Friend taking illness again, after being told I'm on the 2 week pathway

[Lumpybumps1]

I have a friend of several years who has form for fabricating illness, twice she has been caught out feigning cancer symptoms and fabricating appointments and diagnosises before back tracking after questions are asked and making miraculous recoveries claiming the doctors had got it wrong. I stuck by her despite having strong opinions on her behaviour because I suspect there may be an underlying MH problem, I don't know. Members of her family have caught her out before.

This week I've been referred urgently on the 2 week pathway for a scan and further investigation, In my case they are looking for lymphoma. I have a thread in health and have been receiving some fab support (thank you all)

This friend now knows about my investigations and is suddenly "being admitted into hospital" tomorrow despite there being nothing wrong with her. No mention of bad health this year until my doctor has concerns about me, now suddenly she's at deaths door again. Lung cancer this time. (Another friend who lives closer to her than I do has confirmed there's nothing wrong, perfectly healthy as usual)

I'm deeply hurt that she's doing this again, and doing it off the back of my legitimate health problems.

I want to say something but I'm not confrontational. Would you say anything?

I'm wishing I cut her off before, but it feels so personal and heartless now as she knows what I'm going through.

I'm going to block her. What an insidious nasty liar

I'm pretty sure I remember your thread when postpartum and the nasty messages about borrowing money.

Yup she's nasty and selfish. You will feel huge relief and getting rid of her out of your life.

I have a friend who does this. After waiting ages I have finally been sent for tests and lo and behold, she suddenly has a worse version and has a referral already.

I agree with not feeding the trolls by the way, but just to show you all how full of crap she is.

For the purpose of the thread see attached images

Hi random, yes that is me

It's probably still floating about on here somewhere if I didn't have it pulled. I can't quite remember

Oh OP, I wish you all the very best with your health. As for the lying cow of a 'friend' I would respond 'I simply cannot take another word of your fabricated lies. Sepsis is a 999. I will post the gifts back' and block and focus on you. You must be already very drained and this is manipulative to the extreme. Wishing you a very speedy recovery and healthy 2020

I think you need to stop feeding her behaviour.

Send one more message saying "I wish you well. As you know, I'm currently going through some serious health issues. I'm going to be unavailable for the time being, so that I can concentrate on recovery."

Then please block her.

Sending you good wishes.

I'd send her that NHS link posted upthread for fabricated illness syndrome and text 'Hmm it really doesn't sound like sepsis then. Could it be this maybe?' and then fucking block the nasty cow.

Actually I just clicked it and fabricated illness refers to children (the by proxy one) - this is the oine that's relevant to her:

www.nhs.uk/conditions/munchausens-syndrome/

I remember your previous thread. I’d do exactly what @FizzyGreenWater suggests above.

I would tell her your doctor friend is with you and she called an ambulance. She will be on the phone with the paramedics.

I don't usually play along with her lies, I wanted to show you lot here the extent of it so did so only for the purpose of the screenshots.

This is the end for the friendship this time, I refuse to have my loyalty exploited and abused any longer.

Here is the metro article that was published after my thread about her if anybody is interested, just found it with a quick Google

www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2019/05/08/woman-who-almost-died-in-childbirth-asks-if-a-friend-badgering-her-for-money-is-being-unreasonable-9450806/amp/

I've been a mug giving her the time of day.

I don’t understand why you don’t just say “I know you’re lying and I find it despicable. Get some help but do not contact me again. I will return the presents” then block.

That's what I planned to do Free, I was in two minds as to whether or not to bother so had a vent here to see what others would do if It were them

I wouldn't engage any further block her on everything return the presents and stop giving her head space!

* No mention of bad health this year until my doctor has concerns about me, now suddenly she's at deaths door again.*

So she’s gone through pretty much the whole of 2019 without claiming to be ill?

Yes that's the plan for the presents, I'm going to have them sent back tomorrow

Not as such lovemenorca, I should have worded that differently. There's been some one-up manship in the weeks leading up to my referral as she knew I wasn't well but no outright declarations of terminal / life threatening declarations until now.

For example

Her "Hello how are you today"

Me "I'm not too bad, feeling a bit crappy but getting out and about"

Her "I know what you mean, I feel sooo drained lately i don't know what's wrong with me"

Just be straight.

"I know you are lying. What a nasty things to do given my current situation. Do not contact me again."

Then block her.

Hi Lumpy,

You are right that it sounds like she has Munchausen's syndrome. I think you should call her up on it and mention that you know that she's looking for sympathy but this isn't the right way to do it and that she should seek therapy.

You could mention how this whole thing makes you feel (e.g. like she's playing on your real illness rather than being there for you) and explain why the friendship is ending. She needs something to highlight to her that her addiction to feigning illness is pathological and that she needs help.

I remember your thread about her asking for money!

Fucking hell, what an utterly screwed up woman. I agree, block her and send the gifts back. She's despicable.

I remember your previous thread and I'm gobsmacked you didn't cut her dead after the last shenanigans.

As for sepsis, that is an awful lying thing to say. My DC's friend was admitted last Wednesday (after symptoms that came about only 12 hours previously. He ran a half marathon the weekend before and was very fit and well). He died the early hours of Saturday morning. Absolutely shocking.
Tell her that. Call her out and block her for good.

Why indulge this woman?? I could not have anything to do with a person like this.

What a shit friend.

When you’re over this you’ll be glad it gave you the strength to ditch her. Good luck OP

I remember reading your other thread OP and thinking then that she's no friend.

Surround yourself with the good people who treat you with care and respect - I think you should call her out on using such a despicable lie when you were so ill yourself, and tell her that you're past being able to be friends. And send the gifts back, then block.

Your life will be better for it and wishing you well.

Order her a copy of the story 'The Boy Who Cried Wolf'.