My cousin is naming her DD the same name as my DDs

[hedgehug]

My cousin has accounced the name she has chosen for her daughter who was born earlier thid week. This name is exactly the same as my daughter's only different spelling, one letter difference, same pronunciation. It's not a very popular name but not unusual either. I just find it really odd that she would use the same name, no one in our family shares a name, we all have very different names and I think it will be really confusing. We spend a lot of time together as a family, our children spend a lot of time together, I'm just really confused as to why she would pick the same name. WIBU to talk to her about it?

That's just weird MrsFox did both Steven's know each other as brothers growing up,? my mum had a step.brother "Dave " and brother "Dave" but they were all adults when my Grandma married my ( step ) Grandad so it wasent intentional it did cause some confusion though they spoke about our " Dave" as you never knew which our Dave" it was !

Irish here too. You cant turn around in my family without running into a Tom, Tommy, Thomas. More than one in each generation. You get used to it.

@x2boys they knew of each other, the dad slept around a lot and had a lot of kids.

We had a name lined up for our son and for reasons that I can't remember or for the life of me understand dh shared this with his mother. She pursed her lips and tut tutted because this was the name that some very remote cousin of dh's had given to his child (dh didn't even know). By the time our child was born we had changed our minds anyway and he got the name also used by a cousin of mine about 8 years earlier. Luckily no one in my family got an attack of the vapours about it.

I would be flattered that she liked the name so much

Of course yanbu- it would have been courteous of her to let you know before announcing it.

Out of interest @Amiable - why would it flatter you? It’s not like you are the creator of the name so what’s to be flattered about?

Also Irish... Roberts rule the roost in my family, and dh's cousin named her ds the same name as our ds. (Mine is distinguished by the Robert as his middle name).
Dh's aunt had a set of kids named after her siblings but when she had her last baby she chose an original name, her mother was disgusted.

It is odd.

@Gingernaut people dont do this any more. This'd be considered strange in Ireland. It is not like naming the second daughter after the maternal grandmother. Those days are gone.

@Jellybeansincognito. Names have close associations with personalities for me - for instance there are a few names I would ever have used for my kids due to them being the bullies at school. I would (arrogantly!) assume they like my child if they used the same name! 😁

That should say NEVER have used!

Gingernut so have I. Four cousins with the same name. None of the cousins used the "family" names but my daughter has called her first born one of them.

I don't see the problem, my DB will be calling one of his daughters the same name as my DD. It wasn't going to stop him using a name him and his partner both love. And I don't care either that they'll share it. If anything, they'll probably grow up pretending to be the same person for laughs

So will your parents have two grandchildren of the same name??

My half brother has two half sisters of the same name :)

Turn the situation around and be flattered that someone thinks you have great taste in names.

Depends on how different the one letter makes the names.

Eve and Eva are different names.
Ava and Ada are different names
Jean and Joan are different names

Congratulate your cousin on her excellent taste.

Two of my cousins used some of my children's names. I felt oddly pleased.

Is it Megan and Meghan?
My daughter is Megan and her cousin was named Meghan a month later, not bothered me one bit.

You need to get over yourself....

It's just a name I don't really see the issue especially since you called your daughter this 11 years ago.. me and my brother (1 year age gap) both loved the name Bella for a girl and neither of us was going to budge on it so would of just ended up with the same name 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 luckily I've got another name chose now but I don't really see the issue unless it was someone you hated!

Bet odd I don’t like to repeat names but take it as a compliment.

I have exactly the same name as a cousin - there are some family names which we've all had over the last two centuries or so. It's no big deal - we both rather like it, actually!

Culture I married into meant every cousin, many of them, had a pool of just three names. I was the only one to buck trend. It’s quite confusing when trying to identify who you’re referring to!

DH's sister did this with a cousin of theirs - identifical forename and middle name, spellings and all - and I remember thinking this odd at the time. That aside, what good would talking to her achieve? It's not as though this could lead to any constructive end: the baby is already named and no one is going to rename her in retrospect. Also, the baton will shift from them as sad-sacks to you as territorial aggressor. In short, you'd be wasting good energy as you can't win.

All they've done is shown themselves up as being just a little bit sad. I'd let it rest there for other people to digest at will.

Oh well you'll just have to call the baby Wee Frunk to avoid confusion.