Fucking winter

[Blindspot82]

AIBU or is it just shit for six months of the year from Oct to March? Kids perpetually ill. Grumpy husband who doesn't want to spend a dime and gets crap presents on the cheap which no-body likes. Cold and rain, no fucking money and bloody Christmas to get through with annoying relatives who you have to be polite to. Everyone at work seems to want to do even more as soon as the winter strikes, no-one's got any positive energy to do it. The constant cycle of D&V, heavy colds and tonsillitis, constantly surrounded by screaming children. IT SUCKS!!!!!! Can't go out anywhere cos one of the kids is ALWAYS vomiting. And the weather's absolutely SHITE. I think humans should just go into a state of hibernation for this part of the year. AIBU?

I second that @NegroniOnIce I’m two weeks into a cold and still feeling shit, and I was saying this morning that I think it’s this damp oppressive weather and lack of sunlight!! It has literally just rained here since the end of September!

Agree with you OP I hate it and find oct - march harder and harder to endure every year. I swear even our dog has SAD, it's his first winter and he just looks at me in disbelief / outrage when we are outside 😂

It's been fucking horrible, wet and dingy since August when the fucking rain started dripping through the roof and the middle of my freshly painted door frame.

I go to an outdoor fitness class, have done for years. We're pretty hardy, and I've never known so many classes cancelled due to torrential rain or the park being a lake. A nearby parkrun has been submerged for 6 weeks.

It's felt like a crap immitation of daylight between 11-2:30 before creeping back to night again. We've got a month left of shortening days. I've already had lights on continually for weeks.

I can't let the kids out into the swamp garden. The lawn is only a footstep away from being pulverised into a clay pit, and now will be until March, as it's not draining anýwhere and not evaporating either.

The kids were getting ill by the end of September as it was that damp/ wet and gloomy. Getting out is an ordeal. By the time I've layered up for the weather and got out of the house, I'm a sweaty, stinking mess.

I'm no lover of dingy weather at the best of times, but it's been dragging on since the "summer" and we still haven't got to winter, and even Radio 2 has started sneaking in fucking Christmas songs in bloody November

Sod "hot choc" and blankets, wake me up when the daffodils come out.

The best weather we've had all year was February half term!

Love love love winter!!! Wish it were fall and winter year round!

Do you mean an idealised view of winter or this shit weather we are having now Shoot?

People don't think things through, do they?

All the wittering on about crisp days, crunching in leaves, frosty sunshine and twinkling fairylights. That's not the UK. That's some Hollywood version of a British winter.

We normally get dark, damp and grey. It is VERY dark in Glasgow this morning and it's probably going to be one of those days where it never gets properly light.

All the wittering on about crisp days, crunching in leaves, frosty sunshine and twinkling fairylights.

I love days like that. However, they are few and far between, scattered amongst a lot of damp, grey darkness.

Every time I've squelched through the leaves this year I think of the MNers who waxed lyrical about the joys of autumn and winter on the "I Hate Summer" threads!

Soft autumn sunlight filtering through the mist and golden leaves. Gorgeous.
Fresh virgin snow waiting for the first footprint. Gorgeous. Sunshine glittering off a hoare frost. Gorgeous.

Reality:
Months and months of trudging through slimy claggy leaves. Not gorgous. Treading through concealed dog shit. Not gorgeous. Trousers splatted with mud splashes up your legs after every time you walk out of the house. Not gorgous. Floodlighting the house like a football stadium to pretend there is light. Not gorgeous. Shutting the curtains at 4pm after conceding that daylight has totally conked out for the day, then realising it's 6 hours before you respectably go to bed, and the children still have silly hour to go through because they've been pent up all day and there's only so much fun to be had on drizzly, twighlight mud walks, and forget going to the windswept joyless clay pit that is otherwise known as "the park". Not gorgeous.

Autumn can be the most beautiful time of year... this one has been like a dementor.

You're not being unreasonable at all, OP. I hate winter too, and the older I get, the harder it is to cope. The cold and damp is the worst, especially as I have Arthritis that seems to get worse, then the endlessly long and dark nights. Ugh. I also suffer with anxiety and worry about my husband out driving when its snowy & icy. Roll on Springtime, my fellow winter-haters.

It just goes to show how important our environment is to our wellbeing.
We can’t do anything about the weather but getting out for a walk as often as possible can help for a dose of light and fresh air.
Most parks have pavements so it’s fine to walk on even with soggy leaves.
It’s not the best but we need to work with what we have.

I usually don't mind it too much, but I'm struggling this year. If I could stay inside with the baby it would be fine, but I'm surrounded by people who think a baby shouldn't stop you doing anything, so there are all these expectations to go here and do this, and I just can't be bothered,it's rained constantly for weeks and I can't remember the last time I saw the sun

Horrible. Going to work in the dark and going home in the dark is the worst. I was staring out my window at 3:30 yesterday, feeling myself get grumpy about how dark it was getting already alongside pissing rain and had to walk the dog in the pitch black at 5pm.
Hate rain, snow & cold. Hate driving in snow.
I also have Raynauds which makes cold weather even worse for my poor hands, touching my cold steering wheel sets it straight off.
I do like Christmas though. Not the spending a fortune part but the general festive spirit I love. But everything else can piss off.

I’ve found my tribe.

This for me is the hardest time. The nights are noticeably shortening. The Christmas madness is starting. The weather is deteriorating.

However

To get through this time of year my milestones are:

18 December - usually the end of all the crummy Christmas shit like the office party, Christmas jumper day, enforced carolling and nursery/school gubbins

22 December - shortest day. So the days just lengthen from then

25 December - Christmas itself. I really enjoy Christmas Day. Hate the 8 week long build up.

31 December - Hogmanay. Nice to have a party platter form Iceland and some Cava

1 January - Thank fuck that’s over and we can look forward and stop “reflecting” now.

I swear one day i will find a way to 100% remote work and be loaded and decamp the family to Ibiza or the Maldives or something from 1 Nov - 1 Feb.

How sad you've had a bad time with ill health. It's sad you cant get out in the countryside and experience the different seasons in all their beauty, I am sure if you could things would feel better for all.

Maybe you suffer from SAD and maybe one of those lights might help?

I have a theory that the winter lovers/summer haters

1. Live in a stuffy flat in London with no outside space
2. Don’t have children
3. Can afford to heat their home comfortably in winter
4. Own a tumble dryer
5. Don’t live in an area prone to flooding
6. Don’t live in an area that gets badly affected by snow
7. Don’t drive to and from work in the dark in awful weather in winter

Yes to all except the first.

I love summer and winter though. Summer for the long days, winter for the chance to wear winter clothes and for Christmas.

I was ok with it pre-children.
Now it is impossible to think about how to get enough exercise.
All the playgrounds soaked.
It amazes me that in this country none of them are covered.
We go to the park for a bit but that is not enough for daily outings.
Libraries and children centres closing here left and right.
So we have to go to soft play and catch all the winter bugs because we can’t be playing at home all week.

Also there will always be someone smug saying it’s not the weather it’s the wrong clothes. That is rubbish. We are fully kitted out with waterproofs and it is still miserable. Children have a different sort of look in the summer. They just look healthier and happier. When my daughter returns from nursery at the moment, she just wants to sit and watch tv. In the summer, she comes back and runs around the garden.

Another winter hater here! Like others have said, it is the perpetual darkness which gets me. I hate the long, long nights, especially if you don't feel well and somehow the darkness makes it worse. I also detest hot chocolate and never watch films, and cannot imagine ever 'snuggling' on the sofa under a blanket? Just why? If you are cold, put on another jumper!

I waited all day to take the dog for a walk yesterday, but the rain only relented just before 4, so had to take her out in the dark. Not pleasant!

About the only things I like about winter are snow, on the rare occasions we get some, and lighting the wood burner in the evening.

It's so odd not being able to feel why people hate winter and I know it's a failing in me to be thinking "Oh for goodness sake pull yourselves together".

The crunchy mornings, the puffs of breath, even when it's raining, the trees are happy and reservoirs are being replenished. Walks on the hills in the wind and rain invigorating ... I just love the changing seasons. I guess if I was in a big city and didnt get the chance to experience the changes ... or if I had arthritis and was affected by the damp, or suffered from SAD, I would be able to understand.

I’m in London and the change in seasons is still lovely. I have to go to a park pretty much every day and they are beautiful. I think having to walk outside helps my mood.

@MarshaBradyo

I’m in London and the change in seasons is still lovely. I have to go to a park pretty much every day and they are beautiful. I think having to walk outside helps my mood.

I'm also in London.

I walk at least 1.5 hours outside every day, a big part of that across a nature reserve.

It is not 'lovely' or 'beautiful'. It's wet, dirty, muddy, grey, windy, dark, soulless and depressing.

Please stop with these ridiculous patronising trite recommendations, as if none of us have ever had the idea of going outside. It's the fact that being outside is shit that makes all of this so awful.