DH returning this morning after Christmas do, is that acceptable behaviour?

[username0294]

Would you be cross if your DH went out to his Christmas work do at 1815 last night and returned at 0610 this morning? Unexpectedly. He's never been on the lash this long before, just has a good night apparently. Woke me up at 4.45... I've been up ever since wondering where he is. Have to do school run and work all day...also supposed to be packing for weekend away/pet care before work. Plan was to drive 3 hours this eve - that's out the window as he won't be fit for it. Will have to go tomorrow morning instead. Not sure if I'm cross due to the nonchalance, disturbance of plans, lack of sleep or worse than that.

I wouldn't be spending my weekend with that prick.

@HugeAckmansWife for you as well. I think sometimes it's easy to look back see clearly what you should've done, but in the midst of it not know which way to turn.

I've got copies of everything I found via screenshot yes.
Thank you for replying.
Finances are a mess anyway. I don't know where any of that is but I will start digging.

So he spent your money on, at best, a stripper?

WOW.

I've got copies of everything I found via screenshot yes.
Thank you for replying.
Finances are a mess anyway. I don't know where any of that is but I will start digging.
And it was my joint account card. Which has a photo of our baby daughter on it (she's 4 now). I guess that meant nothing to him.

And, yeah, I wouldn't be worrying about letting anyone down. He has let everyone you, including himself.

What a prick.

I don’t think he would be ok to drive if he didn’t stop drinking until just before he got home and was absolutely slaughtered .
I’d be really annoyed for a day or so

Sorry just read last update .. ok, be pissed as hell . What an arsehole

Sorry OP. That’s thoroughly shit.

Of course you’re not going to play happy families this weekend. I’d tell him that either you can tell his family why, or that he can tell them himself.

I’d send him on his own. Then you won’t have to see his face for a few days and can have some thinking space.

I wouldn't be able to forgive this. I'd be sending him off to his family alone and telling him to use his web search to find himself a room to come back to.

He wants you to - not let his family down? I hope you’re at home op trying to get a grip on this.

How do u mean 'looking' for sex online? Agreed, dodgy as fuck, definitely sack this weekend off and let him explain to his family why....!

He still wants you to go this weekend?

Ha bloody ha!

Why would it even matter if you didn't go?

Couldn't you be ill, have a prior commitment, or just not fancy it?

Yikes that changes things a lot. I'd be sending him on his own (or with the kids if you want space). He's acted like a total arsehole!

That’s one hell of an update.

Don’t go to his parents.

Tell him to leave now. For a few days at least and get your head straight.

I’m so so sorry

If you go as he wants you to this weekend to save face-it will send him the very clear message that he can treat you exactly as he wants to and you will just bend over and take it.

The weblinks included three - local postcode escorts, but hadn't pressed 'agree' to open it, hot single mums, adult services in our city name.
He's asleep on our spare bedroom floor. I really shouldn't be going into work but it's a tricky job to mange sickness (full day of appts) and we're already a team member down. I look awful, if I can't cope I will say I've got a migraine and come home again. I just need to get out of here for now.

He might still be over the limit by this evening. I'd not go. Tell him to get the train to his folks. He's a lying bastard.

@username0294 be careful and be kind to yourself.

The world won’t fall apart if you go in and leave work early.

Are you going with him to his family?

Oh op that's so sad. What a cunt. Don't go to his family instead id call and explain why then say he's going alone and isn't welcome back for the foreseeable future

Let him go on his own. You stay home and pack his bags for him and leave them on the step.