Is anyone BU here over childcare?

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Mil, 2 sons and 2 dils....

Dil A has recently had her first child with son A. Son A has 3 dc, all in their teens, from first marriage.

Dil B has recently had 2 dc with son B.

Mil provides childcare for son b and Dil b.

On being asked by son a and dil a for childcare, mil has said she can only offer one day a week and gives it to son b’s dc as she has given time, money, effort etc to son a’s first 3 children and it is now son b’s turn to benefit. Son a and Dil feel this is favouritism and their child is being treated unfairly.

Dil b has a lot of support from her family whilst dil a does not, if that’s relevant.

Relationships are now souring.

Is anyone bu?

@Hithere2
Reminds me of my autistic 16 year old. 'It doesn't work that way '
Er, yeah, it works whatever way those involved say it does.

I think it's incredibly rude and selfish having a child and expecting free childcare without even consulting the person you're expecting in provide it in the planning stage.
If you're planning a child you need to factor in the costs without expecting to make use of other people. If they are prepared to help, that's for them to offer and should be seen as a kind and generous gift, not an entitlement.

If Mil is looking after son B 2 children, she will be getting older and may find that a handful in itself, without having son A child too.