Fucking winter

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AIBU or is it just shit for six months of the year from Oct to March? Kids perpetually ill. Grumpy husband who doesn't want to spend a dime and gets crap presents on the cheap which no-body likes. Cold and rain, no fucking money and bloody Christmas to get through with annoying relatives who you have to be polite to. Everyone at work seems to want to do even more as soon as the winter strikes, no-one's got any positive energy to do it. The constant cycle of D&V, heavy colds and tonsillitis, constantly surrounded by screaming children. IT SUCKS!!!!!! Can't go out anywhere cos one of the kids is ALWAYS vomiting. And the weather's absolutely SHITE. I think humans should just go into a state of hibernation for this part of the year. AIBU?

I totally get it OP! We’ve now lived in the U.K. for 12 years after coming from the Southern Hemisphere. We are emigrating in two weeks (!!!) and going to live in Australia. I am so excited!!! We’ve had nothing but rain for the last three weeks, and yes, there is so much about the exquisite UK I will miss, but I just cannot bloody wait to live in a country with warmth for 8-9 months of the year!
I hate the long winters here (although will miss winter dressing-coats and boots!)

Luckily I like all seasons - I'm much more uncomfortable in summer, but I like the long days and barbecues and blue skies. I like autumn/winter and the build up to Christmas - I feel much more comfortable when it's cold and I love Christmas so it's great for me. And yes you can have a hot bath and 'snuggle' on the sofa in summer but who wants to?! For me personally there's so much more joy in doing it in winter.
However I do understand why people get so miserable during winter. This endless rain is grim and I understand about daylight, even if it doesn't personally affect me. I wonder if it would make a difference if we had a guaranteed 4/5 months of hot/warm weather in the summer? With only a few warm days scattered here and there I totally get why people are miserable come winter.

I think it would make a difference. If we had a lovely spring (I love spring) a warm and mainly dry summer (with some rain). Then it wouldn’t be quite so depressing. When you have to put your heating on in August that makes for a long winter.

The sun is shining today!!!!!!!

Only 22 more days and it starts getting lighter as the days get longer.

Ahh space that has perked me up!

And it’s a beautiful sunny day here too, finally!

Positives of winter:

No hay fever
No wasps
No flies
No sweat
No heat rash
No chub rub
No pressure to be out ‘making the most of it!’
No waking up at 4am due to sunlight
No FOMO
No streaming nose and itchy eyes

I love all the different seasons

Delatron it is here too but it's freezing cold. We can't have everything though can we?

It is very bright and sunny here this morning but freezing cold. I don't mind days like this. I can get out in the morning for a walk, drink in the sunshine and not need to use my light box. BUT. These days are few and far between.

The default setting for a Scottish winter is grey, damp and dark. If we could guarantee that 3 days out of 4 would be bright, cold and sunny we'd be laughing. But we can't. And yes it's very depressing.

I still think a lot of posters just have no comprehension of how seriously it affects our mental health. Why is it OK to tell people to think of the positives or pull themselves together - if they went on a thread about post natal depression to say the same things they'd be slaughtered.

It is lovely today just what I was wanting

Pineapple when people post their positives do you think that they mean you should see it as a positive too? Or just that they’re responding to a thread’s question with no implication of what others should do and think

Btw I do commiserate with Scottish winter I can understand it’s hard

English winters are the reason we take our summer holidays in October, December and March..abroad.
In fact I need to stop mnetting and go and pack..and maybe get out for an hour
This is the first sun we’ve seen in over a week

I go to Tenerife in March, October and December..and I can’t help thinking of all those lovely blue skies they’ve had over there while I’ve been at home, with my loads of layers, arctic parka or cancelling days out as it’s just too miserable to bother.
Dh says you can’t miss what you can’t have.
Who said?

We had the flight from hell on our last trip home in October. Worst turbulence I’ve ever experienced. The pilot had to drop altitude and the plane felt it was being ripped about by giant hands..my anxiety was off the wall.
I can’t believe I put myself through that scenario again..that’s how bad the desire to get into the light and sunshine is.

Dowser, as soon as my kids are old enough to be left I will be booking holidays in November! I work remotely and can access work from anywhere in the world... I would so love to be sitting on a balcony in the Canaries right now.

TheYear you clearly have very valid reasons for not enjoying summer. Some of the negatives are beyond your control and there's not much you can do about it.

I get FOMO at Christmas and new year, as we have a very small family and live miles away from them. And as DD is a student there is no lead up to Christmas with lots of activities.

Roll on spring.

I hate people moaning about the weather

Have you read the fucking thread???? Nobody's moaning.

Off you pop to the post natal depression board or mental health board and tell them to stop moaning too.

I think it would be helpful for those who are seriously affected by the winter to post a similar thread under the MH section for support as AIBU basically asks the posters if 'they are being unreasonable' hence some pp are answering that exact question.
This thread has reminded me why I have to think very carefully about what I say to my siblings when having any type of conversation with them (two suffer from paranoia and one has bipolar disorder).

I just saw a thread re winter asking explicitly that people not post positive messages. It is a support thread for lots by the looks of it.

Ah ok thanks for that info Marsha.

I thought it had SAD in the title but can’t find it now annoyingly, will link if it goes past

Yabu
Lovely bright sunny cold and crisp winter days, autumn leaves , Christmas, snow, log fires, bonfire night , there lots of good things about winter !

Hiding this thread now. People simply appear to be unable to read most of it.

A common theme to those who hate summer and love winter is the ‘no pressure to go out and do stuff’.
It’s different personalities/ activity levels I guess but that doesn’t resonate with me at all.
I love the opportunity to go out in summer, especially in the evenings.

Maybe it’s inactive, lazy people who like winter so they can lie on the sofa for 6 months and not feel guiltily about it.

*Positives of winter:

No hay fever
No wasps
No flies
No sweat
No heat rash
No chub rub
No pressure to be out ‘making the most of it!’
No waking up at 4am due to sunlight
No FOMO
No streaming nose and itchy eyes*

I don’t suffer from any of the above which is just a list of negative stuff about summer.

I don’t suffer from any of the above.

I haven’t got MH issues I just am in so much physical pain as soon as the winter starts coming.

I do think the people who do love winter are those that don’t want to do anything.

As opposed to the ones who love the summer feel they miss doing stuff because of it going dark at 4pm