Not much you can do really @Yellowpansy234 As a number of posters have said, your DP has made it clear he is never getting married, and that is that really. It's up to you if you stay with him. As a pp has said, he has you where he wants you, supporting him, and he has a kid with you. Why does he need to get married? It's not going to benefit him. Some men don't do anything unless there's something in it for them.
I actually know a number of women in the same situation. Two women I know were both with a man for 5 to 6 years, and both men didn't want to commit but she did. The relationships ended (one he finished it, and the other, SHE did.) Within a year and a half, both men had met and married someone else. So as a few people have said, it's not that they didn't want to get married; they just didn't want to get married to those 2 particular women.
I am at a loss as to why a woman chooses to have a baby with a man who refuses to get married (when she wants to get married,) and I do wonder if they do it in the hope he will change his mind and get married.
I also find it very odd that a man will not commit to marriage, but will have kids with a woman! Why is that? Is it her who wants a baby more? Does she accidentally fall pregnant in the hope he will marry her? I just ask that because I struggle to fathom why a man won't get married to a woman, but he is prepared to have children with her.
I also know a young woman right now, who has been with her partner for eight years (both 28 now,) and they are in the same position now that they were ten months after they met. Still renting a house, (despite being on £100K a year between them,) not even engaged, and no wedding date on the horizon.
'So what?' you may say. but SHE wanted to buy a property with him, and get married, and have a baby by the age of 30! (Not a chance of that happening now!) He just keeps saying 'in time, in time.......' and 'everything comes to those who wait.' So fucking patronising and minimising.
The amount of money they have wasted on their £700 a month rental home in the last 7 years is sickening, when you think they could have been paying that off a mortgage. Where they live, you can get a 3 bed semi with a drive and garage in a nice area for £150K.
I feel so sorry for her, and think she is going to be deeply regretful to have wasted all these years (the best years of her youth/twenties) on this man who is CLEARLY never going to commit.
Thing is, he is never saying NO to her, but he is just stringing her along, dragging his feet, and frankly pissing her about. He has no intention of committing and everyone can see it but her.
She has seen multiple women she knows (several cousins of hers AND his, several close friends, and several workmates,) all meet a man, get engaged, and get married ALL in the time she has known her partner. And some of them have bought a house. While she is still in the position she was when they started dating at the age of 20. Their relationship has barely moved on an inch.
I don't know why women put up with this, and tolerate men who won't commit (when they want to.) Sadly, some women settle for second best just so they are not alone. Maybe rude to say that, but it's true.