To shave down there for my partners sake

[Loneranger14]

I used to always fully shave down there but now been mid 30s and 4 DC later I go all natural, my OH told me last night to shave downstairs I carnt even go to the toilet without having 1 of my DC clinging to my leg never mind a bit of me time, he said he doesn't like it and wants me to shave but to be honest I really don't care and haven't got time and it doesn't bother me. So I guess my question is aibu to not give in to his request

Why has this post turned into people shaming those who decide to share? saying ‘real women have public hair. Christ

Perhaps back then people didn't know what they were missing [shaved pubes] @JAPAB Ah so you are one of the younger generation who think you invented the best sex ever? Maybe roll that one by the Rolling Stones and men of that era. There is actually evidence that hair down there adds to sensation rather than the opposite- was in a science feature online only a weak or so ago.

It's not about shaming women who choose to shave. Do whatever the hell you want. But I'm all for shaming men who believe that women should conform to their pornified standards.

It’s not “shaming” girls and women who shave pubic hair to object to the (new) high social pressure to do so.

It is shaming to tell them they look like prepubescent girls...

Or by making it about internal misogonism when it should be about choice and personal freedom. I dont really want feminists telling me how i should self groom in order to be a proper woman anymore than i want a man to.

If this is just an aesthetics request then just tell him to bore off. If however it is something more, like it will help with your sex life then you just need to decide if it is worth it.

It is my experience that with shaved areas there is less chance of a pissy taste getting into the mouth during oral sex. Even a good old wipe and splash will often not remove the last traces of piss from your pubic hair and as such oral sex can become a slightly different experience. For this reason I have in the past asked my partners to shave or trim their pubic hair.

For people to think this is about porn or children, I'd say that it is your minds in the gutters, OP never mentioned why he made the request so to jump to these conclusions is a reflection on yourselves or your own relationships not on OPs situation.

I don't think it matters how one likes to keep their vulva groomed.
No need for judgement.
I think it is generational. When I was in my late teens early 20's it was the vertical moustache look.
No smart phones so not based off the constant streaming of phones.
Some brave woman ripped it off. It is matter of preference really.
Though I do believe most guys of a certain ages would be horrified at a full bush.
It is like everything it is what you are used too.

much prefer men without beards. I hate kissing them touching them the lot, just yuck. The hair gets in the way

Doesn't mean I'm into prepubescent boys
♥️ this post.
Very accurate.

no. you are mid 30's, not a prepubescent school girl!!

Somehow I can't visualise them sat in their pyramids glued to Pornhub.

Slightly off topic but aren't pyramids tombs? So it's unlikely they'd be sat in them doing anything.

Has op disappeared?

Asking is v different from telling.

Also is this shaving a precursor to extensive, enthusiastic, skilled oral sex - where he wants you to have maximum sensation, if so ... Maybe. If not, hmm. Tidy up should be ok for both sexes (?)

You say he 'told' you, but then change it to a 'request'. 🤷
It's your pubic hair; do with it as you please. If you have always shaved, then maybe it's just what he's used to? I loathe my pubic hair, so shave it, but it's not on any partner's account.
Maybe your other half could shave his dickish ego and support you, rather than try to change you?

I'd be asking him why he wants you to look like a prepubescent girl. Alarm bells there. Adult women have public hair.

Alternately I'd say to him I'll shave as long as he shaves his pubic hair off. See if he is still keen on it then.

Tell him yes, provided:

1. He gives you a half-day off every week without being responsible for the kids (so you've time to shave etc.)
2. He shaves down there too (fairs fair)

Id love to see the sources of that article.... the STD one for example, what was the sample groups used, im also reminded of the phrase correlation does not mean causation. Also how we use the information If i got yeast infections etc i be tempted to see if going natural made a difference, but shaved or hairy ive never had any.

It also has those sweeping statements.... better for sensation... better for smell... better for who? If shaving is not better for you, should someone telling you it is alter what you do?

Again if we are moving feminism forward shpuld newspaper articles be telling us how to have are pubic hair anymore than our partners and our own preferences.

I would really want to know why he wanted my genitals to look like a childs?
Pubes have a protective function and are NORMAL. Shaving is ridiculous and unhealthy. Men who like the look are unhealthy mentally.
How many women insist that men shave their genitals?

I'd be asking him why he wants you to look like a prepubescent girl. Alarm bells there. Adult women have public hair.

This one doesn't and I can't remember being mistaken for prepubescent girl, ever.

Maybe my well defined hip to waist ratio and generous bust gives the game away.

Yanbu, it's you're body, it's perfectly reasonable to refuse.
I suppose if he's used to.you shaving and it's a recent change I can see why he might mention it but it's your decision. I think it's odd grown men don't like grown women to have pubic hair, makes me a bit uneasy. Does he shave his pubic hair? Maybe you should ask him to!

I don't mind a hairy ball. It's a bit like a kiwi fruit.

I wouldn't shave just for my partner. No way.

Your pussy, your choice