...to want to divorce my DH over general election?

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Feeling sick to the stomach at the predicted result. Have always assumed DH and I were roughly on the same page politically, but turns out he voted Tory 'because it's best for the economy' (WTF).

Just had a massive row... I actually cannot get him to acknowledge that by all indicators child poverty and food bank use have skyrocketed under the Tories and things will get even bleaker when the Uk 'gets Brexit done'. And let's not even mention climate change. I am terrified and DH thinks it's a great result. Is this where we part ways??

People are upset as they see a Tory vote as a vote against kindness. Prove us wrong. Volunteer, donate, be kind. Maybe we’ll even stop shouting at each other.
(I’m not suggesting you don’t do this already)

I sympathise. I have been crying loads over this and I don't want to speak to the in- laws right now because they vote Tory.

I do think that is over the top. I can understand people questionning whether they should stay in a relationship with someone who voted Tory but not speaking to in laws or anyone on that basis else is ridiculous.

Yes part company, so he can hopefully find someone more balanced.

Marleyism, nope. I think that BoJo in particular is a piece of shit and that I don't get how anyone could vote for him, and that I would struggle if I found out my husband had voted for him.
How other people judge how I am voting is not the point being discussed here.
The point is, I agree with the OP about struggling to stay married to a BoJo supporter.

Woodchuck 99 oh yes, you are right, I was being very emotional and over the top for sure! In reality of course I will carry on talking to the in-laws.
But I completely understand why the OP is upset, as I got upset with my husband for telling me to get a grip this morning.

But yes, right now I am having a moment!

I totally understand this, OP. For all his faults, my DH and I agree on politics and are both engaged with the same issues. We haven't disagreed since the Iraq war (on politics ) and even then neither of us were Tory.

Surely a large proportion of those households who these militant labour supporters claim to be standing up for must have voted Tory to get the clear cut decision we did?

I think this election was less a GE & more a second brexit referendum. People just dont want the dilly dallying JC was spouting. And I'm a remainer who just wants brexit done now.

I have always voted Tory & I'm a nice, decent human being. I donate to charities, i give up my free time to work with children, I've raised beautiful, kind children and i work hard in my job.

This time i voted labour, purely based on their housing policies. But i agree with a lot of the Tory manifesto. My DH voted Tory & he works for the emergency services. He too is a supurb human being, kind, loving & generous.

I am sick to death of this virtue signalling & hysterics from some labour supporters.

Everyone wants the country to suceed, we just all have different ideas on how it is achieved.

Couldn’t be with my husband if he wasn’t intelligent and kind. Because he is these things he will never vote Tory. Have you never spoken to him about politics, moral issues etc before?

Cloudyyy speaks a lot of sense “Stop peddling this idea that everyone who wen out yesterday and voted labour/ conservative are completely at odds morally”. I genuinely think there will be people on here and around the country who voted labour that would actually be disappointed if Tories get the NHS back in its feet and Brexit isn’t the economic disaster you’re predicting it will be. Maybe this won’t happen but if it does- is there a little bit of some of you that would actually be annoyed because it doesn’t fit with your need to bash the tories and anyone who didn’t trust the Labour Party enough to vote for them?

Kikisparks- there are plenty of intelligent people who voted Tory, this vote shaming has to stop!

Get a grip!!!!!

People are upset as they see a Tory vote as a vote against kindness. Prove us wrong. Volunteer, donate, be kind.

Jesus. The petty arrogance of you.

YABU

I agree with the OP about struggling to stay married to a BoJo supporter.

Same here.

Personally I think it's better if you share the same political views as well as the same fundamental beliefs.
I think people who share core beliefs are far better suited !ing term the those who dont.
The ops husband is hardly likely to be a single parent with some responsibility for his children's welfare so he doesn't care about those issues.
We still live in a patriarchal society. White, middle class males don't encounter economic hardship the way other sections of society do. Therefore they don't consider them when voting.
Well, a minority do but that's all.

Snowdrop- no doubt, but if so they can’t also have been kind. I’m sure Rees Mogg et al are intelligent and they know what’s best for their pockets.

Well I am intelligent and also very kind!

And in my opinion the vote shaming isn’t what has to stop. Bedroom tax, the rape clause, universal credit, the benefit cap, tax cuts for the rich, selling the NHS, politicians who lie and hide in fridges fo avoid interviews, propaganda, homelessness, sanctions, fitness for work test, disregard for climate change and more are the things I want to stop.

@Snowdropfairy85 if you voted conservative that was not kind. If you think it was in the face of all of the evidence to the contrary then how can that be intelligent?

this vote shaming has to stop

This wins for the prize for the most egregious use of "shaming".

kikisparks list of the nasty work of the Tories is something anyone who voted for them deserves to be shamed about.

Echt I know... complaining about vote shaming when your side has just won. How about, just be pleased with the results? But hey it's us lefties who are usually snowflakes.

Are you really suggesting that there hasn’t been complete vitriol on here from the majority of posters about people who’ve voted conservative? I do take umbrage with people making sweeping generalisations about my moral compass, intelligence and kindness purely because I voted conservative yes- if you think that makes me a snowflake then that’s fine, I’ll survive. I don’t think voting for a party that experts predicted would plunge the country into an economic crash worse than 2008 is particularly kind is it? Who exactly would a recession help right now?

This is the kind of thing you should have sorted out before you got married

But why do you care so much? I have been called a snowflake, naive, stupid, for supporting labour. I have been asked why I agree with an anti semite. And I don't particularly care. I don't believe any of this is true.
I don't believe Tory voters are evil, but I certainly believe Boris Johnson is. So it baffles me that decent people vote for him.
It is all rethorical though. It is not for me to understand and it is not for them to explain this to me.
I would just not want to be in a relationship with a BoJo voter as it is too alien to me.