Fucking winter

[Blindspot82]

AIBU or is it just shit for six months of the year from Oct to March? Kids perpetually ill. Grumpy husband who doesn't want to spend a dime and gets crap presents on the cheap which no-body likes. Cold and rain, no fucking money and bloody Christmas to get through with annoying relatives who you have to be polite to. Everyone at work seems to want to do even more as soon as the winter strikes, no-one's got any positive energy to do it. The constant cycle of D&V, heavy colds and tonsillitis, constantly surrounded by screaming children. IT SUCKS!!!!!! Can't go out anywhere cos one of the kids is ALWAYS vomiting. And the weather's absolutely SHITE. I think humans should just go into a state of hibernation for this part of the year. AIBU?

YANBU. I would cope better if it was properly cold. Cold, crisp, frosty is fine. This eternal damp and half dark is awful and so bad for you.

YANBU. We go away to a non-Christian country for Christmas/New Year every year and skip presents, tree buying, big dinner, everything. That solves at least two of your problems. I prefer to go away at Christmas instead of the summer and get some vit D to tide us all over.

Illness and grumpiness around you will make you feel it’s all a hard slog.
Hopefully the illness won’t last long but don’t stand for any shit from your dh. What’s his problem?

Make sure your kids wash their hands as soon as they come in from anywhere.
Try some vit d and multi vits for yourself and dh. Eat healthy food and just go out somewhere every weekend.
It’s fine to have a rant but to write off 6 months of the year isn’t going to help. Change your mindset and have some things to look forwards to.

I'm with you OP - I fucking hate winter. Dark, gloomy, wet, grey - bleugh! I wish we could live somewhere else that is sunny from Oct-Mar. I'd happily skip Christmas, but with DC it's just too mean to do that, so we keep it as low key as possible and then go away for New Year so we can forget all about it. This horrible grey drizzly weather though makes me want to slit my wrists.

I understand where you're coming from but I absolutely adore autumn. Beautiful colours, cosy evenings, woolly hats and cuddling up under a blanket on a Sunday afternoon watching a shit film!

This year has been much more miserable than normal.

This autumn has been amazing imo,the colours of the trees have been incredible.

Sorry you've all been ill

I prefer it but I’m a home bird who loves cosy days/nights in reading my books or watching films. I work from home too so I don’t have to venture out much in the cold and rain.
I’m deathly pale and really struggle in the heat. I also sleep better in the winter as need total darkness.
That being said, if I do have to spend much time outside in this weather then it can be miserable.

I hate the January-March period as it always feels like such a nothing and it's so cold and dark. I always try and plan nice things to do in those months (go to the theatre, some nice days out etc.) I feel like I spend more money in winter as in summer you can just hang out in the park or at the beach and do nothing and it's nice.

Your mindset...

Sorry to hear you've all been ill, we had similar, but it's an awful large chunk of the year to be writing off.

It's the damp and dark I can't stand. Last Monday here was gorgeous, bright, frosty, you could see your breath, lovely. Today it's damp, misty, and generally depressing.

I wish winter was over in March! It's more like May here.. November and early December are the worst, before the snow comes. It gets so much lighter once the snow is here for real - although admittedly not seeing the sun during the work week for a few months is hard.

I do like bright, crisp winter days though. Nothing quite like it when the sun is out and the snow is lovely. It's the ice I can't stand, like walking on a wet ice rink 24/7. Still, hopefully this winter will have more sunny days, less yoyo-ing of the temperature above and below zero (less ice that way) and better snow than last year. Then I'll enjoy it!

I love this time of the year but prefer cold and sunny to damp.

I get where you’re coming from. I really do. Winter is a difficult time for me, mentally.
But this year I’m trying my hardest to adopt a more positive mindset and turn my thoughts inward to home, family and more self care. A sort of hibernation, without the extra sleep.
It’s also a good excuse to practise saying ‘no’ to people. No, I won’t be volunteering to bake cakes for the Christmas fayre. No, I don’t fancy going out on a school mums night out.
I’m reading more, cooking more, playing with the kids more, spending dedicated time with DH, sprucing up the house.
I’m not trying to preach at you OP, just offering a different perspective.
And I hope you feel better soon. 🤞

Winter doesn't start until 21 December. We're a month away still.

Damp and foggy is the worst. Winter would be okay if it was just cold and crisp - I love bright winter sun. But constantly feeling soggy is horrible

I must be a freak because I love it. Really dislike summer it's just too bright and heat above 20* makes me grumpy and short tempered.

I'm a complete home bird though.

Winter doesn't start until 21 December I enjoy pulling out that line (and the spring one) just to bother my friend when March 21st rolls around and we're still a couple of meters deep in snow with temperatures of minus 12. She doesn't find it nearly as amusing :o

This autumn has been amazing imo, the colours of the trees have been incredible.

Not where I live. Half the county has been under water for weeks. The relentless rain and dark, gloomy days has been utterly depressing.
Today's forecast - rain
Tomorrow - rain
Wednesday - rain
Tgursday - rain

I have the right weather gear for rain, but it's the relentlessness of it and the low light levels which really affect my mood

Ginfordinner it's been wet to say the least where I am too but the leaves are still an incredible colour.

I'm with the OP. Winter is shit.

I'm waiting for all the winter and autumn lovers to come on here and tell us that we are being unreasonable

Agreed 100%

Can't stand any of it, though as previous people have said, cold and bright would be fine, dark, grey, wet and miserable does my head in.

And all the nonsense, Halloween, Bonfire night, Christmas that starts in October

Would be more than happy to hibernate October - March and wouldn't feel like I'd missed anything

I fucking detest Winter, I have two chronic illnesses that are made worse by the cold and damp and I spend most of the time on the sofa.

We disappear up to the Lakes for New Year to a cottage with an open fire, lovely views and it does make me feel a bit better. Sitting and booking flights to sunnier climes always lifts my spirits too.

Come and join us on the Chat board talking about how the dark nights affect our mental health.

Everyone has this romanticised idea of winter with crisp days and long country walks. The reality is grey, more grey and drizzle. And the fact it gets dark SO early.

Really hate all the nonsense too about cosy, hygge, snuggling under blankets and "hot choc". People who hate winter aren't complaining about cold. We're smart enough to work out to put the heating on, or wear socks and a jumper. Nothing anyone can do about the lack of daylight.

However, when we get past the Solstice on 22nd December it starts getting lighter again and that makes January and February an absolute pleasure.

Winter doesn't start until 21 December. We're a month away still.

Meteorological winter is 1st Dec to 28th Feb.