Vegetarians shouldn't have to buy meat?

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So a relative of mine is getting married next year and her and her partner went vegetarian a few years ago for many reasons, one being they didn't want to contribute to the meat industry. They have decided at the wedding to have the meal completely vegetarian. I think this is fine and for one meal people can deal without meat- I do get that some people struggle without it but I think for the sake of one meal at someone else's wedding, you'd just deal with it. What I think is harsh, a few other family members are constantly telling her they should have a meat option and making her feel bad about their decision.

Aibu to think they shouldn't have to have meat at their wedding when one of the main reasons they gave it up was to do with not wanting to contribute to the industry?

Agreed. It's sickening that people feel the need to have meat at every meal. If they want to miss out on the wedding for that reason then they shouldn't be there in the first place

Absolutely agreed. The family need to grow up

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Pretty alarming that a) people go without meat for one day and that b) they feel entitled to say so.

They definitely shouldn’t have to. But honestly, it depends how many guests are going to make a thing of this and how badly they want to therefore avoid a legion of po-faces. Every vegetarian or vegan wedding I’ve been to, a proportion of the guests have made yuck gestures at the meal and remember it after as “Tom and Sarah’s wedding where we had to eat that boaksome mushroom risotto / spinach flan / lentil medley” and it’s overshadowed the day in some cases. People can be total idiots, but if you’re inviting said total idiots to your event you sort of need to mitigate their capacity for performing total idiocy which spoils it.

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vegetarian food is fine for a big occasion whyever not?

I do eat meat but its there day and would be more than happy with a vegetarian dish. Its something they fundamentally disagree with no serve vegetarian and let family moan.

Use this as a way to weed out the family members who are arses, uninvite them, they will be offended and you need have nothing more to do with them. Win:win.

It’s one fucking meal. They should grow up.

Nothing wrong with a vegetarian wedding.

There are a few key meals where I would be unhappy with a vegetarian menu, but that has to do with holidays and family traditions.

Agreed. I spent some time in a country where it is normal to eat dogs. How would (meat-eating) people feel if guests were demanding dog on the menu?

My best friend is having a vegetarian wedding. A few members of the families have kicked up a fuss. She and the groom have responded by saying they’ve spent most of their lives having to eat whatever the one vegetarian option happens to be and that, on their wedding day, they’re going to be the ones who get a choice and aren’t the minority.

It would depend on the meal itself as to if it’s an issue rather than it purely being veggie. I wouldn’t verbalise any issues though. Too polite.

They are vegetarian and it is there wedding if they don,t want meat they shouldn,t have to provide it.

I’m PMSL at the idea that anyone “struggles” to have a meal without meat.
Prefer meat, yes.
Struggles without it? Wankers.

Most people who insist on meat with every meal will happily eat beans or eggs on toast or a jacket and cheese without batting an eyelid. Sometimes it's best not to actually mention it's veggie/vegan

I'm an omnivore. As long as there is food, I'm happy.

I'd probably draw the line at cats and dogs though.

Depends. No fucking devils vomitus. Also known as mushrooms.

We had a veggie wedding and everybody said how good the food was. (To our faces anyway). It was a bit controversial for DH family, but they wouldn’t be so cheeky as to complain about it.

We had a vegetarian wedding. No one died. We had a couple of moans beforehand but ignored them - as a PP said, the vegetarians had spent many weddings putting up with only having one usually crap option so fair's fair.

It's one bloody meal, I'm sure they can cope for one meal without stuffing their faces with a dead animal, it's ridiculous!

I am precisely on the fence.
Not for me but... I gather food is important to many people.
They won't enjoy the meal without meat.
So they won't enjoy the entire party.
They feel just as strongly about this as the animal rightists feel meat is wrong.

midge has hit on the answer: feed the moaners beans on toast.

I'm guessing they will go to a lot of trouble to get really yummy food, rather than the typical "boaksome" option referred to upthread. The reason they end up boaksome is because theyre chosen by non-vegetarians (who won't be eating them on the day) from a menu prepared by chefs who're not vegetarian (and only treat it as an afterthought). I say that having been the vegetarian guest at many weddings.

(This reminds me of some of the whingeing friends of mine had when their reception was "dry": they were Quakers, it was in the Meeting House and some people still couldn't cope for one evening.)

The family members making a fuss should STFU. You don't get to dictate the catering at someone else's wedding.

As long as everyone gets fed and the caterers are competent enough to provide a decent quality celebration meal, what's the problem? A lot of people wouldn't even notice that the food was vegetarian, it's just food.

Better than being given the choice of some boring chicken dish or an unspecified vegetarian option where you can play 'guess whether it will be goats cheese tart or mushroom risotto'. Or processed pork 5 ways if it's a buffet of ham sandwiches, sausage rolls, sausages, pork pie and scotch eggs.

It’s one meal so it’s not unreasonable.. they’re not making everyone come to a vegan island for 6weeks to convert them.

But I’d also say some people might struggle depending on the veggie option.. a vegetarian lasagne would probably go down better than shallot tarte with goats cheese or something equally not ah that’ll taste/look like xyz. Assuming no one has serious food issues too..

Impossible burgers could be a sneaky middle ground. Tell the moaners they’re burgers. Again providing no allergies.