To feel uncomfortable at dh's porn preferences

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Name change for obvious reasons So been with DH 6 years 2 children. We have an average sex life maybe once a week as children are so young and I know DH watches porn always has done which I have no problem with.

I recently discovered on dh's Reddit that he has been viewing tons of transgender porn. Maybe 80% that and 20% normal porn.

I have no problem with that it itself as people have prefences and He told me about it off his own back, I asked him if he could be bisexual and he got very defensive and said that he wasn't and wasn't going to watch it again which i said was up to him.

He was recently showing me something on his phone and closed the app and there was tons and tons of trans porn again in his files dating from the same day. I just brushed it off again but it makes me feel uneasy. I don't care if he's bisexual but the defensiveness and saying he wouldn't do anything makes me feel a bit weird about the whole thing.

@NotTonightJosepheen so don't 🤷🏼‍♀️

Welk on reddit they seem to think OP is a man who is looking for reassurance that they aren't homosexual for wanking off to dick on dick porn.

DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM GET RID OF HIM. Try and find a proper man who knows what real sex is about. I wouldn't be able to look at a man who looks at that kind of stuff. Sorry it's discussing. Look from the outher way! I am a female who has looked at porn ie BIG D! €#$ as that is what I imagine so he must like the idea. I would get him gone.

I would have a problem if my DH sat around wanking to porn daily. I would have a much bigger problem if it were some bizarre fetish porn, like this.

I think the fact you started this thread gives you all the answers you need.
It’s irrelevant what we all think you however are clearly not OK with it and you don’t have to be.

Kitty have some and put that gross aberration behind you

I googled why straight men like watching trans porn. So many variations in answers from the alleged straight men that do.

Some say it's because they love a woman's body and curves but also love to look at a penis, so this gives them the best of both worlds.

Some say it is the taboo factor. Thing is tho, the more you watch it the less taboo it becomes and it's a downward spiral.

Some said it was because they like to feel feminine

Some said its because the men/women/trans are so hot / so good looking.

Some said its because they can relate to how a woman feels by watching them

Some because they want to be penetrated by a good looking woman....

Some other vague responses. Some saying it was curiousity. Some saying because 'real' women reject them or have done in the past. Some were secretly gay or Bi.

So OP could be anything. Only he'd know his personal reasons.

I'd be more pissed off that he was sitting about yanking rather than being a better husband TBH. Probably chop his Willy off to give him a better idea of being a female (said in jest before anyone pulls that up). Hope you get some answers.

@NotTonightJosepheen
I'm not sure why you think it's not quite right.

My ex husband had a porn addiction. At first I tried to join in. Then I tolerated it. Then after he physically kicked me out of bed so he could watch it on his own the rot set in. Note the EX bit of ex husband. Porn addiction ruins relationships, I hope this doesn't happen to your marriage but as with drugs, gambling and any other addiction, the obsession comes first over family and friends. The question becomes whether you're willing to sacrifice your own needs and RIGHTS at the expense of an addiction - take it from me it's not worth it. My heart goes out to you

@NotTonightJosepheen you have the patience of a saint. I woud have long given up.

OP, porn is horrible. Read Pornland by Gail Dines or Anti-Porn by Julia Long.
If you have 'no problem' with your husband watching paid rape you deserve him.

I'm going to have a conversation with him this evening

How did it go, OP?

I was thinking about this thread and earlier today. When I first read it I thought my biggest concern would be his frequent wanking to porn downstairs every night. It must be shit lying there knowing what he's up to in another room. But the more I considered the trans content, I realised I would actually be really uneasy about that. Its men having sex with each other, a pair of plastic tits might be involved.. but it's similar to gay porn. So I would be assuming he's interested in men. I also would find the whole thing a massive turn off- not sure i'd want him as a sexual partner at all.

Hope all is okay.