Partner slapped my arse in public during an argument

[bagpuss90]

Firstly I can’t stress enough he isn’t a violent aggressive partner . He has never laid a finger on me . He is very kind and gentle . We had a silly argument when we were out tonight and he slapped my arse . It wasn’t a playful slap -it was more like what we used to give a naughty child. He wasn’t drunk -we’d had a glass of wine each with our meal . I let it go-I was quite shocked tbh but I’m now home sat in bed ( we don’t live together) and I’m thinking he crossed a massive line . I don’t know if anyone else saw him do it. I bloody hope not. The fact it was in public makes it worse .Do I let it go or do I pull him on it big time tomorrow ?

Come on, if it was meant to be jokey, he would have been mortified at having upset her and apologised profusely.

Right. So the key things for me are he’s minimised it, played victim and failed to acknowledge that, whatever his ‘intentions’ were, you just damn didn’t like it. You didn’t like it is the entire point. If one person tells another they felt upset at that person’s behaviour and want it to stop, denying their feelings is a large red flag. I would be thinking carefully if you want a future with him.

He should have apologised, I will agree

I have never heard of a man slapping his wife's bum other than a jokey or sexual way. What makes you think he wasn't joking?

Because they were having an argument. OP said It wasn’t a playful slap -it was more like what we used to give a naughty child.

But you know it wasn’t playful. You’re not going mad. He’s lying to you.

OP please don't go back to him

Op if you find you can't walk away this time, please keep this thread.

I only managed to see what was happening to me by writing it down unemotionally.

I didn't leave many times I should have but once I was prepared to see the truth my notes helped me see the escalation. They also stop me doubting my own mind as I had been conditioned to do over many years.

Keep this thread and your eyes wide open.
Watch your interactions and hold your own space.

@bagpuss90 ((((((Big Hugs)))) how has this week been ?🌸🌼🌺😥🖖