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To think you are very lucky if you dont have to work?

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malificent7 · 09/12/2019 16:13

Dp is amazing but not a high earner and also i want to be a bit independent howver i haul my butt out if bed to work a 12 hour shift where i get told off as i havn't been trained properly...i am very jealous of those who don't have to work.

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Am I being unreasonable?

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You are being unreasonable
You are NOT being unreasonable
CheekyFucker · 09/12/2019 16:16

Me too. I would love to be a lady who lunches.

DBML · 09/12/2019 16:16

Oh me too! I have work since I was fourteen and took minimum time off for DS, as I simply couldn’t afford to stay home.
I’d love to go part time, but having no job...just for a small amount of time, does sound wonderful.

I’m sure the reality would become boring.

TheWinterCaillech · 09/12/2019 16:16

There aren’t many who choose not to work and have a luxurious lifestyle. That said, my two SIL are in that position, and I have to squash the envy every now and then!
I’m looking forwards to retirement, 2 years, 2 months 2 weeks to go!

Keepmewarm · 09/12/2019 16:20

I feel lucky to be able to work!
I’m thankful that I have a job.

Sofast · 09/12/2019 16:21

I think it sucks that 30 years ago a couple could get on well with one wage while there was a sahm parent, these days it just isn't possible. I'd love to be a sahm

MargotB7 · 09/12/2019 16:23

Can't you look for something you would enjoy more? I love working. I have a close friend who can't work because of illness and she hates it.

Parttimers · 09/12/2019 16:23

I don’t have to work...but I do...there’s only so much lunching, yoga and cleaning a woman can do!! Being at home can be lonely at times. I work part time now (12.5 hours per week) which is great and it’s an extra £1400 for me to contribute towards holidays, the dc’s activities etc

KenDodd · 09/12/2019 16:23

Yes, me too. My sil is 44, rich and has NEVER had a job, lucky her! She has no trouble filling her day and has a great life.

legodisasterzone · 09/12/2019 16:23

Be careful what you wish for. I had to give up work to be a full time carer for my daughter. I don’t feel lucky at all and not a day goes by when i don’t wish I had a job.
I know I’m probably not the demographic you were referring to, but I’ve actually had comments about how lucky I am to be at home and it’s a very sore spot.

leghairdontcare · 09/12/2019 16:23

I'm not working at the moment. I do appreciate it's a good position to be in. After numerous redundancies, I decided to organise our finances so we would never be dependent on two incomes. So the impact of that is a smaller house than we could technically afford etc.

I am enjoying not working but it's not a long term thing. I enjoy working too and am looking at retraining next year.

Whyjustwhy23 · 09/12/2019 16:24

Yes and no. I’d love it for a while but I look to other SAHM relatives once children have gone and I think they’d have liked something for themselves.

burnoutbabe · 09/12/2019 16:25

I don't have to work so am doing a second degree and working one day a week.
But it's not lucky as such as I am doing it myself after years of hard work rather than living off someone else's income.

SolitaryGrape · 09/12/2019 16:26

I think your problem is your job. Find something more meaningful or where you aren't on the receiving end of bollockings for not being trained...?

I would never choose not to work.

jamoncrumpets · 09/12/2019 16:26

I don't work and today I lunched on a Morrison's sausage roll, while waiting for my kitchen floor to dry. I have a disabled child, a toddler and some pretty hefty mental health issues. Hardly luxuriating over here.

marmitemayonnaise · 09/12/2019 16:26

I'm glad that I earn enough that it makes going to work financially worthwhile so that I wasn't forced to become a SAHP. I need to use my brain and have time that isn't just spent focusing on my kids. Working keeps me sane.

ButterflyBook · 09/12/2019 16:27

I was a sahm and know people who are but none of us by choice. Some can't afford childcare, in my case sn daughter for whom care was simply complicated and not available. I don't think I know any sahm who are living in the lap of luxury. For most it's a stretch.

CosmoK · 09/12/2019 16:29

I feel very lucky to work and love my job. We probably could afford for me not to work but I would hate it.

reginafelangee · 09/12/2019 16:29

I chose to work.

Being a stay at home parent would bore me. I'm just not that into craft and housework.

crispysausagerolls · 09/12/2019 16:31

I am lucky enough not to work and stay at home with my son, as DH is a high earner. I feel extremely grateful for this every day, and try very hard not to take it for granted. I do find that I am quite sensitive of how others perceive this set up though, and sometimes when friends are struggling I feel that they don’t necessarily want my input because they think I couldn’t understand/are annoyed that I don’t have the same problems. Could be all in my head though!

tothesea · 09/12/2019 16:31

I want @parttimers job!!

Spikeyball · 09/12/2019 16:32

I think those who have the option of working are lucky.

Ilikewinter · 09/12/2019 16:34

Ive worked full time since leaving school at 16 and always thought id love being off work, however I work with quite a few people who could technically retire but they all choose to work, part time though, to keep themselves occupied and worry that they would waste away sat at home!

If I could afford it..when i win the lottery...i want to spend time socialising potential puppy guide dogs, or volunteering at animal rehoming centres


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Nextphonewontbesamsung · 09/12/2019 16:34

Yabu. Millions of people love their jobs and get a great deal of satisfaction from doing them. But the next person who says they couldn't be a sahp because they need to "use their brain" gets a poke in the eye from me ... I'm hardpressed to think of a more brainless worn-out trope.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 09/12/2019 16:35

I'm just not that into craft and housework
What an odd thing to think Confused

xmaself24 · 09/12/2019 16:37

I love my job. I'd never want to not work. I won't post reasons why as people seem to get offended Hmm

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