What I wanted to say, what I actually said...

[YouthGoneMild]

As I’ve got older I’ve got better at biting my tongue, but sometimes what I wanted to say (versus what I actually said) bubbles angrily in me and today is one of those days!

So feel free to join me in letting out that you actually wanted to say and what you actually said. I guess this is lighthearted, so don’t go too deep, ok?

I’ll go first before I exploded:

What I said “I’m sure the school are trying their hardest and the staff are very stretched”

What I wanted to say “Your sense of entitlement makes me want to scream. I’m sure the teacher has better things to worry about than one sodding missing Smiggle pen and you’re a total knob for trying to speak to the Head about it!!!”’

What I said: “Yes, I guess it is our turn to go to your Father’s for Christmas as we’ve not spent it with him for 5 years”.

What I wanted to say “I’d rather eat Xmas
dinner at McDonalds than sit in the company of that drunken, arrogant snob. At least there no one will get so drunk that they wet themselves” (past Xmas nightmare visit)

Ooooh that felt good!!

What I said- nothing.

What I wanted to say "no its not ok you're missing my mothers birthday meal on Saturday night when my family are down from Scotland. You can tell work you're not available. This was already planned and booked. Your mother is babysitting so we can go!! You know I'm not feeling good this week. Why can't you put me first!! Its a fucking factory not as if you're performing life saving surgery!!!!"

To the two men who stepped in front of me as I got to the front of the queue while we were waiting in church to see the priest to book baptism dates. I was holding a wriggling, grumpy toddler and they had been waiting directly behind me for about five minutes.
What I said (in a very passive aggressive tone) "Oh, okay. I thought I was first. It's fine. You go ahead. "
What I should have said " What exactly do you think you are doing? I am clearly not stood here for the good of my health. You wouldn't try this nonsense if I was a man so you sure as hell shouldn't try it with me."
Fortunately the snide comment did the trick but saying this would have been much more satisfying.

What I said:

"Ok read me the letter that explains why your landlord wants to evict you"

"Ok I'll come round and we'll fix those problems before the next inspection"

What I wanted to say:

"Are you fucking kidding me? You knew for a week they were coming and did FUCK ALL, and now you are calling me? What do you want me to say? Poor you?"

As you were. That feels a bit better .

@FlatheadScrewdriver if they were using the bank switching service then you should have been informed by them. I switched a couple of months ago and they did it all.

@Sexnotgender ahhh I feel ya and your thundercunt of a FIL - I have one of those too

What I should have said "I feel Im too young to make this decision, I have more to me than settling for you. Sorry, but Im bailing"

What I actually said "I do"

What I said: “Thank you, but I better not. Early start tomorrow”

What I wanted to say: “After all the shit you’ve said to me, I think I’ll pass 🖕🏼”

Stbx’s ex wife invited me to hers for a drink. I’m remaining civil, but I have no interest in creating some fake friendship with her.

What I should’ve said:
No I don’t have time to meet you at the moment, I’m already so busy and so tired, and you always bully me into meeting you when it’s convenient for you regardless of whether it suits me at all, it makes me want to meet you even less.

What I actually said:
Sure, how about 7pm

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Thank you Fantababy

there is a kid in my DS’s class who comes into our town from the next town by bus for school & leaves the same way every day. Ds & her kid are friends. She has time to kill each day between pick ups/drop offs & bus times. She thinks our house is a fucking charity drop in centre where my DP (SAHD) is her personal crèche provider, ciggie provider, breakfast chef, meal provider, coffee maker (you get the idea). She’s not invited, just gatecrashes (which upsets DP & DS’s routine). She never remembers her purse, has blagged DP for lends, we feed her kids, clean their shoes, dry them out because she “doesn’t do umbrellas” and end up taking charge of them on the school run. She’s obvs got a thing for DP as she shows how unhappy she is when I arrive home from work - to MY HOUSE. She is due to start work soon & doesn’t want to pay for childcare. She’s asked my DP to look after said kid for 2 hours after school every day. DP, taken aback and put on the spot said he’d have to discuss it with me. He wanted me to say on here (as he liked this thread) he wished he’d said “Are you fucking kidding me? You gatecrash our house whenever you fucking feel like it, treat me as the paid help, blag me for everything going, have no respect for boundaries and are now expecting me to be your unpaid nanny AND then expect Toftyac to chauffeur you home? Fuck the fuckity fuck off and carry on fucking off you Absolute CF”. Needless to say, we’re not quite sure how we had this leech latch on. DP has tried everything including talking to her quite bluntly and giving her the cold shoulder but she keeps on blagging it. More front than Brighton. We are on the verge of being incredibly rude to her, but are reluctant to because we’ve seen her twist it to the rest of the playground mafia, we’ll be the bad guys & DS is just starting to make friends, so don’t want to rock the boat for his sake. Sigh.... should have put this on a CF thread really......

What I said:

'Of course, I know you want to be here'

What I wanted to say:

'I cant believe that you still think i cant see right through your attempts to "play the game" in order to get yourself out of here and honestly im just annoyed that in order to get you to leave i have to help you instead of chucking you out of the fucking window'

@ToftyAC Do start a thread, why on Earth have neither of you, who don't seem to like her, told her to take a flying fucking hike?

@VanyaHargreeves
I should. Personally, I don’t see her that much and I’ve said to DP I’ll get fucking rid, but DP wants to handle it himself - and his reasoning really is our DS and “let’s get to know the other reception parents so they know us, before the CF can twist things & make us look bad and the other parents won’t let their DCs play with our DS”. I’ll give him his due, at school kicking out time recently, he did shout across the other parents to remind her she owed him money.... he said you could hear a pin drop with interest (including the teachers) whilst she went white. Didn’t stop her turning up at bloody 8:15 the next morning 🤦🏼‍♀️

What I said, in response to "So, do you work, or are you at home all day?"
Yes, I'm at home all day. Every day. Running our company. Running a 5 bedroom house. Bringing up 3 children under the age of 8. Attending a college course. Attending various school events. Teaching 3 children how to be fairly decent people with reading and other basic educational needs. Teaching a husband the same. Transporting children to various points of the globe for football, scouts, etc. Transporting a bloke backwards and forwards to the station. Bulk shopping. Bulk cooking. Cleaning. Washing and ironing for 5 people. OH! And slightly busy being a Town Councillor.
What I wanted to say:
Yes.
What a grubby little oik. I was asked this question by A) A female or B) A Male ?

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I’m sorry you’ve got one too @MrsBadcrumble123
Thankfully mine is 6000 miles away and needs a visa to visit us
I just need to read the PA messages on the family group chat. He’s not welcome in our house.

@Sexnotgender lucky you!! Mine is 10 minutes away and seems to command the family my DH included - frustrating and infuriating

@ToftyAC the word you are looking for is simply ‘NO’
That’s it, nothing else just ‘NO’

@MrsBadcrumble123 DP has said he needs to man up. Strange really as he doesn’t usually give a shit who he upsets. But because it may have repercussions for our youngest he hasn’t wanted to. However, it’s stressing him out so he’s now going to deal with it properly. (Fingers crossed) 🤞🏻

Yip, 6000 miles is more than close enough. Recently spent a month in his company while MIL was dying and he still managed to make it all about him.

When MIL needed to go to A&E (10 days post brain surgery and feeling very unwell), his response was “but I’m in the middle of my breakfast”.

He is a hateful human being.

You should get trees like mine for your hedge said by mother in law , I said I don't know what those trees look like I'll have to look at them . What I wanted to say was fuck no , stop trying to take over my garden

To my sister at our recently family dinner. When she overheard me telling our brother my son had moved in with his long term boyfriend.

What I said was 'oh that's old news now'

What I wanted to say ' Well, seeing as how up to now all you have said about my son has been homophobic, you do not get to ask me anything about him again.'

I take some small comfort in the fact my remark was at least a little bit cutting....

And to her husband who came in for a hug goodbye to me at the end of the night

What I said was ' bye'

What I wanted to say was ' I clearly say you approach and stepped backwards, with my hand held up. On what level did you think you could touch me? Get your fucking hands off me ...'

What I wanted to say: ok fair enough . . Subject change

What I actually said: oh you poor thing then what happened?

This to a friend who overdramatises everything and can't tell u anything in short form. When it comes to her I always end up feeling worse after talking to her than before Cos she tells me everything when really I don't need the stress. But I'm stupid enough to ask her what happened whenever she does a post on social media that's cryptic lol

To my boss this morning when he left a bucket load of sweets in the kitchen

What I said - is this you clearing out your kids halloween shite on us

What I should have said - Oh thanks so much for the lovely sweets [grin}

Meeting at work: "Can we run through those figures again?"

What I wanted to say: "I feel the need to confess that I had too much cheese for lunch, I've eaten a lot of cheese and my brain is running on cheese right now. I'm pretty much made of cheese"