas gift

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This is going to sound very petty but I'm furious. The last couple of months has been tight in regards to money with 3 out of 4 birthdays in an 8 week period before christmas and 2 emergency dentist appointments. I've got about £11 until Friday. I knew that DP had some more money as we'd done the finances (ha) a couple of weeks ago. And asked to borrow some a couple of days ago, he said he did not and when I asked him where the money had gone he said he's bought me w Christmas present. I left it and told him that it was silly to do so before Christmas and should've waited until payday. He made me promise not to open the gift so of course I said I wouldn't. Said present has just arrived 3 days later and is in v think packaging. It's obviously a PS4 game that he's bought for himself I even compared sizes from his other games and it's from cex. It wouldn't be for me as I have 0 interest in games. I'm furious the he's lied to my face am I over reacting

Have you two got children together? If so you shouldn't really be borrowing money from each other, surely? He sounds very selfish and childish

Tell him as you need money right now you’ve sold his present to you to tide you over till payday. It’s your gift after all and you’ve just taken it earlier.

Why are your finances so separate that you have no money to live on or essentials and he has money to piss on video games?

Stop buying anything for him he can buy his own groceries and washing products.

Better yet reconsider how your finances would be without him being a drain.

I don't really understand, do you live together and shar finances? It sounds like you don't on the latter. Do you have kids?

Can you arrange to return the item and get a refund. I would be raising hell over his lying and selfishness.

@AryaStarkWolf we've got 2 children. We split bills and rent 50% each and he sends me money for half of food shop and electric and gas. Im fine with that. I don't really ask him for more than that as he gets a mood on. I'm more pissed off at the lie

So if you go fifty fifty why are you so short this month? What's cause your financial issues?

Had he bought the game before you asked ?

@Bluntness100 we just about scrape by most months. Can usually put a 10er in the kids savings a not much more in mine but I had to go to the dentist a couple of times in the last month for scans and it was £40 which I really couldn't afford just before Christmas.

Do you earn the same amount of money?
I'd be furious to be honest.

So if you go fifty fifty why are you so short this month? What's cause your financial issues?

@Bluntness100 from the OP:

The last couple of months has been tight in regards to money with 3 out of 4 birthdays in an 8 week period before christmas and 2 emergency dentist appointments.

@Bellyfullofbiscuits I assume so but the fact he'd said it was for me and not to open it to ruin the surprise just pissed me off to the max. And we really don't have any money at all for him to be buying himself presents a week before payday just before Christmas anyway

No wonder you’re annoyed.

@hellsbellsmelons no he earns more than me as he works mon-fri and I work sat-sun to avoid nursery costs. After bills rent and food I have about £150 a month maybe and he'll have about £350

I can see both sides. You have seperate money , so really it is not your call ,as to what he does with his left over cash ( he might have been saving up to get the game). This is why ,I think , seperate money in a family just doesn't work. Especially as you can only work a little due to childcare ( are they yours and your partner's children ?)

And does he contribute to all the presents I assume YOU have to buy?
That's an unfair split.
He's taking the piss.

He may have been thinking , that is he said he had treated himself , it works have been running your face in it.

You're not sure 100% that it's a game. It could be a DVD for you. In fact some gift certificates come in a similar size presentation box.

Just because you've run out of money doesn't mean your DP should be topping you up.

how do you know this package is your present? maybe he bought a game for a couple of £ from CEX and your present is still to come? I wouldnt buy new games from CEX, the boys buy second stuff often for pence

Why did both of you think it was ok for you to have less money ? You have been looking after the kids ( therefore saving him money on childcare )

That's appalling behaviour on his part OP. Don't ask to borrow, tell him you need the money.

Yep he's taking the absolute piss OP. You bear the main financial burden on less than him and if you worked full time childcare costs should be shared.

Oh I forgot to mention I told him before he bought the game that I'd need to borrow some money as I had none. Fair enough if we had disposable income but we really don't and he hasn't bought me or any of his family any gifts yet and buys himself a present

@EsmeSwan, YABU and ungrateful,what he spends his money on oh his business, you have £11 to last 3 days, some people do not even have that

That's uncalled for.