To think you wouldn't be this irresponsible?

[Jinglebells10]

AIBU to be fuming that a 3 month old baby was left unattended in a room on his own sleeping in a car seat with no monitor? This baby was being babysat by his aunt

I think there are some details lacking. Did the mum bring baby into the house in car seat sleeping and then aunt just out him "out if the way" into the bedroom? Or did mum bring baby in awake in the car seat only for aunt to leave him there, him fall asleep and mum move him in carseat so as not to wake him? Or did mum bring baby in awake only for aunt to put him asleep into the carseat?

This is all quite unclear. Obviously we now know rules about sleeeping in car seats, but unless it was made explicitly clear to aunt that the baby must not sleep in the car seat, you can't really get mad at her.

Everyone makes decisions based on the knowledge they have and then weigh up the risks. Clearly if this aunt is to babysit again your sister needs to be much more explicit about what is safe for her son.

As others have said guidelines change, it's up to the mother to ensure those looking after her child are aware of them and will adhere to them. If they refuse, or she has doubt they will adhere to them then she needs to make sure she finds alternative care.

@BestOption

No, I haven't had a baby in the last decade.
May I ask why a bay would be safer in a cot in the parents room when the parents are sound asleep all night as opposed to in a cot in his/her own room next door if the parents are regularly checking on him?

Also (and I may have picked up the tone in your post wrongly as it's difficult to gauge by just reading text) but you sounded a little condescending in your reply to me. I would hope that I've picked that up wrong?

Total over reaction.
Do parents sit awake by babies bed all night watching it.....though not.

mlou32

The research suggests babies 6 months and under are less likely to die of SIDS if sleeping in the same room as their parents. No one is sure why, possibly because hearing the parents breathing reduces chance that baby will stop breathing.

Oh my, far too uptight. YABU.

Fgs, it's not like she left him on the hard-shoulder of the M1!
And it could quite easily be the case that the aunt didn't hear what might have been a soft tap on a door knocker but would have nonetheless heard a baby yelling.

Nothing to see hear, folks.

To think my grandmother used to leave all her babies in their prams out in the garden square, 5 storeys below!

I think OP disappeared as soon as people picked up that a sleepyhead was being used and put their foot in it

How long was baby left with aunt?
What if he/she needed breastfeeding?
Surely all the guidelines say you should breastfeed?

I'd be fine with this but would definitely be "fuming" with you for putting my baby in a car seat on the sofa. I'd say it's worse if you're awake next to it - you're more likely to move and make it topple.

@Quaffy thank you.