To phone in sick tomorrow?

[Stressedoutaboutinlaws]

Currently at A&E with dp, he has a recurrent issue with severe stomach pains which usually result in a hospital stay.

Been seen by triage who confirmed he needs a needle in the arm to get anti sickness/pain medicine in without bringing it back up, but we might have a bit of a wait for a doctor/bed because the rooms are all full atm.

So likely going to be a long night, amd have a pretty poorly dp. Currently very weak and dehydrated as not been able to keep anything down for over 24 hours.

Issue with phoning in sick tomorrow is that myself and dp work for the same company. So if i also call in sick(as he will obviously be off) they are 2 people down.

I dunno i feel slightly guilty for leaving them short staffed, but at the same time, im already shattered, amd want to be with dp to make sure hes ok, attempting to drink fluids etc.

Wibu to phone in sick tomorrow as well as dp or should i force myself to go in?

I think i worded the dyarolite issue wrong, a lot of people seem to be picking up on that. Its not as if hes refusing to drink it, at the times when weve been going to hospital ive been making him a bottle of diarolyte to take with us. The issue with it is that the taste of it is making him vomit, more than if he was just drinking diluting juice. So surely it makes sense that i give him something that he has a better chance of keeping down, and therefore doing the job of hydrating him? Hes not refusing it im just trying to actually get it to stay down and not be vomitted up.

"Doing the job of hydrating him"

Will you listen to yourself. Well on the way to full time carer. Hand your notice in right now, cut out the middle bit.

Did you phone in sick?

Do you see yourself having a future with this man? Long-term, with marriage, maybe children one day?

Surely you'd be better off using your energies towards getting him into some kind of recovery programme than trying to cajole him into drinking Dioralyte when he's suffering from yet another bout of Cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome?

He needs to stop using weed, then he will stop becoming unwell, and the visits to A&E in the hope of being given morphine will cease, and you can start to live life the way you should be living it.

At the moment you are more or less his carer. Is that what you want?

OP please read your last post back to yourself. It reads as if you are the parent and he is a small child. He should be taking responsibility for his actions. Carry on this way and you'll be his carer permanently; not that being a carer for an ill partner is wrong but when it's self inflicted and clearly goes back a long time..is that what you want?

Christ op can't he make his own drink? You're not doing yourself or him any favours with this babying. Is this how you want your life to be??

OP I get that this is difficult, I get that you have settled into a caring role for this man and his problems. I'm sure this is really difficult to hear but PPs are totally right, you're not really helping him at all by babying him and making excuses for him. He needs to help himself, you're making a dim future for yourself here.

Listen to AnyFucker, she is never wrong. It's annoying but true

Cant believe how cold some of these posters are. Like a pp said, call in and be truthful. You've been up all night at the hospital. No one in their right mind would make you come in.

I'm not going to shout RTFT Banana but at least read the OPs updates or check date of posting! Your advice is weeks out of date, things have moved on somewhat

You're doing great OP. Keep up the support as it sound like he needs it.

Op, my husband is chronically ill. He is also an intelligent adult. I see to whatever needs he has to be able to care for himself and then leave him to it. He is a priority but not my only one. I must look after my home, family, pets and myself.