...to want to divorce my DH over general election?

[SafferUpNorth]

Feeling sick to the stomach at the predicted result. Have always assumed DH and I were roughly on the same page politically, but turns out he voted Tory 'because it's best for the economy' (WTF).

Just had a massive row... I actually cannot get him to acknowledge that by all indicators child poverty and food bank use have skyrocketed under the Tories and things will get even bleaker when the Uk 'gets Brexit done'. And let's not even mention climate change. I am terrified and DH thinks it's a great result. Is this where we part ways??

You married without knowing his politics ??!! Or has his political view changed over time and you’ve only just discovered.
Of course people are ‘allowed’ different opinions but I couldn’t or wouldn’t want to live with someone who differed on fundamental political views nor would I expect them to want to share my life. One of the joys of A good relationship is respecting each other. I think if fundamental core political views are different (no matter what they are) it would be difficult.

This is pathetic. The moralistic left (wrongly) thinking they own decency. You should lookup the definition of bigot.

Did you not discuss politics prior to this election?

The moralistic left (wrongly) thinking they own decency. You should lookup the definition of bigot.

You should look at up too. It is not bigoted to want to be in a relationship with someone who holds similar views to you morally and ethically.

May be better off divorce the poor man if you are going to force your political views on him.

I did read the op as wanting to force anything on anyone nor her husband. They’ve just realised they have very different politics. Putting aside whether it’s odd not to have known that before, many would find that really hard whether left or right surely.

Did should have read didnt !!!

My wife and I have never discussed politics, until this 2019 election. I assumed from things she had said, she voted Green or Lib Dem. But that's entirely between her, and the ballot box.

She proudly voted Tory in this election, and I think it's the first election we've been in agreement. If she had voted Corbyn, I would have been dissapointed (and quietly horrified), but, I would not have kicked off about it, nor divorced her.

Because politics is best left out of a relationship if at all possible. It definitely shouldn't be taken personally.

I've been married thirty years to a Tory.
We cancel each other's votes. We also live in a Tory stronghold so it's futile me even arguing with him but we 'agree to disagree. '
No need for expensive lawyers! Just learn from each other's different views.
His a moderate Tory though, he argues with my Corbyn loving son but it's all good natured. I was gutted at the results but that is politics and labour had problems with their leader and manifesto ( in my opinion) but I still voted for them.
Please try to get along with different opinions. We're not all the same!

Because politics is best left out of a relationship if at all possible. It definitely shouldn't be taken personally.

I totally disagree. The fact that you and your wife have never discussed politics says it all really. You're obviously not interested in which case it's not surprising that you don't really care she votes for.

@WatchingTheMoon

One of the most rational posts in all the election threads on here.

As a matter of interest, all you rabid Tory haters, you really think every Tory hates the poor, the sick and disabled? That they all lack compassion? That every Labour voter is altruistic and kind to everyone?

Really??

Of the 4 people in our house eligible to vote, 2 went to Labour.
1 went to Green
1 went to Tory.
We are all still friends.

I feel really sorry for the poor guy. Stop being a bigot and respect other people's mainstream views. The reason there are so many shy Tories is that the left can't cope with sensible discussion and vilify people that vote in other ways, that's tragic. Did you vote for an anti-semite who is friends with every enemy of our nation, who hates our oldest allies and has disdain for those prepared to lay down their lives for our country, I find that pretty objectionable too.

YNBU

I can't imagine getting together with dp (or at least I can't see it having developed into a serious relationship) if our politics were very different, because political beliefs are part of your value system.

We don't always vote the same way, but we always vote either Labour, Green or Lib Dem. I think we'd both find it difficult if the other one voted Tory, Brexit party or UKIP.

A massive over reaction OP.
The wonderful thing about living in a democracy is that people have the freedom to choose who they wish to vote for without fear of persecution.
As long as you are both singing from the same sheet in your daily life then what does it matter really?
My Husband could have voted for Lord Buckethead and i could have voted for the Monster Raving Loony Parties Cat and it wouldn't have impacted on our marriage, nor would we have argued about it.
( Actually, was the cat standing this time? )

As a matter of interest, all you rabid Tory haters, you really think every Tory hates the poor, the sick and disabled? That they all lack compassion? That every Labour voter is altruistic and kind to everyone*

I don't think that they all do at all. There are certainly a fair number that would fit that category though. As for Labour voters they are in two categories and while some certainly have a left-wing ideology others are just voting for themselves like many Tory voters.

It is getting on my nerves the way people who clearly aren't that interested in politics keep acting like it's such a trivial thing. Of course you're not going to care who your partner votes for if you barely give it a moment's thought yourself but that doesn't mean you are broadminded.

@WatchingTheMoon agree the almost lone voice of reason on here, you've got my vote

Oh well done Daddy cool - you fell for all the media smears and voted in a genuine racist - who's written anti Semitic articles and dreadful fiction - who's also anti Muslim, and is now the toast of Katie Hopkins and the fucking AFD.

Fuck's sake. Read better papers, use your fucking brain.

Notdaddycool I call bullshit on that shy Tory thing. No one will abuse you for being a Tory, just like no one will bully me for liking Corbyn. You will get people disagreeing with you on the Internet ( the horror) but stop playing the martyr.
As if the winners were the oppressed minority.
Boohoo. Will someone think of the winners' delicate feelings and stop calling their Führer mean names?

You need to get grip
I haven't read the whole thread, I would likely die of boredom...
You took vows, for better or worse, in sickness and in health. Think about the sickness and health. Is politics more important than any of those vows?
Anyone thinking of this, being friends, dis-owning family, needs to wobble their heads. You are behaving in the worst way.

Id dump dp if he turned tory on me.. Thats a absolute dealbreaker for me. It goes against my sexual orientation

I would find that hard to stomach, sharing my life with someone who actively joined in with harming vulnerable people. Shared political values is a deal breaker for me. I think it's one of the first question I ask so I can avoid making this kind of mistake.

Id dump dp if he turned tory on me.. Thats a absolute dealbreaker for me. It goes against my sexual orientation

@Branleuse umm what??

"someone who actively joined in with harming vulnerable people"

And yet many of those vulnerable people voted Tory themselves.

Would you divorce them if they were your husband too?