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To get upset at husband for his past

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Pep89 · 15/12/2019 19:41

I'm almost certain I am being unreasonable here but, even knowing that, I still feel upset and I'm not even sure why.

My husband and I were chatting after bedroom time and I said that I'd maybe want to try something in the near future and, even though we've talked about this certain thing before, this time he told me that he had done it with a previous girlfriend. We've been together for 10 years and I feel almost betrayed even though this happened before he even knew me. I don't know if I'm jealous or upset that he's only just told me. I just know that I'm upset about it and I don't know why?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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BennyTheBall · 15/12/2019 23:05

Did he once have sex somewhere other than his bedroom? Perhaps ‘kitchen time’?

GrandTheftWalrus · 15/12/2019 23:08

Or aeroplane time like my DP?

Andysbestadventure · 15/12/2019 23:09

She he's done, what I assume is, Anal and you're mad about it?

Get a fucking grip.

Ionalovebead · 15/12/2019 23:18

Maybe he hasn't done it, and is just fed up with the constant talking about it.
This response will either spur you on, or put it to bed [santa]

Rombocious · 15/12/2019 23:30

Just tell him you don't want to know what he's done with previous partners.

It's not some kind universal rule that everyone follows.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 15/12/2019 23:31


Does it involve voting Conservative?

TalbotAMan · 15/12/2019 23:36

Was it joining the Liberal Democrats?

GunpowderGelatine · 15/12/2019 23:42

Oh FGS OP it depends.

Making origami - YABU
Getting married - YANBU

Is it bum sex?

MiddleClassProblem · 15/12/2019 23:46

But if he mentioned oranges up the arse I'd say "no dear, try a satsuma first

Or a kumquat

GrandTheftWalrus · 15/12/2019 23:48

@rombocious was that to me? It came up in a conversation before we got together.

LellyMcKelly · 15/12/2019 23:50

So he’s has Chico time with a Moomin at the Pyramids? I can see why he didn’t tell you straightaway.

LellyMcKelly · 15/12/2019 23:51

Don’t go for a pomelo straight away. You have to ease into that one.

MyKingdomForBrie · 15/12/2019 23:57

@Zoflorabauble I have to ask - flagging?? That's a new one on me..

PawPawNoodle · 16/12/2019 00:27

Me and Mr Noodle had this exact same conversation when he suggested we go dogging. He was quite upset, heaven knows why.

managedmis · 16/12/2019 00:39

It's Corra rather than 'Stenders, ain't it?

MissLadyM · 16/12/2019 00:48

Anal or threesome?

Derbee · 16/12/2019 01:02

Maybe years ago, he didn’t feel comfortable talking about his past as you were in a new relationship? Now he does. I don’t get why anyone would have a problem with their partner having had sexual experiences with past partners

Rombocious · 16/12/2019 01:11


No, that was for the OP.

user1473878824 · 16/12/2019 01:13


To get upset at husband for his past
Emeraldshamrock · 16/12/2019 01:30

Just checked in to see if the thing was revealed. 🤔

Emeraldshamrock · 16/12/2019 01:32

Yabu to be upset over his previous sex life, if you were considering participating it can't be that bad, do you think he had the experience while you were together.

ArranUpsideDown · 16/12/2019 02:09

Is it a Hoboken Squat Cobbler? Full Moon Moon Pie? Boston Crème Splat? Simple Simon the Ass Man? Dutch Apple Ass?

I have long ago learned that it's unwise to google things that I read on Mumsnet. I now deeply regret even reading these terms as they've made me uneasy about several popular dessert items.

WiseUpJanetWeiss · 16/12/2019 06:44

I have to ask - flagging?? That's a new one on me

Yes me too. It’s a phrase I use in two separate non-bedroom-time contexts and I’m now a bit scared. I did google cautiously to no avail.

bbyj2019 · 16/12/2019 07:04

Please put us out of our misery n spill

MonstranceClock · 16/12/2019 07:48

Is it sex with the lights on? I bet it’s sex with the lights on. Wild.

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