Husband left 2 year old in car

[Chickpearocker]

I feel a bit shaky writing this. Left husband in charge of 2 year old today, casually mentioned he went to Friday prayer, he then said toddler was left sleeping in the car for about 30 minutes. I told him this was unacceptable he said what could I do and that he never does anything right.

He was about 5 minutes away from the car and the back windows are tinted but still. Can someone sane tell me what I should do about this.

• daughter not son.

The first thing he needs to understand is that he can't carry on his day as if he didn't have a small child in his care. Where does it end otherwise? He pops to Tesco and leaves her in the car for 40 mins, he goes out for a jog and leavers her home alone in her cot? He needs to amend his plans. I'm not Muslim, but even I know that it isn't compulsory to attend Friday prayer at a mosque - he is 'allowed' to pray at home too if circumstances demand.

My family is Muslim. They don’t use their religion as an excuse to neglect their children (although I appreciate this is common). It’s very telling that he thinks Friday prayers are compulsory but keeping his daughter safe is optional.

My family is Muslim. They don’t use their religion as an excuse to neglect their children (although I appreciate this is common). It’s very telling that he thinks Friday prayers are compulsory but keeping his daughter safe is optional.

This.

Not OK.

The only circumstances in which baby ought to be left in the car is as long as you can maintain a visual and it’s only for a few moments eg while filling up with petrol.

Leaving a child on their own in a car unsupervised is neglect.

I'm a Muslim and men are expected to pray Friday prayer in the mosque. However that of course doesn't mean all common sense goes out the window. He should have either woken her up or at least tried to put her sleeping in a stroller and taken the stroller in. Children are welcomed in the mosque and although it's encouraged to try and keep them as quiet as possible during prayers this often isn't possible. I've been to lots of prayers at the mosque where there have been crying children. I'm not sure what he was thinking. The good thing is he's said hes made a mistake. Maybe emphasise how social services could take your daughter away if someone had reported him. And tell him this should never happen again x

Friday prayers are compulsory, however he should have taken your DD in with him not leave her in the car for 30 minutes. That's what any parent would do.
No way on earth would my husband leave our DD in the car whilst he went to pray.
So many things could have happened.

Would his imam agree with his decision to leave his dad for half an hour in a cold car on a car park? (Or would he be too embarrassed to ask?!)

Gah. DD not dad

I doubt any religious adviser would say a display of public prayer trumps the safety of a child in an adult’s care. Surely one can pray privately and still observe the ritual. I hope you feel better soon, try not to dwell in the what ifs it will be detrimental to your self only, easier said than done I know.

@Windygate wind your neck in.

I would not do that to my dog let alone my child.

Thank you everyone, I feel so sick thinking about my poor girl. This is going to make my anxiety rocket now. And yes my post is genuine don’t see why I would make up such stupid post.

Also the Friday prayer thing I hope doesn’t upset anyone I mean it could have been Tesco’s or anywhere really.

@Chickpearocker was your husband flustered or anxious in general? Could that explain his momentary lapse in judgement? Or does he do stuff regarding bad judgements regularly?

I’ve never had any issues like this before. If anything he would be over protective with the children and sensible. I don’t think he was anxious but maybe felt a huge obligation to go to the prayer and has horribly got it wrong x

Not on at all. Aside from the fact that the child would have been very scared to wake up and be alone, there are also dangers which is why SS would take this seriously.

It’s also sloppy, I’d be worried... if he does this what else does he do?

And I hate the ‘I can’t do anything right’ attitude, I’ve had that off ex who was sloppy as a parent too. Well you can get not neglecting your child right surely? Otherwise don’t call yourself a parent. Because you are not.

So nobody could see or hear her for 30 minutes and someone could have broken in and kidnapped her? Everyone knows this is not okay.

If it would have been a boy would he have left him in the car?

Not OK!
My ILs leave dd sleeping in the car on their drive. And I said no when I found out.
Even tho the second she wakes the dog barks at window and they constantly watch. It just makes me feel uneasy

@Chickpearocker Tell your husband this:
My ex-husband was attending a meeting at a garden centre about 100 miles from where we lived. He'd driven there with no problems, and he was a motor mechanic, so he'd have been aware of any problems. He parked the car, locked it, and started to walk away. He was about 100 metres away when there was a shout. When he turned round, his car was on fire. A Gas Board van had been driving past, had seen it burst into flames, and had stopped to try to put the fire out.

He is breaking the law and if i saw a baby left in a car i would have no hesitation in calling the police, who in turn would have no hesitation in calling Social Services. For a religious man he doesnt seem to have any concern for his child

How awful!. His first priority should be you're daughters safty. She should always come first no matter what. I would be mortified if my partner did this with our children. Do they not have a children's group at the place he goes for prayer?, where she can be safe and warm?.

That's how much he values your child. Neglect plain and simple and could be an offence. I would be sickened.

Puts you in a very difficult position. Can you trust him to never do it again? If she had been found by a member of the public this would be a matter for the police, social services and the press/social media.