To phone in sick tomorrow?

[Stressedoutaboutinlaws]

Currently at A&E with dp, he has a recurrent issue with severe stomach pains which usually result in a hospital stay.

Been seen by triage who confirmed he needs a needle in the arm to get anti sickness/pain medicine in without bringing it back up, but we might have a bit of a wait for a doctor/bed because the rooms are all full atm.

So likely going to be a long night, amd have a pretty poorly dp. Currently very weak and dehydrated as not been able to keep anything down for over 24 hours.

Issue with phoning in sick tomorrow is that myself and dp work for the same company. So if i also call in sick(as he will obviously be off) they are 2 people down.

I dunno i feel slightly guilty for leaving them short staffed, but at the same time, im already shattered, amd want to be with dp to make sure hes ok, attempting to drink fluids etc.

Wibu to phone in sick tomorrow as well as dp or should i force myself to go in?

Meh. Don't try and justify this action by that or another. It's a bollocks argument.

What's more disgusting is the attitude of some posters here tbh.

You absolutely can not compare eating pies, which is legal and safe to consume to smoking illegal drugs.
You also can't quit eating which is why so many people struggle with it. You CAN quit drugs. You simply don't WANT to.

Stinky, youve obviously never had, or had anyone close to you with addiction issues.

Its slightly more complicated than 'wanting' to.

I was all set to come on here after the cannabis declaration and be a little less understanding, but honestly the venom some posters come out with on here - and the ridiculous analogy’s, it’s something else.

It’s not enough to say, well maybe the cannabis use needs to be looked into to see if it is a root cause and find treatment. It’s that the OP’s partner is vile, makes people sick, scrounges from the NHS. Some people on here need to stop clutching their pearls and actually be supportive and understanding - I don’t agree with everything the OP has said, but this woman has been awake all night to get a load of vitriol from strangers online. It’s just weird.

Are you together long, OP?

You need to protect yourself. Your boyfriend has a serious addiction and it’s resulting in you missing work.

Why would you jeopardise your career for that?

Holy dripfeed batman!

But it's not yet confirmed that cannabis was the cause. To be honest I'd be surprised if pure cannabis had made him that sick, but with an illegal drug it could well be spiked with something nastier.

I hope for the sake of everybody else that you and DH don't do safety-critical work! Even in any old job, if your employer gets wind of this they could justifiably discipline both of you.

We should not be judging someone who smokes weed or is an alcoholic or is an overeater. Its time to be kinder and think yourselves lucky it's not you that's affected. But look after yourself OP don't become too much of a rescuer in your relationship.

@Stressedoutaboutinlaws I have been in hospital with my dd over Christmas for this exact same thing. The consultant immediately diagnosed Cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome ,

www.cedars-sinai.org/health-library/diseases-and-conditions/c/cannabinoid-hyperemesis-syndrome.html

The only way to cure it is to stop smoking cannabis, but having a hot shower can temporarily reduce the symptoms. I hope he gets help to stop using as it has serious consequences if he doesn’t.

@sofacat, ive only just seen your post, i hope your daughter is feeling better, its such a horrible thing to watch someone you love suffer through ❤

Im back at the hospital with dp 😔 hasnt smoked anything since the last hospital visit, and has been feeling a bit rubbish, but flared up again this weekend and has been sick all night, not eaten in about 4 days.

Surely if it was just the cannabis, it would have passed by now??

@sofacat, were the hospital staff sympathetic about your daughter? The general feeling we get is staff being dissmissive. Last time the doctor told him he needed to grow up and that weed was for kids

He smokes it as an escapism for a horrific childhood, was encouraged to smoke it by his mum at 12 years old. For people that say it isnt addictive are completely wrong.

@stressedoutaboutinlaws I hope he’s feeling better soon! I know today is a lot of people’s first day back after Christmas leave. Is that the case for your DP? Just wondering if there might be any link with anxiety if so?

No we've been back since the 2nd so not that. I do think its linked wirh anxiety though, flare up before this ( the one the op is about) was just after his mum tried to kill herself. Is it worth asking for something to treat/manage anxiety?

I’m by no means an expert but I do know someone who has awful physical symptoms at stressful times that they put down to anxiety so it’s worth looking into surely!

The hospital were sympathetic and it was definitely the cannabis that caused her to be so ill . The only way to not be that ill again is for her to never smoke it again.

Firstly - you're not sick.

Secondly - as for dependant's leave (although having said that, when my husband was in hospital with terminal cancer my application was turned down because the hospital staff were caring for him, not me).

If that fails, ask for annual leave.

FFS @WhateverHappenedToMe RTFT!

So we are back home. Dp still not keeping down water, still in pain and being sick, but they decided he is well enough to be sent away with some anti sickness and a box of codeine. I suspect that we'll be back later tonight.

They just seem so reluctant to give pain medication there. When he gets that bad, from experience, he knows that the only thing that can tackle the pain is morphine. But as soon as you ask for morphine they treat you like a druggie. So we have to go through the motions of getting given paracetomol (if paracetomol worked we would have stayed at home...) To then have him still in pain then need to get something stronger. But by the time the doctor has come back, to then writing it up, to then a nurse coming to dispence, its like 3 hours or more after when he could have just got morphine at the beginning. And nobody really had an answer as to why hes still feeling like this after having been off the weed since mid december.

They don't prescribe morphine just because your DP says that's what he wants 😳

The problem is that clinicians are immediately suspicious of people with no obvious physical cause of pain attending A and E and asking for morphine, more so when there is a drug addiction.

It must be very difficult I hope they get to the bottom of it

I know, and rationally i totally understand the thought process and logic behind it. But its just hard watching him in so much pain, knowing what he needs but having this big delay.

If theyve decided that the weed is the cause, then surely they should be a nit more supportive in getting through this withdrawel or whatever it is stage, doctor said that it can take 'a while' to clear up. I would have thought that pain management and support at this point is important to help kick the habit permanently.

Get him into a hot shower or bath , if it’s cannabis then this will help ( will also indicate that he hasn’t stopped smoking it as the sickness only happens when you have smoked it)

Sofa the sickness can last 3-4 weeks after smoking it. The majority of cases it goes quickly but not all. I know he has not been smoking it.

When hes bad like this he pretty much lives in the bath, it helps the pain but speeds up the rate of dehydration because of the heat.

Op i have some experience of cyclical vomiting it does come in cycles ie same time of day and can last an hr to days .And i am 100% not judging it has been linked to cannabis use in some people who suffer from it .