Fucking winter

[Blindspot82]

AIBU or is it just shit for six months of the year from Oct to March? Kids perpetually ill. Grumpy husband who doesn't want to spend a dime and gets crap presents on the cheap which no-body likes. Cold and rain, no fucking money and bloody Christmas to get through with annoying relatives who you have to be polite to. Everyone at work seems to want to do even more as soon as the winter strikes, no-one's got any positive energy to do it. The constant cycle of D&V, heavy colds and tonsillitis, constantly surrounded by screaming children. IT SUCKS!!!!!! Can't go out anywhere cos one of the kids is ALWAYS vomiting. And the weather's absolutely SHITE. I think humans should just go into a state of hibernation for this part of the year. AIBU?

This is what I plan to do once we're retired and the DC have moved out: www.amazon.co.uk/Escaping-Winter-About-Spending-Abroad-ebook/dp/B005JDTKYK/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=escaping+the+winter&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1574770726&sr=8-2

My DSis' depression always hits in the spring - I've never understood why either @Ylfa

Well, I'm looking on the bright side.
The weather is brilliant for the time of year. I'm not polite to relatives I can't stand.
Christmas is what you make it, but unfortunately not much you can do about getting ill, other than eating and sleeping well.

Is it something to do with circadian rhythms? I think there’s a slight seasonal component to my bipolar disorder but like others I work very hard at finding the beauty in the colder months.

I love autumn and winter! Both very beautiful seasons, especially the colours of the leaves and toadstools. Make sure you always get a walk in on your lunch break during winter to get some fresh air and daylight. I love wrapping up warm and walking the dog in the winter, there are less people around so it’s really peaceful. I love taking my toddler to the park, there are less children getting under your feet and fighting over the equipment. You can get home and have a nice warm soup or roast dinner followed by a big sticky toffee pudding with custard. Really warm and tasty comfort food. I don’t drink tea or coffee but I do enjoy a hot chocolate on a chilly day. I love dressing up and socialising for Halloween (this year we went to see pumpkin illuminations) then the wonderful colours of bonfire night. Wrapping up warm and meeting friends. Then the lead up to Christmas with the festive cheer and wonderful food. Everyone wants to meet up for food or drinks in cosy pubs with open fires! My home has more cosy winter decor rather than light and summery so I adore my home in the autumn & winter! So beautiful and cosy, especially when the Christmas decorations are up too! Even more magical. (They are already up because I love them so much). I love seeing all my family and friends over Christmas and new year, seeing the new year in with those you love. I love the mulled wine and great films and television shows that air around this time. My home town has a special game we play for two days in feb/March which I love to follow, it’s great community spirit. Then before long it’s spring and Easter again. I get fed up in summer because I get too hot and bothered. I feel snappy in summer. I don’t sleep well because it’s light, I don’t feel like I ever rest because it’s daylight so we should be doing something productive or fun. I’m pale so can’t sit out in it without being greased up with sun cream. Everyone always comments on how pale I am even though I’d get skin cancer before I’d ever get a tan. I’m happy with my pale skin, why does it bother everyone so much? At least in winter you can come home, have your dinner then a nice hot bath, get your pjs on and snuggle on the sofa or in bed and rest.

Found my tribe.

Am still drying my clothes on radiators here in work. Lost count of the amount of times I've been saturated on my commute via public transport & walking. Can't even get out for walks at lunchtime or at weekends.

To those to hate summer, I just don't get how this can be better than a bright sunny day.

And to the person who suggested that us winter haters must be outdoorsy people, nah I hate camping and the like, but I do love to sit in my garden in the sunshine, if that counts :-)

It's the dark evenings that I find annoying - so restrictive. Can only run in well lit areas and don't like driving in the dark so have to find routes that have as many street lights as possible or failing that, decent cats' eyes.

I quite like it, and I love Christmas. We get colds in the winter in my house, but never vomiting bugs. I literally cannot remember the last time any of us had sickness - certainly years rather than months ago. OP.

I do love Christmas though, mainly because of the holidays and being able to stay in bed longer during the crap weather.

I'm the other way around, I dislike April - October and much prefer the winter, even the wind and snow.

I have a medical condition where I overheat stupidly all year round, even if only wearing a tshirt and coat in winter. It's awful and attracts me looks in shops as I look suspicious to be bright red and sweating when it's low single figure degrees C outside and I'm not wearing much more than a hoody/thick cardigan over a top.

At least in Winter it's more bearable when outside in the open though my body does compensate even more against the heating etc in shops and I get even hotter in shops and come outside to cool off.

Once stood outside when it was snowing and i was literally steaming I was that hot

@Cheeseywish
At least in winter you can come home, have your dinner then a nice hot bath, get your pjs on and snuggle on the sofa or in bed and rest.

You can also do this in summer. Nothing is stopping you.

Whereas for those of us who prefer not to spend our lives eating or 'snuggling on the sofa', we can't do the things we want to do.

@Igotmylipstickon

being able to stay in bed longer during the crap weather.

Good weather doesn't stop you staying in bed.

Crap weather stops you going out.

They are not equivalent.

I don't want to spend my life in bed or on the sofa. I will be a long enough time dead.

Its not officially winter for four more days!

Winters have been relatively mild in recent years apart from the odd short very cold snap. I'm in England and am used to rain, it doesn't bother me as long as not too heavy or cold, I quite like a shower.

We had a fabulously hot summer - most of the time. I have to tell you I went to a funeral in mid August and it poured with rain, nobody had anticipated that because it had been so warm but on that occasion the heavens opened and the cemetary was unbelievably muddy!

I have a friend who loses energy and feels depressed when it's dull so I do understand how people feel, and sympathise. Personally weather doesn't bother me, I like different seasons, enjoy dark early evenings and feeling cosy indoors but my friend is really affected by dreary days. I don't know what she can do about it.

Those who live close to the arctic circle have very long periods of darkness and apparently it is known that people become quiet and depressed at those times.

@Slumberly
My point is that Christmas = time off = not having to go out into the crap weather in the early mornings. Therefore I like Christmas.

I feel quite fortunate because this isn’t really the winter experience I generally have. I have four DC and touch wood, we’ve only had a couple of bouts of D&V since they were born. Tonsillitis has never happened so generally it’s just colds during winter which everyone survives.

I love Christmas and I’m not a fan of hot weather so quite enjoy the colder climate.

YABU even though the cold is making my joints scream this is my favourite time of year...apart from Christmas. If we could delete Christmas and just have autumn and winter I'd be beyond content.

November on the other hand can fuck off. Everything's drying. It's grey, and just keeps getting darker and darker.

Totally agree with this. Ghastly, pointless month.

The problem is when it’s so crappy now, you know that Christmas brings some fun and twinkly lights and then bang. January is even worse and most people don’t have any money to do fun things and are on some form of healthy living kick. I don’t mind feb because it is a short month and the flowers start coming out so you know spring is coming. January can sod right off though.

But this year I’m trying my hardest to adopt a more positive mindset and turn my thoughts inward to home, family and more self care. A sort of hibernation, without the extra sleep.
It’s also a good excuse to practise saying ‘no’ to people. No, I won’t be volunteering to bake cakes for the Christmas fayre. No, I don’t fancy going out on a school mums night out

Absolutely this.

I think at this time of year we can feel so pressured and in previous years I haven't enjoyed Christmas because I've been run ragged trying to keep everyone else happy. This year I'll be saying 'no' more too and looking after myself and my little family.

@Slumberly I still walk and go to the park in winter, it doesn’t stop me doing anything (but it stops everyone else so you don’t get the horrible hoards of people like during the summer). I still go out and meet with friends in the evening and I still go out and meet with friends during the day. Summer is too hot and too busy, so over rated. You can’t snuggle on the sofa or in bed because you are too busy melting from the humid British summer. I don’t want anyone near me in summer. It’s too sweaty. Perhaps I’d like the summer more if the world wasn’t so overpopulated.

We've been decimated by illness (4yo reception age child is currently on her 9th not consecutive day of illness since early Sept) and the weather has been shit but it is what you make it.

Sounds like your moody, stingy "D"H is a massive issue??

In the nicest way possible Cheesy, please fuck off with the snuggling shite.

Yes cheesey. You win the award for the most mentions of ‘cosy’ in your first post. Then you bring out the snuggling crap.

The park was empty today as I ran through yes. No children playing on the equipment because it was too wet and slippy. It was quite desolate. I’d much prefer a few more people out enjoying themselves and being able to entertain their kids rather than spreading germs in soft play.

Well aren’t you all delightful!

It has rained here all day. Not just slight drizzle, full on rain for all daylight hours.

Now according to some posters I should have wrapped myself up in wellies and waterproofs and headed off to contemplate how many shades of grey I could find. But seriously. Who does that? Who goes out for a nice walk in the pouring rain unless they have to?

And in the summer, if it stops raining at 7pm, it's still light enough to go out for a walk then. In winter, you'd need a head torch as it's so dark. There's no pleasure in it at all.

This is what winds me up about people who complain about light nights or warmer weather in July/August. They get two months, absolute maximum, of the weather which they struggle with. And not every year - this August was dismal.

But we get dark, wet, grey EVERY YEAR, for about 5 months.