To think you are very lucky if you dont have to work?
malificent7 · 09/12/2019 16:13
Dp is amazing but not a high earner and also i want to be a bit independent howver i haul my butt out if bed to work a 12 hour shift where i get told off as i havn't been trained properly...i am very jealous of those who don't have to work.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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Parttimers · 09/12/2019 16:23
I don’t have to work...but I do...there’s only so much lunching, yoga and cleaning a woman can do!! Being at home can be lonely at times. I work part time now (12.5 hours per week) which is great and it’s an extra £1400 for me to contribute towards holidays, the dc’s activities etc
legodisasterzone · 09/12/2019 16:23
Be careful what you wish for. I had to give up work to be a full time carer for my daughter. I don’t feel lucky at all and not a day goes by when i don’t wish I had a job.
I know I’m probably not the demographic you were referring to, but I’ve actually had comments about how lucky I am to be at home and it’s a very sore spot.
leghairdontcare · 09/12/2019 16:23
I'm not working at the moment. I do appreciate it's a good position to be in. After numerous redundancies, I decided to organise our finances so we would never be dependent on two incomes. So the impact of that is a smaller house than we could technically afford etc.
I am enjoying not working but it's not a long term thing. I enjoy working too and am looking at retraining next year.
ButterflyBook · 09/12/2019 16:27
I was a sahm and know people who are but none of us by choice. Some can't afford childcare, in my case sn daughter for whom care was simply complicated and not available. I don't think I know any sahm who are living in the lap of luxury. For most it's a stretch.
crispysausagerolls · 09/12/2019 16:31
I am lucky enough not to work and stay at home with my son, as DH is a high earner. I feel extremely grateful for this every day, and try very hard not to take it for granted. I do find that I am quite sensitive of how others perceive this set up though, and sometimes when friends are struggling I feel that they don’t necessarily want my input because they think I couldn’t understand/are annoyed that I don’t have the same problems. Could be all in my head though!
Ilikewinter · 09/12/2019 16:34
Ive worked full time since leaving school at 16 and always thought id love being off work, however I work with quite a few people who could technically retire but they all choose to work, part time though, to keep themselves occupied and worry that they would waste away sat at home!
If I could afford it..when i win the lottery...i want to spend time socialising potential puppy guide dogs, or volunteering at animal rehoming centres
Nextphonewontbesamsung · 09/12/2019 16:34
Yabu. Millions of people love their jobs and get a great deal of satisfaction from doing them. But the next person who says they couldn't be a sahp because they need to "use their brain" gets a poke in the eye from me ... I'm hardpressed to think of a more brainless worn-out trope.
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